What's new
Cystic Fibrosis Forum (EXP)

This is a sample guest message. Register a free account today to become a member! Once signed in, you'll be able to participate on this site by adding your own topics and posts, as well as connect with other members through your own private inbox!

Update on my Situation

Scarlett81

New member
Here's an update on our family situation and a thank you to all that expressed happiness for us, concern, good stories and bad stories-all the personal info you all shared. Thankyou for sharing your stories and opinions even though it may have been hard for you to express your opinion-whether it was negative or positive!

After much prayer, tears, intense pondering, research-we have decided that we will go for pregnancy. *This doesn't mean that this is actually going to happen, which I realize-but this is going to be our first choice. We will go through with it only after I get an ok from my doctor that I am healthy enough, and when I feel that my body signals are telling me I feel healthy enough.

I'm still in the "scared" stage-I've gathered all the info I think that you could gather on this topic. I know the risks. From the start I've approached this intelligently I think-realisticaly. So I think it's time to start thinking more positively. I want to know truthfully what women have had to go through-without sugarcoating it. And I've heard alot of the horror stories. So I don't have "blinders" on. But now its enough. Worry will not get you anywhere. If I'm gonna do this-I need to be 100% commited and positive. Positive thinking and power and determination has gotten me this far in life-and I'm not even talking just about CF!

So I have a doctors appointment in a few weeks to see how my numbers are, and we'll go from there. I don't know when the time will be. I will go on my doctors signals and my body's signals. It could be 1 month, 6 months, 1 year....I'm trying not to set a time limit on myself-but I don't want to wait too long. I want to take advantage of the good health I'm enjoying now.

I talked to my mother-in-law last night who is a size 2 gorgeous powerful mother of 8 kids-grandmother of 3. She is always respectful of my privacy, and respectful also of my disease-she never pretends that she's an expert. But I needed a fresh experienced perspective. And she just said that if I want to do this-I will know the time. And also the best advice I've gotten so far-Yes-know 100% the bad facts, the risks, keep educating myself. And then-stop. And, I've been thinking so much about-can my body handle this? Is my body ready? But I need to ask myself more-is my heart ready? Am I emotionally ready for the rollercoaster?

So now I'm waiting, I'm anticipating and hoping. And there's alot of work for me to do.

And I just wanted to share that with you-maybe you don't really care, maybe you're excited for me, maybe you think this is wrong-But I had to get it all out. I guess this is my diary!
 

coltsfan715

New member
I hope that everything goes well with your doctors appt and that no matter what happens it all works out for the best. I think your mother-in-law gave you some great advice. Sometimes we can focus to hard on all the facts and forget about everything else.

Lindsey
 

Jane

Digital opinion leader
Christian, having children is always an emotional decision. Your MIL is very wise and sounds like she will be a great support. Good luck with all your plans.
 

JazzysMom

New member
Whats great is that you will have support all around. Dr. W will support you even if she doesnt think its the best for you (tho I know you will take her opinioin quite seriously). We both know that she is a super lady who realizes the emotinal needs of her patients as well as the physical. I am there for you 100%. It is definitely up to you & your hubby no matter what anyone else thinks!
 
S

skh

Guest
Christian, I'm glad to hear that you have made your decision. What a big first step. I wish you the best and you will be in my thoughts and prayers. Thank you for keeping us posted.
 

thelizardqueen

New member
Congratulations Christian. I wish you all the luck and happiness. Its good that you're listening to your body and to what you want. I hope that things work out for you guys!
 

Diane

New member
Christian,
I wish you the absolute best with your decision. I know you weighed it out heavily and it must be a relief to have come to a decision. Good luck <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

julie

New member
Congrats Christian,

I know this is a big step for you and either way I would have been happy for the decision you made, but I am always so overjoyed to hear that others are trying and/or expecting.

Seems like you've done all of your research and you know what you want- GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!

I'm very excited and will be thinking about you and your DH and praying that this happens for the two of you.

Just a little word of encouragement, sometimes it seems like the "right time" is never going to happen. Usually when things are most chaotic and you are telling yourself, "no way I'll get pregnant this month/this time" is usually when you do. My IVF cycle was like that, from the military being a pain in the butt, to the finances changing again, to having problems with the medication to being overstimulated from the medication and in the ER a few times.... I thought, "no way I'm getting pregnant from this". Haha. Just keep your head up.

