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Frustration with a friend'

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pnhuffman

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CFTeamA,
I hear that same thing everytime I come across this one lady that lives in our small town. It gets very annoying. sometimes I just want to punch her. She keeps askin me if I am sure Austin has Cf cuz back when her neice and nephews had it they were very sick. I am some day gonna ask her if she is sure thats what they had? She always says well he looks good to me. I usually try to avoid her.

And because I took on austin and another little boy (my kids are grown) and have my grandkids with me alot she will make comments kind of rudely about "Boy you must like kids? You've always got one with you" WTF does it matter to her. Cuz then she preceeds to tell me that she wont babysit any of her grandkids and so on.
 
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pnhuffman

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CFTeamA,
I hear that same thing everytime I come across this one lady that lives in our small town. It gets very annoying. sometimes I just want to punch her. She keeps askin me if I am sure Austin has Cf cuz back when her neice and nephews had it they were very sick. I am some day gonna ask her if she is sure thats what they had? She always says well he looks good to me. I usually try to avoid her.

And because I took on austin and another little boy (my kids are grown) and have my grandkids with me alot she will make comments kind of rudely about "Boy you must like kids? You've always got one with you" WTF does it matter to her. Cuz then she preceeds to tell me that she wont babysit any of her grandkids and so on.
 
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pnhuffman

New member
CFTeamA,
I hear that same thing everytime I come across this one lady that lives in our small town. It gets very annoying. sometimes I just want to punch her. She keeps askin me if I am sure Austin has Cf cuz back when her neice and nephews had it they were very sick. I am some day gonna ask her if she is sure thats what they had? She always says well he looks good to me. I usually try to avoid her.

And because I took on austin and another little boy (my kids are grown) and have my grandkids with me alot she will make comments kind of rudely about "Boy you must like kids? You've always got one with you" WTF does it matter to her. Cuz then she preceeds to tell me that she wont babysit any of her grandkids and so on.
 
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pnhuffman

New member
CFTeamA,
I hear that same thing everytime I come across this one lady that lives in our small town. It gets very annoying. sometimes I just want to punch her. She keeps askin me if I am sure Austin has Cf cuz back when her neice and nephews had it they were very sick. I am some day gonna ask her if she is sure thats what they had? She always says well he looks good to me. I usually try to avoid her.

And because I took on austin and another little boy (my kids are grown) and have my grandkids with me alot she will make comments kind of rudely about "Boy you must like kids? You've always got one with you" WTF does it matter to her. Cuz then she preceeds to tell me that she wont babysit any of her grandkids and so on.
 
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pnhuffman

New member
CFTeamA,
<br />I hear that same thing everytime I come across this one lady that lives in our small town. It gets very annoying. sometimes I just want to punch her. She keeps askin me if I am sure Austin has Cf cuz back when her neice and nephews had it they were very sick. I am some day gonna ask her if she is sure thats what they had? She always says well he looks good to me. I usually try to avoid her.
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<br />And because I took on austin and another little boy (my kids are grown) and have my grandkids with me alot she will make comments kind of rudely about "Boy you must like kids? You've always got one with you" WTF does it matter to her. Cuz then she preceeds to tell me that she wont babysit any of her grandkids and so on.
 
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TinyGreenTurtles

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Ah, Piper, my husband is like this. He is almost always all lollipops and sunshine about cf, like as long as I do everything right, I'll be fine. One day, I flat out asked him if he knew that one of my very best friends from camp that died when she was 17 was always totally spot-on with her care, did everything right, etc. He said that of course he knew the realities. After talking to him, I found out that while he knows the seriousness and truth about what I have, it's sort of a self-protection for him to be positive about things. I had to understand that to understand where he stands when it comes to my health, ya know? Could it be that your friend cares about you so much, that he WANTS to believe this, though in reality he knows how things really are?

BTW, I wanted to clarify that I very much admire the older people with cf, and I do really believe that compliance is very, very important. I only meant to say that cf is cruel and takes people who have done everything right, too.
 
