Too funny, you sound just like me- I am more compliant now, said I would not have kids past age 30, and had a daughter at age 32 <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0"> . No vasectomy though- we have natural birth control (fertility issues <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> ).
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<br /><div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Jeana</b></i>
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<br />Amazingly, since becoming a mom, I am more compliant than I've ever been in my life. The kiddos are worth living for--and not just living, but living a quality life. Anyhow, I just wanted to add that I once decided that if I didn't get pregnant by age 30, I was going to get my tubes tied. I had my son Alex at age 32, so it's a good thing I didn't do it. Also, when you're done having kids, have the hubby get the vasectomy. It's so easy for them. My hubby gladly volunteered over me having major surgery. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"></end quote>
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<br />Back to topic now <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-tongue.gif" border="0"> : Being stable, meeting the recommended requirements, and spending time taking care of a baby/child so you get a taste of how much energy/time it really takes (heck, even volunteer to bottle feed a foster puppy/kitten for 6 weeks!). I had an idea, but I was soooo not prepared for the sleep deprivation that came along with a newborn, and the toll it took on me. I bounced back (thank you Lord), but wow. I admit, it is better now that she is older (5) and can even help with a few things <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> , but you have to be dedicated to being compliant and be in the habit of being compliant to make it through that first year (or 3...), IMHO. I also believe that whether or not you have a good support system (beyond your spouse) is a huge factor. Good luck on your decision.