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Fiance Never been through hospitalization

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kjorgen1

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Hello,

My Fiance and I have been engaged 8 months now but he has never had to go through a hospitalization with me. He has been to many clinic visits with me which have been no big deal, but has never had to see me put in the hospital. He is worried I can tell but does not want to show it. I am wondering if anyone could give me advice on how to make the transition easy for him. I have talked to him about the seriousness of this disease but I think it is still a shock to him because I rarely get really sick and he sees me as a normal person not a person with CF. Thanks and God Bless!
 
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kjorgen1

New member
Hello,

My Fiance and I have been engaged 8 months now but he has never had to go through a hospitalization with me. He has been to many clinic visits with me which have been no big deal, but has never had to see me put in the hospital. He is worried I can tell but does not want to show it. I am wondering if anyone could give me advice on how to make the transition easy for him. I have talked to him about the seriousness of this disease but I think it is still a shock to him because I rarely get really sick and he sees me as a normal person not a person with CF. Thanks and God Bless!
 
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kjorgen1

New member
Hello,

My Fiance and I have been engaged 8 months now but he has never had to go through a hospitalization with me. He has been to many clinic visits with me which have been no big deal, but has never had to see me put in the hospital. He is worried I can tell but does not want to show it. I am wondering if anyone could give me advice on how to make the transition easy for him. I have talked to him about the seriousness of this disease but I think it is still a shock to him because I rarely get really sick and he sees me as a normal person not a person with CF. Thanks and God Bless!
 
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kjorgen1

New member
Hello,

My Fiance and I have been engaged 8 months now but he has never had to go through a hospitalization with me. He has been to many clinic visits with me which have been no big deal, but has never had to see me put in the hospital. He is worried I can tell but does not want to show it. I am wondering if anyone could give me advice on how to make the transition easy for him. I have talked to him about the seriousness of this disease but I think it is still a shock to him because I rarely get really sick and he sees me as a normal person not a person with CF. Thanks and God Bless!
 
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kjorgen1

New member
Hello,
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<br />My Fiance and I have been engaged 8 months now but he has never had to go through a hospitalization with me. He has been to many clinic visits with me which have been no big deal, but has never had to see me put in the hospital. He is worried I can tell but does not want to show it. I am wondering if anyone could give me advice on how to make the transition easy for him. I have talked to him about the seriousness of this disease but I think it is still a shock to him because I rarely get really sick and he sees me as a normal person not a person with CF. Thanks and God Bless!
 
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Grendel

New member
KJorgen1,

Everything will work itself out. Don't put pressure on yourself or him to be one way or another. Be yourself, and let him be himself. Each of you have your own sense of pressure, adding to it won't be productive.

When entering a marriage with CF, a couple must be careful not to deviate too far from traditional spousal roles, i.e. husband & wife roles, and enter roles of nurse & patient or doctor & patient which are wrought with challenges and difficulties.

Best,
Grendel
 
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Grendel

New member
KJorgen1,

Everything will work itself out. Don't put pressure on yourself or him to be one way or another. Be yourself, and let him be himself. Each of you have your own sense of pressure, adding to it won't be productive.

When entering a marriage with CF, a couple must be careful not to deviate too far from traditional spousal roles, i.e. husband & wife roles, and enter roles of nurse & patient or doctor & patient which are wrought with challenges and difficulties.

Best,
Grendel
 
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Grendel

New member
KJorgen1,

Everything will work itself out. Don't put pressure on yourself or him to be one way or another. Be yourself, and let him be himself. Each of you have your own sense of pressure, adding to it won't be productive.

When entering a marriage with CF, a couple must be careful not to deviate too far from traditional spousal roles, i.e. husband & wife roles, and enter roles of nurse & patient or doctor & patient which are wrought with challenges and difficulties.

