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First day back at work

julie

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Today was my first day back at work after my 6weeks of convelescent leave from having the babies. My doctor is NOT happy about me going back 6 weeks after a C section AND triplets, she wanted 8-10 weeks. But not a lot you can do about it with the military. They maintain their position that, "This is the military, we aren't civilian and don't follow civilian rules, you don't get extra time for a C section or triplets in the military" and I went up the chain of command but stopped at the Officer In charge of my command because it became apparent I was #1, wasting my time and #2, wasting my leave.

They did however, agree to give me 1/2 days for 2 weeks (my doctor asked for 4-6, must everything be a power struggle with them??????) so I am very grateful for that at least.

But.... when I got to work this morning I got bombarded with questions about WHY I only have 1/2 days and WHO granted this and WHY I didn't have anything in writing... blah blah blah. No one had "officially" infomed my immediate chain of command. That got sort of sorted out, but not really. I have to go see one of the doctors to get clearance from him to have 1/2 days, but the doc isn't happy with me because I "no showed" an appointment last week (I cancelled it, but it never got out of the system). This is the same doctor who said last week that he does NOT need to see me before I come back to work (I had an appointment with him, but then I had to take my advancement test at the same time and was given 2 days notice and he had no appointments to reschedule for) so I cancelled the appointment. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Then they told me that while I am on my 4 hour shifts, I don't get lunch. That's fine with me, but I do get a break at least (of which I will go QUICKLY stuff my face!!!!!). They said that because I am pumping every 2 hours, I don't get time for lunch. I told them I am breastfeeding TRIPLETS, I need protein and calories. I won't take a full "lunch" but I MUST eat, and I can do it quickly. So that was an issue that still isn't resolved. and I tried to eat while pumping, but since I double pump it doesn't work.........

then they had a problem with me pumping every 2 hours and the fact that it takes me 15-20 minutes, that was an issue too.

And everyone at work is hostile and seem to dislike me, it wasnt like that before. I'm sure it's because I've been "off work" for the last 8 months, but not a lot I can do about it. I feel like such an outisder there

And on top of it all, I missed the babies so much and just wanted to be home. It's SUCH an unsupportive work environment, so unsupportive! I thought it would be nice to get a break with some adults, not so much.

I had such an overwhelming and frustrating day and just needed to share
 

julie

New member
Today was my first day back at work after my 6weeks of convelescent leave from having the babies. My doctor is NOT happy about me going back 6 weeks after a C section AND triplets, she wanted 8-10 weeks. But not a lot you can do about it with the military. They maintain their position that, "This is the military, we aren't civilian and don't follow civilian rules, you don't get extra time for a C section or triplets in the military" and I went up the chain of command but stopped at the Officer In charge of my command because it became apparent I was #1, wasting my time and #2, wasting my leave.

They did however, agree to give me 1/2 days for 2 weeks (my doctor asked for 4-6, must everything be a power struggle with them??????) so I am very grateful for that at least.

But.... when I got to work this morning I got bombarded with questions about WHY I only have 1/2 days and WHO granted this and WHY I didn't have anything in writing... blah blah blah. No one had "officially" infomed my immediate chain of command. That got sort of sorted out, but not really. I have to go see one of the doctors to get clearance from him to have 1/2 days, but the doc isn't happy with me because I "no showed" an appointment last week (I cancelled it, but it never got out of the system). This is the same doctor who said last week that he does NOT need to see me before I come back to work (I had an appointment with him, but then I had to take my advancement test at the same time and was given 2 days notice and he had no appointments to reschedule for) so I cancelled the appointment. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Then they told me that while I am on my 4 hour shifts, I don't get lunch. That's fine with me, but I do get a break at least (of which I will go QUICKLY stuff my face!!!!!). They said that because I am pumping every 2 hours, I don't get time for lunch. I told them I am breastfeeding TRIPLETS, I need protein and calories. I won't take a full "lunch" but I MUST eat, and I can do it quickly. So that was an issue that still isn't resolved. and I tried to eat while pumping, but since I double pump it doesn't work.........

then they had a problem with me pumping every 2 hours and the fact that it takes me 15-20 minutes, that was an issue too.

And everyone at work is hostile and seem to dislike me, it wasnt like that before. I'm sure it's because I've been "off work" for the last 8 months, but not a lot I can do about it. I feel like such an outisder there

And on top of it all, I missed the babies so much and just wanted to be home. It's SUCH an unsupportive work environment, so unsupportive! I thought it would be nice to get a break with some adults, not so much.