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TinyGreenTurtles

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Ah, Piper, my husband is like this. He is almost always all lollipops and sunshine about cf, like as long as I do everything right, I'll be fine. One day, I flat out asked him if he knew that one of my very best friends from camp that died when she was 17 was always totally spot-on with her care, did everything right, etc. He said that of course he knew the realities. After talking to him, I found out that while he knows the seriousness and truth about what I have, it's sort of a self-protection for him to be positive about things. I had to understand that to understand where he stands when it comes to my health, ya know? Could it be that your friend cares about you so much, that he WANTS to believe this, though in reality he knows how things really are?

BTW, I wanted to clarify that I very much admire the older people with cf, and I do really believe that compliance is very, very important. I only meant to say that cf is cruel and takes people who have done everything right, too.
 
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TinyGreenTurtles

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Ah, Piper, my husband is like this. He is almost always all lollipops and sunshine about cf, like as long as I do everything right, I'll be fine. One day, I flat out asked him if he knew that one of my very best friends from camp that died when she was 17 was always totally spot-on with her care, did everything right, etc. He said that of course he knew the realities. After talking to him, I found out that while he knows the seriousness and truth about what I have, it's sort of a self-protection for him to be positive about things. I had to understand that to understand where he stands when it comes to my health, ya know? Could it be that your friend cares about you so much, that he WANTS to believe this, though in reality he knows how things really are?

BTW, I wanted to clarify that I very much admire the older people with cf, and I do really believe that compliance is very, very important. I only meant to say that cf is cruel and takes people who have done everything right, too.
 
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TinyGreenTurtles

New member
Ah, Piper, my husband is like this. He is almost always all lollipops and sunshine about cf, like as long as I do everything right, I'll be fine. One day, I flat out asked him if he knew that one of my very best friends from camp that died when she was 17 was always totally spot-on with her care, did everything right, etc. He said that of course he knew the realities. After talking to him, I found out that while he knows the seriousness and truth about what I have, it's sort of a self-protection for him to be positive about things. I had to understand that to understand where he stands when it comes to my health, ya know? Could it be that your friend cares about you so much, that he WANTS to believe this, though in reality he knows how things really are?

BTW, I wanted to clarify that I very much admire the older people with cf, and I do really believe that compliance is very, very important. I only meant to say that cf is cruel and takes people who have done everything right, too.
 
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TinyGreenTurtles

New member
Ah, Piper, my husband is like this. He is almost always all lollipops and sunshine about cf, like as long as I do everything right, I'll be fine. One day, I flat out asked him if he knew that one of my very best friends from camp that died when she was 17 was always totally spot-on with her care, did everything right, etc. He said that of course he knew the realities. After talking to him, I found out that while he knows the seriousness and truth about what I have, it's sort of a self-protection for him to be positive about things. I had to understand that to understand where he stands when it comes to my health, ya know? Could it be that your friend cares about you so much, that he WANTS to believe this, though in reality he knows how things really are?
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<br />BTW, I wanted to clarify that I very much admire the older people with cf, and I do really believe that compliance is very, very important. I only meant to say that cf is cruel and takes people who have done everything right, too.
 
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SaltyAndSweet

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Anyone have suggestions as to how WE deal with people who are "all sunshine and lollipops"? (what the perfect expression Cindy!) I just want to smack them upside the head!
I am recently dealing with someone who is like this, very dear to me, but believes that if I do ALL of my treatments I will be perfectly perfect. Makes me feel very guilty when I can't squeeze all of my therapies, meds, exercise, and work all into my day. As if I don't already feel bad for skipping, mentally and physically, I don't need the extra guilt bestowed upon me from a friend.
Any advice?
 
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SaltyAndSweet

New member
Anyone have suggestions as to how WE deal with people who are "all sunshine and lollipops"? (what the perfect expression Cindy!) I just want to smack them upside the head!
I am recently dealing with someone who is like this, very dear to me, but believes that if I do ALL of my treatments I will be perfectly perfect. Makes me feel very guilty when I can't squeeze all of my therapies, meds, exercise, and work all into my day. As if I don't already feel bad for skipping, mentally and physically, I don't need the extra guilt bestowed upon me from a friend.
Any advice?
 