Best,
Grendel
 
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Grendel

New member
KJorgen1,

Everything will work itself out. Don't put pressure on yourself or him to be one way or another. Be yourself, and let him be himself. Each of you have your own sense of pressure, adding to it won't be productive.

When entering a marriage with CF, a couple must be careful not to deviate too far from traditional spousal roles, i.e. husband & wife roles, and enter roles of nurse & patient or doctor & patient which are wrought with challenges and difficulties.

Best,
Grendel
 
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Grendel

New member
KJorgen1,
<br />
<br />Everything will work itself out. Don't put pressure on yourself or him to be one way or another. Be yourself, and let him be himself. Each of you have your own sense of pressure, adding to it won't be productive.
<br />
<br />When entering a marriage with CF, a couple must be careful not to deviate too far from traditional spousal roles, i.e. husband & wife roles, and enter roles of nurse & patient or doctor & patient which are wrought with challenges and difficulties.
<br />
<br />Best,
<br />Grendel
 
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missT

Member
For years when I was very healthy I asked my partner (at the time) not to come up to the hospital and let me rest and not worry about how they were going to react. I had enough on my mind and I didnt want to focus my energy on how they were feeling. This worked. I never made a big deal out of my CF and this attitude really kept alot of anxiety away. Now that my health is not so good my CF is the 800 pound gorilla in the room. I want to be seen as normal and I struggle with it...but I am soooooo not. We have very heated conversations about children and marriage and if I am going to be here to raise my kids etc,etc. So my advice is to have the conversations but remember...we are here today to laugh and love. I have seen so many healthy friends die over the years from various tragic events. I am still here and God has a plan. Good luck.
 
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missT

Member
For years when I was very healthy I asked my partner (at the time) not to come up to the hospital and let me rest and not worry about how they were going to react. I had enough on my mind and I didnt want to focus my energy on how they were feeling. This worked. I never made a big deal out of my CF and this attitude really kept alot of anxiety away. Now that my health is not so good my CF is the 800 pound gorilla in the room. I want to be seen as normal and I struggle with it...but I am soooooo not. We have very heated conversations about children and marriage and if I am going to be here to raise my kids etc,etc. So my advice is to have the conversations but remember...we are here today to laugh and love. I have seen so many healthy friends die over the years from various tragic events. I am still here and God has a plan. Good luck.
 
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missT

Member
For years when I was very healthy I asked my partner (at the time) not to come up to the hospital and let me rest and not worry about how they were going to react. I had enough on my mind and I didnt want to focus my energy on how they were feeling. This worked. I never made a big deal out of my CF and this attitude really kept alot of anxiety away. Now that my health is not so good my CF is the 800 pound gorilla in the room. I want to be seen as normal and I struggle with it...but I am soooooo not. We have very heated conversations about children and marriage and if I am going to be here to raise my kids etc,etc. So my advice is to have the conversations but remember...we are here today to laugh and love. I have seen so many healthy friends die over the years from various tragic events. I am still here and God has a plan. Good luck.
 
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missT

Member
For years when I was very healthy I asked my partner (at the time) not to come up to the hospital and let me rest and not worry about how they were going to react. I had enough on my mind and I didnt want to focus my energy on how they were feeling. This worked. I never made a big deal out of my CF and this attitude really kept alot of anxiety away. Now that my health is not so good my CF is the 800 pound gorilla in the room. I want to be seen as normal and I struggle with it...but I am soooooo not. We have very heated conversations about children and marriage and if I am going to be here to raise my kids etc,etc. So my advice is to have the conversations but remember...we are here today to laugh and love. I have seen so many healthy friends die over the years from various tragic events. I am still here and God has a plan. Good luck.
 