I had such an overwhelming and frustrating day and just needed to share
 

julie

New member
Today was my first day back at work after my 6weeks of convelescent leave from having the babies. My doctor is NOT happy about me going back 6 weeks after a C section AND triplets, she wanted 8-10 weeks. But not a lot you can do about it with the military. They maintain their position that, "This is the military, we aren't civilian and don't follow civilian rules, you don't get extra time for a C section or triplets in the military" and I went up the chain of command but stopped at the Officer In charge of my command because it became apparent I was #1, wasting my time and #2, wasting my leave.

They did however, agree to give me 1/2 days for 2 weeks (my doctor asked for 4-6, must everything be a power struggle with them??????) so I am very grateful for that at least.

But.... when I got to work this morning I got bombarded with questions about WHY I only have 1/2 days and WHO granted this and WHY I didn't have anything in writing... blah blah blah. No one had "officially" infomed my immediate chain of command. That got sort of sorted out, but not really. I have to go see one of the doctors to get clearance from him to have 1/2 days, but the doc isn't happy with me because I "no showed" an appointment last week (I cancelled it, but it never got out of the system). This is the same doctor who said last week that he does NOT need to see me before I come back to work (I had an appointment with him, but then I had to take my advancement test at the same time and was given 2 days notice and he had no appointments to reschedule for) so I cancelled the appointment. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Then they told me that while I am on my 4 hour shifts, I don't get lunch. That's fine with me, but I do get a break at least (of which I will go QUICKLY stuff my face!!!!!). They said that because I am pumping every 2 hours, I don't get time for lunch. I told them I am breastfeeding TRIPLETS, I need protein and calories. I won't take a full "lunch" but I MUST eat, and I can do it quickly. So that was an issue that still isn't resolved. and I tried to eat while pumping, but since I double pump it doesn't work.........

then they had a problem with me pumping every 2 hours and the fact that it takes me 15-20 minutes, that was an issue too.

And everyone at work is hostile and seem to dislike me, it wasnt like that before. I'm sure it's because I've been "off work" for the last 8 months, but not a lot I can do about it. I feel like such an outisder there

And on top of it all, I missed the babies so much and just wanted to be home. It's SUCH an unsupportive work environment, so unsupportive! I thought it would be nice to get a break with some adults, not so much.

I had such an overwhelming and frustrating day and just needed to share
 

thelizardqueen

New member
I'm sorry to hear that your first day back was so rough. Hopefully things will work out for you. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you right now, what with being away from work for so long, and then having to be away from the babies so soon. I really hope that things work themselves out for you guys.
 

thelizardqueen

New member
I'm sorry to hear that your first day back was so rough. Hopefully things will work out for you. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you right now, what with being away from work for so long, and then having to be away from the babies so soon. I really hope that things work themselves out for you guys.
 

thelizardqueen

New member
I'm sorry to hear that your first day back was so rough. Hopefully things will work out for you. I can't imagine how hard this must be for you right now, what with being away from work for so long, and then having to be away from the babies so soon. I really hope that things work themselves out for you guys.
 

dyza

New member
Julie, I would be thinking about changing jobs if my bosses behaved like that, military or civilian that is no way to treat fellow humans.

I have been off sick from work since 29th sept and still have a week to go, post op complications, but I am currently on a written wrning for my attendance, so I don't quite know how they are going to react to my month off. But I will be ready for them. lol
Chin up girl.
 

dyza

New member
Julie, I would be thinking about changing jobs if my bosses behaved like that, military or civilian that is no way to treat fellow humans.

I have been off sick from work since 29th sept and still have a week to go, post op complications, but I am currently on a written wrning for my attendance, so I don't quite know how they are going to react to my month off. But I will be ready for them. lol
Chin up girl.
 

dyza

New member
Julie, I would be thinking about changing jobs if my bosses behaved like that, military or civilian that is no way to treat fellow humans.

I have been off sick from work since 29th sept and still have a week to go, post op complications, but I am currently on a written wrning for my attendance, so I don't quite know how they are going to react to my month off. But I will be ready for them. lol
Chin up girl.
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
Hey, Julie!

I can relate to feeling 'alienated' at work (Considering I am an 'Alien' in Japan!!)!

It's odd how they disregard a civilian doctor's orders, or requests, though! A doctor is a doctor, and if there is any controversy, the military doctor should be concuring with your doctor...did your doctor pass your medical profile to the military? As mentioned before, if ANYTHING happpens to affect your well-being, your C.O. will be responsible for it!!

I've been out of work for six months, and will be in my seventh when I get back to work!! I wonder if I can use the same topic title after I survived my first day! hehe!

And, my understanding in regards to what my sister passed along (as a medical professional) was that your job shouldn't be putting you into such a hard situation.

To bad, quitting the military is more complicated than quitting a civilian job, or I'd fully agree with dyza!!

Dyza, hope you're doing ok, too!

I hope things work out for you, soon, Julie!

Hang in there!
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
Hey, Julie!

I can relate to feeling 'alienated' at work (Considering I am an 'Alien' in Japan!!)!

