lightNlife
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Thank you for this oft-ignored/disregarded point of view. You have given a voice to all the things my husband and I (used to) wrestle with regarding parenting. For all the reasons you mention, and others specific to our personal situation and background, we have decided that we will always be a family of two.
<b>Anonymous said:</b>
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>that really gets to me is that if my husband and i do choose to have a child that one day <b>he</b> will be a single dad and <b>i</b> wont be able to see it grow up</end quote></div> (emphasis mine)
I encourage couples to rethink that sort of statement and realize that it's not about you and your spouse and your happiness or future. It's about the child. It's the child who has to bear the weight of the emotions. And chances are, if you're so focused on lamenting a future you won't have, that you're wasting energy that you could be investing into making the present something beautiful.
Shoshanna, you're walking a tough road. I sincerely hope you're not walking it alone. Be well, my friend. Make each day a precious thing with your child.
-Lauren
<b>Anonymous said:</b>
<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote>that really gets to me is that if my husband and i do choose to have a child that one day <b>he</b> will be a single dad and <b>i</b> wont be able to see it grow up</end quote></div> (emphasis mine)
I encourage couples to rethink that sort of statement and realize that it's not about you and your spouse and your happiness or future. It's about the child. It's the child who has to bear the weight of the emotions. And chances are, if you're so focused on lamenting a future you won't have, that you're wasting energy that you could be investing into making the present something beautiful.
Shoshanna, you're walking a tough road. I sincerely hope you're not walking it alone. Be well, my friend. Make each day a precious thing with your child.
-Lauren