family not caring

[Skye]

i don't really have anyone i can go to on this.....i thought this would be a good place. Am I being too sensitive? I have had some really good things happen in the last year and I keep a caringbridge site. Family and friends are connected to the site. We live far from home now and my siblings all have family and kids of their own.....so life is busy for everyone. Anyway, I don't post very often on the site; but, my last two posts have been very good news and good stuff in my life. My one sister e-mailed and was very happy for me; but, I get very few posts. When I talk to family they don't mention or even ask how things are going.....except my Dad. He will ask but never posts on the site.

Am I too self-centered? Is the site not very user friendly? Do you think people read the posts and maybe tend not to sign the guestbook? I just feel like, for the first time in my life I put myself out there cuz we were going through some tough stuff (ie possible tx) and I wanted family to know, and I may have been better off just keeping things to myself.

I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself; but, I know you all know how this feels.

 

[Skye]

i don't really have anyone i can go to on this.....i thought this would be a good place. Am I being too sensitive? I have had some really good things happen in the last year and I keep a caringbridge site. Family and friends are connected to the site. We live far from home now and my siblings all have family and kids of their own.....so life is busy for everyone. Anyway, I don't post very often on the site; but, my last two posts have been very good news and good stuff in my life. My one sister e-mailed and was very happy for me; but, I get very few posts. When I talk to family they don't mention or even ask how things are going.....except my Dad. He will ask but never posts on the site.

Am I too self-centered? Is the site not very user friendly? Do you think people read the posts and maybe tend not to sign the guestbook? I just feel like, for the first time in my life I put myself out there cuz we were going through some tough stuff (ie possible tx) and I wanted family to know, and I may have been better off just keeping things to myself.

I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself; but, I know you all know how this feels.

 

[Skye]

i don't really have anyone i can go to on this.....i thought this would be a good place. Am I being too sensitive? I have had some really good things happen in the last year and I keep a caringbridge site. Family and friends are connected to the site. We live far from home now and my siblings all have family and kids of their own.....so life is busy for everyone. Anyway, I don't post very often on the site; but, my last two posts have been very good news and good stuff in my life. My one sister e-mailed and was very happy for me; but, I get very few posts. When I talk to family they don't mention or even ask how things are going.....except my Dad. He will ask but never posts on the site.

Am I too self-centered? Is the site not very user friendly? Do you think people read the posts and maybe tend not to sign the guestbook? I just feel like, for the first time in my life I put myself out there cuz we were going through some tough stuff (ie possible tx) and I wanted family to know, and I may have been better off just keeping things to myself.

I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself; but, I know you all know how this feels.

 

[Skye]

i don't really have anyone i can go to on this.....i thought this would be a good place. Am I being too sensitive? I have had some really good things happen in the last year and I keep a caringbridge site. Family and friends are connected to the site. We live far from home now and my siblings all have family and kids of their own.....so life is busy for everyone. Anyway, I don't post very often on the site; but, my last two posts have been very good news and good stuff in my life. My one sister e-mailed and was very happy for me; but, I get very few posts. When I talk to family they don't mention or even ask how things are going.....except my Dad. He will ask but never posts on the site.

Am I too self-centered? Is the site not very user friendly? Do you think people read the posts and maybe tend not to sign the guestbook? I just feel like, for the first time in my life I put myself out there cuz we were going through some tough stuff (ie possible tx) and I wanted family to know, and I may have been better off just keeping things to myself.

I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself; but, I know you all know how this feels.

 

[Skye]

i don't really have anyone i can go to on this.....i thought this would be a good place. Am I being too sensitive? I have had some really good things happen in the last year and I keep a caringbridge site. Family and friends are connected to the site. We live far from home now and my siblings all have family and kids of their own.....so life is busy for everyone. Anyway, I don't post very often on the site; but, my last two posts have been very good news and good stuff in my life. My one sister e-mailed and was very happy for me; but, I get very few posts. When I talk to family they don't mention or even ask how things are going.....except my Dad. He will ask but never posts on the site.
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<br />Am I too self-centered? Is the site not very user friendly? Do you think people read the posts and maybe tend not to sign the guestbook? I just feel like, for the first time in my life I put myself out there cuz we were going through some tough stuff (ie possible tx) and I wanted family to know, and I may have been better off just keeping things to myself.
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<br />I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself; but, I know you all know how this feels.
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[JazzysMom]

I dont think its that your family is uncaring. I just think they get wrapped up in their own lives & as many of our families dont understand what you really deal with.