It's odd how they disregard a civilian doctor's orders, or requests, though! A doctor is a doctor, and if there is any controversy, the military doctor should be concuring with your doctor...did your doctor pass your medical profile to the military? As mentioned before, if ANYTHING happpens to affect your well-being, your C.O. will be responsible for it!!

I've been out of work for six months, and will be in my seventh when I get back to work!! I wonder if I can use the same topic title after I survived my first day! hehe!

And, my understanding in regards to what my sister passed along (as a medical professional) was that your job shouldn't be putting you into such a hard situation.

To bad, quitting the military is more complicated than quitting a civilian job, or I'd fully agree with dyza!!

Dyza, hope you're doing ok, too!

I hope things work out for you, soon, Julie!

Hang in there!
 
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65rosessamurai

Guest
Hey, Julie!

I can relate to feeling 'alienated' at work (Considering I am an 'Alien' in Japan!!)!

It's odd how they disregard a civilian doctor's orders, or requests, though! A doctor is a doctor, and if there is any controversy, the military doctor should be concuring with your doctor...did your doctor pass your medical profile to the military? As mentioned before, if ANYTHING happpens to affect your well-being, your C.O. will be responsible for it!!

I've been out of work for six months, and will be in my seventh when I get back to work!! I wonder if I can use the same topic title after I survived my first day! hehe!

And, my understanding in regards to what my sister passed along (as a medical professional) was that your job shouldn't be putting you into such a hard situation.

To bad, quitting the military is more complicated than quitting a civilian job, or I'd fully agree with dyza!!

Dyza, hope you're doing ok, too!

I hope things work out for you, soon, Julie!

Hang in there!
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
First day back! Bleah. I took off 3 months for maternity leave and my hormones were still in an uproar. I cried the whole way from daycare to the office. Sat at my desk and took a deep breath -- took numerous bathroom breaks 'cuz I'd get so teary and I felt out of the loop, innocent questions or comments made me paranoid. Someone who I don't see often heard I was working different hours and I immediately thought they were out to get me -- implying I was coming into work late... They were just making conversation.

After a few days, I got back into the swing of things. Take a deep breath, do your job and try not to let your mind run away with interoffice drama.
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
First day back! Bleah. I took off 3 months for maternity leave and my hormones were still in an uproar. I cried the whole way from daycare to the office. Sat at my desk and took a deep breath -- took numerous bathroom breaks 'cuz I'd get so teary and I felt out of the loop, innocent questions or comments made me paranoid. Someone who I don't see often heard I was working different hours and I immediately thought they were out to get me -- implying I was coming into work late... They were just making conversation.

After a few days, I got back into the swing of things. Take a deep breath, do your job and try not to let your mind run away with interoffice drama.
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
First day back! Bleah. I took off 3 months for maternity leave and my hormones were still in an uproar. I cried the whole way from daycare to the office. Sat at my desk and took a deep breath -- took numerous bathroom breaks 'cuz I'd get so teary and I felt out of the loop, innocent questions or comments made me paranoid. Someone who I don't see often heard I was working different hours and I immediately thought they were out to get me -- implying I was coming into work late... They were just making conversation.

After a few days, I got back into the swing of things. Take a deep breath, do your job and try not to let your mind run away with interoffice drama.
 

anonymous

New member
Julie
It's hard to believe you're back to work already. I hope the babies, you & Mark are all doing well.
I'm sorry it's been such a bear and they don't seem to want to accomodate you<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0"> Do the smokers get breaks? If they get 5 minutes every hour to smoke then that's the same amount of time you're asking for & they probably get a lunch in addition to smoke breaks........can't win 'em all.
It doesn't help that you feel alienated either. How long until your term (not sure if that's the right word) is up??
Hang in there.
 

anonymous

New member
Julie
It's hard to believe you're back to work already. I hope the babies, you & Mark are all doing well.
I'm sorry it's been such a bear and they don't seem to want to accomodate you<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0"> Do the smokers get breaks? If they get 5 minutes every hour to smoke then that's the same amount of time you're asking for & they probably get a lunch in addition to smoke breaks........can't win 'em all.
It doesn't help that you feel alienated either. How long until your term (not sure if that's the right word) is up??
Hang in there.
 

anonymous

New member
Julie
It's hard to believe you're back to work already. I hope the babies, you & Mark are all doing well.
I'm sorry it's been such a bear and they don't seem to want to accomodate you<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-mad.gif" border="0"> Do the smokers get breaks? If they get 5 minutes every hour to smoke then that's the same amount of time you're asking for & they probably get a lunch in addition to smoke breaks........can't win 'em all.
It doesn't help that you feel alienated either. How long until your term (not sure if that's the right word) is up??
Hang in there.
 

Landy

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Landy

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