fondreflections
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The boys left by 2:00 this afternoon.
Honestly, it was a disturbing situation yet I knew I had done the right thing. I was not equipped to handle the issues that those poor boys had.
I finally told them at about 11:30 with about 2 hours left. D put on a whining and cry act for about 5 minutes then couldn't wait to go. He was constantly harassing me for the remainder of the time. N was ready to go from the moment I told him. Both boys actually picked out all the toys that they wanted to take with them. It was scary, actually. I explained to them that they are going to have a new Mommy and Daddy. I really don't think it ever registered.
They ended up going to a fellow couple in their 40's that Jake and I attended our training with. THEY AREN'T PREPARED EITHER!!! They have two kids that have just left the house and are 'looking to fill their empty nest'. They are in for a shock. Marie, the new foster Mom, did work with ADHD children before so she may have somewhat of an edge on me, but I still don't think the outlook is too good.
The kids were thrilled to see her and started calling her 'Mom' right away. As I was going over things with her, they were running around endlessly and giving my Mom a very hard time. Our second caseworker, Mark, was present and was watching and taking everything in. The kids were very hyper...
At first, Marie seemed like it would be a piece of cake. However by the end of the hour, I could see that she wasn't as confident.
The boys were overly excited to leave with someone that they didn't even know. This is their second foster care placement. I can honestly say, though, that they were the same way with Jake and I. We were Mommy and Daddy from Day 1. We also thought it would be a 'piece of cake'.
I helped Marie get the boys in their car seats and kissed their little foreheads goodbye. I do have Marie's number, and she also has mine to keep in contact. D kissed and hugged me back. He is 5. However, N pushed me away and said that he didn't love me, and that I wasn't his Mommy anymore. He had a new Mommy. It was so erie and sad...That was my final, lasting memory...
I won't be forgetting that memory anytime soon. Even my Mom, who always spoils them, was snubbed, mostly by N.
I venture out to the hospital tomorrow for 1:00. We will see what happens. I talked to the head nurse, and she said that they want to do a PFT and x-ray first. We will then 'take it from there' so we'll see. Regardless of being admitted or not, I still think I made the right decision for the boys. I wasn't equipped enough for their needs...
Honestly, it was a disturbing situation yet I knew I had done the right thing. I was not equipped to handle the issues that those poor boys had.
I finally told them at about 11:30 with about 2 hours left. D put on a whining and cry act for about 5 minutes then couldn't wait to go. He was constantly harassing me for the remainder of the time. N was ready to go from the moment I told him. Both boys actually picked out all the toys that they wanted to take with them. It was scary, actually. I explained to them that they are going to have a new Mommy and Daddy. I really don't think it ever registered.
They ended up going to a fellow couple in their 40's that Jake and I attended our training with. THEY AREN'T PREPARED EITHER!!! They have two kids that have just left the house and are 'looking to fill their empty nest'. They are in for a shock. Marie, the new foster Mom, did work with ADHD children before so she may have somewhat of an edge on me, but I still don't think the outlook is too good.
The kids were thrilled to see her and started calling her 'Mom' right away. As I was going over things with her, they were running around endlessly and giving my Mom a very hard time. Our second caseworker, Mark, was present and was watching and taking everything in. The kids were very hyper...
At first, Marie seemed like it would be a piece of cake. However by the end of the hour, I could see that she wasn't as confident.
The boys were overly excited to leave with someone that they didn't even know. This is their second foster care placement. I can honestly say, though, that they were the same way with Jake and I. We were Mommy and Daddy from Day 1. We also thought it would be a 'piece of cake'.
I helped Marie get the boys in their car seats and kissed their little foreheads goodbye. I do have Marie's number, and she also has mine to keep in contact. D kissed and hugged me back. He is 5. However, N pushed me away and said that he didn't love me, and that I wasn't his Mommy anymore. He had a new Mommy. It was so erie and sad...That was my final, lasting memory...
I won't be forgetting that memory anytime soon. Even my Mom, who always spoils them, was snubbed, mostly by N.
I venture out to the hospital tomorrow for 1:00. We will see what happens. I talked to the head nurse, and she said that they want to do a PFT and x-ray first. We will then 'take it from there' so we'll see. Regardless of being admitted or not, I still think I made the right decision for the boys. I wasn't equipped enough for their needs...