IF I was to have a site for my family to go to, I guarantee that only my SIL & a few friends would go to it.

Maybe they find the computer too impersonal or maybe they dont understand.....

Dont take it to heart. You have enough to think about!

HUGS

 

[JazzysMom]

I dont think its that your family is uncaring. I just think they get wrapped up in their own lives & as many of our families dont understand what you really deal with.

IF I was to have a site for my family to go to, I guarantee that only my SIL & a few friends would go to it.

Maybe they find the computer too impersonal or maybe they dont understand.....

Dont take it to heart. You have enough to think about!

HUGS

 

[JazzysMom]

I dont think its that your family is uncaring. I just think they get wrapped up in their own lives & as many of our families dont understand what you really deal with.

IF I was to have a site for my family to go to, I guarantee that only my SIL & a few friends would go to it.

Maybe they find the computer too impersonal or maybe they dont understand.....

Dont take it to heart. You have enough to think about!

HUGS

 

[JazzysMom]

I dont think its that your family is uncaring. I just think they get wrapped up in their own lives & as many of our families dont understand what you really deal with.

IF I was to have a site for my family to go to, I guarantee that only my SIL & a few friends would go to it.

Maybe they find the computer too impersonal or maybe they dont understand.....

Dont take it to heart. You have enough to think about!

HUGS

 

[JazzysMom]

I dont think its that your family is uncaring. I just think they get wrapped up in their own lives & as many of our families dont understand what you really deal with.
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<br />IF I was to have a site for my family to go to, I guarantee that only my SIL & a few friends would go to it.
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<br />Maybe they find the computer too impersonal or maybe they dont understand.....
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<br />Dont take it to heart. You have enough to think about!
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<br />HUGS

 

[Ratatosk]

We have a CB page, too that we set up when DS was in the NICU. I update it from time to time because my family is also far away. For the most part, I keep the site for future use. I rarely get comments, but I do know that my parents and some of DH's relatives and some of our friends mention that they check it from time to time because they mention it.

Unfortunately, I think people tend to comment more often when there's bad news. And I think sometimes people get too busy with their own lives and don't take the time to stay in touch with loved ones. I have issues with a sibling who has never met DS, is too busy to return phone calls or emails. I try to just push my feelings to the side about it because otherwise I get way too angry and upset about it and I'd rather focus on the good things in my life.

No, I don't think you're being too sensitive. And it's good to talk about it rather than let these feelings fester inside.

 

[Ratatosk]

We have a CB page, too that we set up when DS was in the NICU. I update it from time to time because my family is also far away. For the most part, I keep the site for future use. I rarely get comments, but I do know that my parents and some of DH's relatives and some of our friends mention that they check it from time to time because they mention it.

Unfortunately, I think people tend to comment more often when there's bad news. And I think sometimes people get too busy with their own lives and don't take the time to stay in touch with loved ones. I have issues with a sibling who has never met DS, is too busy to return phone calls or emails. I try to just push my feelings to the side about it because otherwise I get way too angry and upset about it and I'd rather focus on the good things in my life.

No, I don't think you're being too sensitive. And it's good to talk about it rather than let these feelings fester inside.

 

[Ratatosk]

We have a CB page, too that we set up when DS was in the NICU. I update it from time to time because my family is also far away. For the most part, I keep the site for future use. I rarely get comments, but I do know that my parents and some of DH's relatives and some of our friends mention that they check it from time to time because they mention it.

Unfortunately, I think people tend to comment more often when there's bad news. And I think sometimes people get too busy with their own lives and don't take the time to stay in touch with loved ones. I have issues with a sibling who has never met DS, is too busy to return phone calls or emails. I try to just push my feelings to the side about it because otherwise I get way too angry and upset about it and I'd rather focus on the good things in my life.

No, I don't think you're being too sensitive. And it's good to talk about it rather than let these feelings fester inside.

 

[Ratatosk]

We have a CB page, too that we set up when DS was in the NICU. I update it from time to time because my family is also far away. For the most part, I keep the site for future use. I rarely get comments, but I do know that my parents and some of DH's relatives and some of our friends mention that they check it from time to time because they mention it.

Unfortunately, I think people tend to comment more often when there's bad news. And I think sometimes people get too busy with their own lives and don't take the time to stay in touch with loved ones. I have issues with a sibling who has never met DS, is too busy to return phone calls or emails. I try to just push my feelings to the side about it because otherwise I get way too angry and upset about it and I'd rather focus on the good things in my life.