I'm so excited to hear about how everything goes for you! Many thoughts and prayers headed your way!!!
 

anonymous

New member
Christian~ I really felt this was the decision you were leaning. I agree, try and then go from there. At least no door will be closed this way. My prayers are with you as you begin this journey!

Karenb
 

Emily65Roses

New member
Well I certainly care, it's exciting. Keep us up on how it goes, and whether or not you get knocked up. (I choose such lovely phrasing). Just be sure to... eat a <b><u>LOT</u></b> and all sorts of stuff like that.
 

littledebbie

New member
I am soo happy for you!!! I am a huge believer that we all know OUR body the best and we should do what we feel is right for us. I don't think you can ever have regrets this way. You have been so diligent in researching and being realistic and trying to balance your wants vs your health and all options, well I am just soo behind you on this. You have my prayers and support.
 

Jem

New member
Oh Christian, I'm so happy that you are at peace with your decision. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0"> Now that you have jumped that hurdle you can move on and focus on preparing your body and mind for a pregnancy. Keep these posts and one day you can show your child the thought, care, and love that went into bringing her/him into the world. This is going to be one very loved child.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 

Scarlett81

New member
Janet-that's a good idea to keep all the posts! I think I will!

I also want to show my husband them too so he knows how much extra support is there for me, adn how much thought I've put in to this.

Wow, thanks so much for all your kind words, I'm overwhelmed at how people care-even if they don't neccesarily agree. We'll see what the future holds!

Its so funny-cause that part of my emotion was dead for so long-I never thought I'd ever think of having a baby. I cut that feeling off a long time ago. And now that I'm actually going to try it-the thought of maternity clothes and huger boobs and leaking boobs is so ....weird! I thought if this dream ever came true for me I'd be this glorious pregnant female form in all her glory! LOL and now I'm like-eww. I didin't expect this feeling!

My hubby and I passed Mimi Maternity in the mall the other day and he was like "oh babe-you'd look so cute in that stuff!" And I've always walked past that store with this envious dreamy look-like how beautiful! But now I'm kinda weired out by it all!
 

Landy

New member
I'm sure it feels good to have decided one way or another.
I am glad that you've been feeling well lately too!
Let us know when the doctor and you decide the time is right so we can start sending fertility vibes your way-lol
 

kayleesgrandma

New member
Congrats on deciding after all the thought that went into the decision. We'll be your cheering section. Let know when to expect the stork. <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 

kdklink69

New member
i just want to say im happy for you and jeousloe at the same time<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> My bf has cf and i never excespete to got through all we are going through cuz i wann ahave a babay with him but i donnot hat he can or that it is a good idea with everythign he has been going through, i love him so much and i feel heis givng up. and i donno what yo do, They tell him to go for a lung trasplant nd he can only think if the negative things about ti, im new to this sitr and dont know were to post my forum or how but u seem like the rite person to share this with<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> good luck wityh all u decide.
 

Scarlett81

New member
Kiwilady-sending lots of love for yourself to keep and you inspire me still!

KDKlink69-I know things may not seem looking too bright right now for your situation. I'm sure a year ago my hubby would have related to you. I was in major denial of my cf, and needed a major kick in the attitude-butt. I didn't think up until a few months ago that I'd ever be able to consider kids either. But-my attitude changed and now my life has changed! Your situation is no different! If you need help, or advice there's tons of people here that are MORE than happy to listen or talk-me included. Perhaps your sweetheart needs some help of his own-someone professional to talk to? I hope he can be brave enough to face the problem and change his life!! B/c he can! And as far as CF men having babies-just talk to Julie or Mark-Mark has CF and his wife is expecting TRIPLETS soon! So there.<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">
 

julie

New member
kdklink69, if you want someone to chat with, my husband Mark has CF. Email me at division902@hotmail.com if you like or post here.

You can start your own topic by going up to the very top of the page, look to the right under the "powered by BEF" sign. You will see, "new topic", "profile", "help".... and so on. You can post your own topic if you want by clicking on the "new topic" button.

As christian said, we are all here pretty much going through similar things so don't be hesitant to post again/some more if you just need to talk!
 
Top