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missT

Member
For years when I was very healthy I asked my partner (at the time) not to come up to the hospital and let me rest and not worry about how they were going to react. I had enough on my mind and I didnt want to focus my energy on how they were feeling. This worked. I never made a big deal out of my CF and this attitude really kept alot of anxiety away. Now that my health is not so good my CF is the 800 pound gorilla in the room. I want to be seen as normal and I struggle with it...but I am soooooo not. We have very heated conversations about children and marriage and if I am going to be here to raise my kids etc,etc. So my advice is to have the conversations but remember...we are here today to laugh and love. I have seen so many healthy friends die over the years from various tragic events. I am still here and God has a plan. Good luck.
 
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lostboy

New member
hi ,i can tell you from my first experience with diane being admitted to the hospital via ER was very tramatic for me .i know i showed how i was feeling upset, scarred etc.. that was the last time i let her see me worried in the hosp. i realized that day something diane used to say ,you dont know what it is like to live with cf everyday ,. then it hit me like a ton of bricks whatever im feeling or worried about is nothing nothing compared to what she is going through then and everyday. sorry for the rant !! i think it will be a test for him to really see if he is ready FOR THE BAD TIMES ill tell you it takes a special person to be there for you . i hope and pray the bad times are few and far between. you could also ask your doctor to have a talk with him sometimes things come across more serious when it comes from a doc it did for me>>> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
 
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lostboy

New member
hi ,i can tell you from my first experience with diane being admitted to the hospital via ER was very tramatic for me .i know i showed how i was feeling upset, scarred etc.. that was the last time i let her see me worried in the hosp. i realized that day something diane used to say ,you dont know what it is like to live with cf everyday ,. then it hit me like a ton of bricks whatever im feeling or worried about is nothing nothing compared to what she is going through then and everyday. sorry for the rant !! i think it will be a test for him to really see if he is ready FOR THE BAD TIMES ill tell you it takes a special person to be there for you . i hope and pray the bad times are few and far between. you could also ask your doctor to have a talk with him sometimes things come across more serious when it comes from a doc it did for me>>> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
 
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lostboy

New member
hi ,i can tell you from my first experience with diane being admitted to the hospital via ER was very tramatic for me .i know i showed how i was feeling upset, scarred etc.. that was the last time i let her see me worried in the hosp. i realized that day something diane used to say ,you dont know what it is like to live with cf everyday ,. then it hit me like a ton of bricks whatever im feeling or worried about is nothing nothing compared to what she is going through then and everyday. sorry for the rant !! i think it will be a test for him to really see if he is ready FOR THE BAD TIMES ill tell you it takes a special person to be there for you . i hope and pray the bad times are few and far between. you could also ask your doctor to have a talk with him sometimes things come across more serious when it comes from a doc it did for me>>> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
 
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lostboy

New member
hi ,i can tell you from my first experience with diane being admitted to the hospital via ER was very tramatic for me .i know i showed how i was feeling upset, scarred etc.. that was the last time i let her see me worried in the hosp. i realized that day something diane used to say ,you dont know what it is like to live with cf everyday ,. then it hit me like a ton of bricks whatever im feeling or worried about is nothing nothing compared to what she is going through then and everyday. sorry for the rant !! i think it will be a test for him to really see if he is ready FOR THE BAD TIMES ill tell you it takes a special person to be there for you . i hope and pray the bad times are few and far between. you could also ask your doctor to have a talk with him sometimes things come across more serious when it comes from a doc it did for me>>> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
 
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lostboy

New member
hi ,i can tell you from my first experience with diane being admitted to the hospital via ER was very tramatic for me .i know i showed how i was feeling upset, scarred etc.. that was the last time i let her see me worried in the hosp. i realized that day something diane used to say ,you dont know what it is like to live with cf everyday ,. then it hit me like a ton of bricks whatever im feeling or worried about is nothing nothing compared to what she is going through then and everyday. sorry for the rant !! i think it will be a test for him to really see if he is ready FOR THE BAD TIMES ill tell you it takes a special person to be there for you . i hope and pray the bad times are few and far between. you could also ask your doctor to have a talk with him sometimes things come across more serious when it comes from a doc it did for me>>> <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
 
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