No, I don't think you're being too sensitive. And it's good to talk about it rather than let these feelings fester inside.

 

[Ratatosk]

We have a CB page, too that we set up when DS was in the NICU. I update it from time to time because my family is also far away. For the most part, I keep the site for future use. I rarely get comments, but I do know that my parents and some of DH's relatives and some of our friends mention that they check it from time to time because they mention it.
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<br />Unfortunately, I think people tend to comment more often when there's bad news. And I think sometimes people get too busy with their own lives and don't take the time to stay in touch with loved ones. I have issues with a sibling who has never met DS, is too busy to return phone calls or emails. I try to just push my feelings to the side about it because otherwise I get way too angry and upset about it and I'd rather focus on the good things in my life.
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<br />No, I don't think you're being too sensitive. And it's good to talk about it rather than let these feelings fester inside.

 

[Buckeye]

I have a CB page for my mother who is in a nursing home due to an Alzheimer-like dementia and I find that people rarely sign the guestbook. Our family is spread all over the country and I thought it would be a good way to keep all my brothers, sisters and her grandkids informed without me having to email everyone all the time. People have commented to me on how much they love the site and what a great idea it was, but not a lot of feedback is ever posted on the CB page itself. I do look and see how many "Vists From Family and Friends" the page has received and that's how I track if it is being read or not. Also a lot of my family checked the box that sends them an email whenever the page is updated so they just look at the page when they get the email and forget about it between updates.The weirdest part is that some of my family don't like it when I post too much depressing or in-depth info on my mother's page because they prefer to live in denial-land.

 

[Buckeye]

I have a CB page for my mother who is in a nursing home due to an Alzheimer-like dementia and I find that people rarely sign the guestbook. Our family is spread all over the country and I thought it would be a good way to keep all my brothers, sisters and her grandkids informed without me having to email everyone all the time. People have commented to me on how much they love the site and what a great idea it was, but not a lot of feedback is ever posted on the CB page itself. I do look and see how many "Vists From Family and Friends" the page has received and that's how I track if it is being read or not. Also a lot of my family checked the box that sends them an email whenever the page is updated so they just look at the page when they get the email and forget about it between updates.The weirdest part is that some of my family don't like it when I post too much depressing or in-depth info on my mother's page because they prefer to live in denial-land.

 

[Buckeye]

I have a CB page for my mother who is in a nursing home due to an Alzheimer-like dementia and I find that people rarely sign the guestbook. Our family is spread all over the country and I thought it would be a good way to keep all my brothers, sisters and her grandkids informed without me having to email everyone all the time. People have commented to me on how much they love the site and what a great idea it was, but not a lot of feedback is ever posted on the CB page itself. I do look and see how many "Vists From Family and Friends" the page has received and that's how I track if it is being read or not. Also a lot of my family checked the box that sends them an email whenever the page is updated so they just look at the page when they get the email and forget about it between updates.The weirdest part is that some of my family don't like it when I post too much depressing or in-depth info on my mother's page because they prefer to live in denial-land.

 

[Buckeye]

I have a CB page for my mother who is in a nursing home due to an Alzheimer-like dementia and I find that people rarely sign the guestbook. Our family is spread all over the country and I thought it would be a good way to keep all my brothers, sisters and her grandkids informed without me having to email everyone all the time. People have commented to me on how much they love the site and what a great idea it was, but not a lot of feedback is ever posted on the CB page itself. I do look and see how many "Vists From Family and Friends" the page has received and that's how I track if it is being read or not. Also a lot of my family checked the box that sends them an email whenever the page is updated so they just look at the page when they get the email and forget about it between updates.The weirdest part is that some of my family don't like it when I post too much depressing or in-depth info on my mother's page because they prefer to live in denial-land.

 

[Buckeye]

I have a CB page for my mother who is in a nursing home due to an Alzheimer-like dementia and I find that people rarely sign the guestbook. Our family is spread all over the country and I thought it would be a good way to keep all my brothers, sisters and her grandkids informed without me having to email everyone all the time. People have commented to me on how much they love the site and what a great idea it was, but not a lot of feedback is ever posted on the CB page itself. I do look and see how many "Vists From Family and Friends" the page has received and that's how I track if it is being read or not. Also a lot of my family checked the box that sends them an email whenever the page is updated so they just look at the page when they get the email and forget about it between updates.<p>The weirdest part is that some of my family don't like it when I post too much depressing or in-depth info on my mother's page because they prefer to live in denial-land.