Depression....anxiety

[anonymous]

Ever since we found out that Brian had cancer (the same week that one of my best friends ever died of cancer) I've been having such a hard time emotionally and mentally. I haven't really had time to mourn my friend and that's hard. I'm also incredibly frustrated with where I am in my love life. I have always wanted a family and I'm afraid that if I wait too long it won't be possible. Don't get me wrong, Brian is wonderful and I love him so much but I feel like our life together has been put on hold because of the cancer. I just want some normalcy back. Before the cancer he had brought up marriage and kids a few times but not since. He also won't really talk about the cancer much with me.

I really feel like my life is on hold because I've been so focussed on him.

 

[anonymous]

I am not an authority on this so I did some research. I hope this helps a little bit. Much love to you and I want to say for you to hang in there he really needs a friend right now. Keep venting about your concerns and frustrations it will help you .


<a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://uimc.discoveryhospital.com
">http://uimc.discoveryhospital.com
</a><a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.cancer.gov
">http://www.cancer.gov
</a><a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.cancercompass.com
">http://www.cancercompass.com
</a><a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.cancer.ca
">http://www.cancer.ca
</a><a target=_blank class=ftalternatingbarlinklarge href="http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Aboutcancer
">http://www.cancerbackup.org.uk/Aboutcancer
</a>
All the best to you and Brian
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JohnnaMarie

 

[JohnnaMarie]

I hope that little bit of research helps you. I was not sure what to say to you. You need another friend to lean on right now, so that Brian can lean on you. I hope that these sites help you to know that you are not alone and that you can get through this.

Much Love and Best Wishes to you!!

 

[anonymous]

Thanks for the info. I haven't been able to find a cancer forum that I like. They just don't compair to this one for support. I'm thinking of seeing a therapist. It isn't just the cancer that has me so down, that's just the icing on the cake.

 

[littledebbie]

Ugh if I might guess a little at what part of your feeling is? (obviously not all)

It's hard when you are with someone you like but you feel like your time schedule is a little faster then the average persons. However, you don't feel like it's fair to rush them but on the other hand for you "time's a wastin" and when they have very legitimate reasons why they can't move forward, you feel like a horrid person for wishing things were otherwise and wondering if this is the right path for you. And then you think, even if I found someone else who was miraculously as great I still have to start from the begininng investing time together to hopefully get to the place where we take this to the next level, and if it doesn't work out then what have I done?

Okay, now I need a drink, i probably just totally projected onto you! Anyway if I came close to any of your feelings i am just trying to let you know, if you have these thoughts you're not alone. If you want an ear my PM is open and my e-mail is listed. *Hug* if you feel none of these things then i am "all by myslef....don't want to be all by myself...anymore" oh come on you know you guys know this song...it's my theme music.....

Why is this one big paragraph? It wasn't when i typed it and it's not when i see it in edit mode? help what is littledummy doing wrong now?