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SaltyAndSweet

New member
Anyone have suggestions as to how WE deal with people who are "all sunshine and lollipops"? (what the perfect expression Cindy!) I just want to smack them upside the head!
I am recently dealing with someone who is like this, very dear to me, but believes that if I do ALL of my treatments I will be perfectly perfect. Makes me feel very guilty when I can't squeeze all of my therapies, meds, exercise, and work all into my day. As if I don't already feel bad for skipping, mentally and physically, I don't need the extra guilt bestowed upon me from a friend.
Any advice?
 
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SaltyAndSweet

New member
Anyone have suggestions as to how WE deal with people who are "all sunshine and lollipops"? (what the perfect expression Cindy!) I just want to smack them upside the head!
I am recently dealing with someone who is like this, very dear to me, but believes that if I do ALL of my treatments I will be perfectly perfect. Makes me feel very guilty when I can't squeeze all of my therapies, meds, exercise, and work all into my day. As if I don't already feel bad for skipping, mentally and physically, I don't need the extra guilt bestowed upon me from a friend.
Any advice?
 
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SaltyAndSweet

New member
Anyone have suggestions as to how WE deal with people who are "all sunshine and lollipops"? (what the perfect expression Cindy!) I just want to smack them upside the head!
<br />I am recently dealing with someone who is like this, very dear to me, but believes that if I do ALL of my treatments I will be perfectly perfect. Makes me feel very guilty when I can't squeeze all of my therapies, meds, exercise, and work all into my day. As if I don't already feel bad for skipping, mentally and physically, I don't need the extra guilt bestowed upon me from a friend.
<br />Any advice?
 
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LisaV

New member
No advice.
Had to laugh though. Found myself thinking "What's a friend/spouse to do?"

Wondering if I had met my second husband in time to be his first wife, if it would have been OK for me to introduce him to people as my "first husband" since he was only supposed to live to 35 (max) and wanted me to remarry after he died.

Maybe that would have been to much dark reality to bring into our lives. Maybe it was OK to keep encouraging him to use his neb and vest and stuff on the theory those things were keeping him around.
 
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LisaV

New member
No advice.
Had to laugh though. Found myself thinking "What's a friend/spouse to do?"

Wondering if I had met my second husband in time to be his first wife, if it would have been OK for me to introduce him to people as my "first husband" since he was only supposed to live to 35 (max) and wanted me to remarry after he died.

Maybe that would have been to much dark reality to bring into our lives. Maybe it was OK to keep encouraging him to use his neb and vest and stuff on the theory those things were keeping him around.
 
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LisaV

New member
No advice.
Had to laugh though. Found myself thinking "What's a friend/spouse to do?"

Wondering if I had met my second husband in time to be his first wife, if it would have been OK for me to introduce him to people as my "first husband" since he was only supposed to live to 35 (max) and wanted me to remarry after he died.

Maybe that would have been to much dark reality to bring into our lives. Maybe it was OK to keep encouraging him to use his neb and vest and stuff on the theory those things were keeping him around.
 
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LisaV

New member
No advice.
Had to laugh though. Found myself thinking "What's a friend/spouse to do?"

Wondering if I had met my second husband in time to be his first wife, if it would have been OK for me to introduce him to people as my "first husband" since he was only supposed to live to 35 (max) and wanted me to remarry after he died.

Maybe that would have been to much dark reality to bring into our lives. Maybe it was OK to keep encouraging him to use his neb and vest and stuff on the theory those things were keeping him around.
 
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LisaV

New member
No advice.
<br />Had to laugh though. Found myself thinking "What's a friend/spouse to do?"
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<br />Wondering if I had met my second husband in time to be his first wife, if it would have been OK for me to introduce him to people as my "first husband" since he was only supposed to live to 35 (max) and wanted me to remarry after he died.
<br />
<br />Maybe that would have been to much dark reality to bring into our lives. Maybe it was OK to keep encouraging him to use his neb and vest and stuff on the theory those things were keeping him around.
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