Hello, Julie. It is extremely frustrating, I know. I've had my own battles with my insurance company and the government. The only thing that saved me is my doctor wrote a letter to the insurance company explaining to the I cannot afford to live without insurance. (It is my parent's insurance company, and they were going to cut me off when i was twenty-one) Now, the insurance company finally admits I have a disability, and I don't have to worry about insurance as long as I don't get married. So, as long as I don't fall in love, I'll be okay. =-)
I also know someone else who was able to get benefits from SSI... or maybe it was SSD, I forget. Anyway, it takes a long time, and it seems like nobody there is listening or cares, but it is not impossible, and I know if you keep at it, eventually you will reach someone who realizes you and your husband need help. All any of us can really do is keep hoping and keep trying.
I don't rally have any advice to give, except involve your cf clinic as much as possible. At least I know all the ones I have been to have always been willing to help with things like that. I know it doesn't help at all, but I'll b here hoping for you. Take care, okay?
Jarod
22 w cf