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anonymous

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I was wondering if anyone else has experienced the same problem as I have & here it is:

I don't just go up to everyone & tell them that I have CF, maybe that's the problem.

Anyway, it seems that I'll meet people, form a pretty close friendship, tell them of my CF, and then gradually they pull away until there is no contact.
Has this happened to anyone else & why do you think this is happening??? It gets frustrating & makes me want to not tell anyone about my CF.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-disgusted.gif" border="0">
 

anonymous

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How old are you? Where are you making these friends? Might be better able to give advice if I knew a little more about you?
If you are real young, it could be that your friends are immature. If you are older, it could be one of those things where people just get swept away in the hectic schedule of their lives. Give us an example if you could <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

ButtonNO1

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I SO USED TO HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM AS YOU I HAD FRINEDS WHO WOULD NOT UNDERSTAND WHY I COUGHED ALL THE TIME WHY I WAS SO THIN . BUT NOW I AM VERY BLESSED WITH MY FRIENDS NOW THEY ARE AMAZING THEY LOOK AFTER ME WHEN I GO OUT AND ONE OF MY FRIENDS WAS STUDYING CF AT COLLEGE AND SHE WOULD COME TO ME AND ASK ME ALL QUESTIONS ON IT AND I WAS PLEASED THAT SHE CAME AND ASKED ME IT WAS GOOD TO BE ABLE TO HELP HER . MY OTHER FRIEND MAKES ME LAUGH WHEN I COUGH SHE ALWAYS SAYS COUGH IT UP AND WE BOTH START TO LAUGH . THEY ALWAYS VISIT ME IN HOSPITAL ALWAYS THEY ARE GREAT . JUST EXPLAIN THAT YOU HAVE CF AND THAT IT IS NOT ANYTHING ANYONE CAN CATCH COS I USED TO HAVE PEOPLE SAY THAT TO ME .AND GOOD LUCK BUT KEEP YOUR CHIN UP BEST WISHES FROM JO
P.S IF YOU NEED TO CHAT EMAIL ME AT ButtonNO1@aol.com<img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">
 

anonymous

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OK, I'm in my late 30's and have a child & am involved in the school PTA. Anyway, through school, I've met & befriended a few moms that I have gotten close to and it seems shortly after I tell them of my CF that they gradually fade away.
One example: There is another mom that I would email almost daily, talk to when I ran into her at school, etc. She led me to believe that she would be there if I ever needed anything. Well....when I got a diagnosis of MRSA, I called her & got rather emotional (crying) on the phone w/ her. Needless to say, that's one of the last times she's made contact w/ me and it may be the hectic lifestyle she has like someone mentioned above, but this isn't the first time this has happened. Maybe I'm paranoid, but I am sure others have distanced themselves from me too. Maybe I'm a downer to talk to? I may be just in a mood lately and that's why this is bothering me. I was just wondering if anyone else has had the same experience. Thanks for the responses.
 
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