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Have any adult CFers/tx patients on this site adopted a baby?

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mom2lillian

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My DH and I considered adoption before trying IVF and I know the one agency we checked with was OK as long as I had a doctor letter stating my health was in a state at the time that I was at least capable of caring for a child or something like that. I know it sounds like a privacy violation having to have that and it may be a bit but the case studies for adoptions are VERY in depth leaving little privacy in general any ways and I would NOT recommend 'not revealing' somthing from those I know who have done it that would be a huge problem were it uncovered.
 
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ladybug

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Hi,

My DH and I looked extensively into international adoption a few years ago. A couple of agencies would not work with us when we told them I had CF, as they said most countries will not adopt to a CF parent. A couple places told us they would work with us to TRY to help us adopt, but again some countries are extremely strict. Most require a doctor to say you have a "normal" life expectancy and are healthy even if you have CF (The applications also ask questions with this wording). A couple countries (such as Russia) are said to require a medical exam IN Russia with THEIR doctors before you can adopt. They may also require you to see a specialist in their country to verify your health. Other countries, such as China, require you are 30 years old before they will adopt, but have adopted to CFers. Other countries are not specific about whether they'll adopt to someone with a chronic illness, but you still MUST have a medical exam to verify you are healthy enough or have a "normal" life expectancy.

Its all a bit daunting, but has been done by CF parents... it just takes jumping through the hoops and finding out which agencies will really try to HELP you adopt regardless of CF and also which countries you can even attempt an adoption with CF.

I have no idea about U.S. adoptions as we decided not to adopt in the U.S.

The agencies we looked into required 1-2 home studies during the adoption process. They do interviews and look around your home.

I don't think its a good idea (or even possible) to hide the fact you have CF for an international adoption. There are too many medical documents you have to have filled out by a physician (and yourself) and the home study will inevitably show your medications and vest, etc... So, I wouldn't suggest trying to hide you have CF. Just be honest and open about it and how it effects your daily life. They want to make sure you're in a good position mentally and physically for a baby, which is best for parent and child.

Good luck!!! Feel free to PM me if you want more info. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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ladybug

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Hi,

My DH and I looked extensively into international adoption a few years ago. A couple of agencies would not work with us when we told them I had CF, as they said most countries will not adopt to a CF parent. A couple places told us they would work with us to TRY to help us adopt, but again some countries are extremely strict. Most require a doctor to say you have a "normal" life expectancy and are healthy even if you have CF (The applications also ask questions with this wording). A couple countries (such as Russia) are said to require a medical exam IN Russia with THEIR doctors before you can adopt. They may also require you to see a specialist in their country to verify your health. Other countries, such as China, require you are 30 years old before they will adopt, but have adopted to CFers. Other countries are not specific about whether they'll adopt to someone with a chronic illness, but you still MUST have a medical exam to verify you are healthy enough or have a "normal" life expectancy.

Its all a bit daunting, but has been done by CF parents... it just takes jumping through the hoops and finding out which agencies will really try to HELP you adopt regardless of CF and also which countries you can even attempt an adoption with CF.

I have no idea about U.S. adoptions as we decided not to adopt in the U.S.

The agencies we looked into required 1-2 home studies during the adoption process. They do interviews and look around your home.

I don't think its a good idea (or even possible) to hide the fact you have CF for an international adoption. There are too many medical documents you have to have filled out by a physician (and yourself) and the home study will inevitably show your medications and vest, etc... So, I wouldn't suggest trying to hide you have CF. Just be honest and open about it and how it effects your daily life. They want to make sure you're in a good position mentally and physically for a baby, which is best for parent and child.

Good luck!!! Feel free to PM me if you want more info. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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ladybug

New member
Hi,

My DH and I looked extensively into international adoption a few years ago. A couple of agencies would not work with us when we told them I had CF, as they said most countries will not adopt to a CF parent. A couple places told us they would work with us to TRY to help us adopt, but again some countries are extremely strict. Most require a doctor to say you have a "normal" life expectancy and are healthy even if you have CF (The applications also ask questions with this wording). A couple countries (such as Russia) are said to require a medical exam IN Russia with THEIR doctors before you can adopt. They may also require you to see a specialist in their country to verify your health. Other countries, such as China, require you are 30 years old before they will adopt, but have adopted to CFers. Other countries are not specific about whether they'll adopt to someone with a chronic illness, but you still MUST have a medical exam to verify you are healthy enough or have a "normal" life expectancy.

Its all a bit daunting, but has been done by CF parents... it just takes jumping through the hoops and finding out which agencies will really try to HELP you adopt regardless of CF and also which countries you can even attempt an adoption with CF.

I have no idea about U.S. adoptions as we decided not to adopt in the U.S.

The agencies we looked into required 1-2 home studies during the adoption process. They do interviews and look around your home.

I don't think its a good idea (or even possible) to hide the fact you have CF for an international adoption. There are too many medical documents you have to have filled out by a physician (and yourself) and the home study will inevitably show your medications and vest, etc... So, I wouldn't suggest trying to hide you have CF. Just be honest and open about it and how it effects your daily life. They want to make sure you're in a good position mentally and physically for a baby, which is best for parent and child.

Good luck!!! Feel free to PM me if you want more info. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Mathews

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We have adopted twice (1 domestic, 1 international).

Please PM me if you want more details. I would be happy to share both experiences.

I have two wonderful children!!
 
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Mathews

New member
We have adopted twice (1 domestic, 1 international).

Please PM me if you want more details. I would be happy to share both experiences.

I have two wonderful children!!
 
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Mathews

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We have adopted twice (1 domestic, 1 international).

Please PM me if you want more details. I would be happy to share both experiences.

I have two wonderful children!!
 
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anon

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hard to find the right words. clearly, you mean well. but sentiments like this, "adoption is so heroic!" are hard for me as an adoptive parent to hear. my partner and i don't think of ourselves as heroic. our childrens' birthparents made a gut-wrenching and courageous decision to place their children for adoption because of difficult circumstances. we were blessed to be given the privilege of raising our children and giving them all our love. there is no heroism involved. only lots of love for the children all around.
 
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anon

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hard to find the right words. clearly, you mean well. but sentiments like this, "adoption is so heroic!" are hard for me as an adoptive parent to hear. my partner and i don't think of ourselves as heroic. our childrens' birthparents made a gut-wrenching and courageous decision to place their children for adoption because of difficult circumstances. we were blessed to be given the privilege of raising our children and giving them all our love. there is no heroism involved. only lots of love for the children all around.
 
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anon

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hard to find the right words. clearly, you mean well. but sentiments like this, "adoption is so heroic!" are hard for me as an adoptive parent to hear. my partner and i don't think of ourselves as heroic. our childrens' birthparents made a gut-wrenching and courageous decision to place their children for adoption because of difficult circumstances. we were blessed to be given the privilege of raising our children and giving them all our love. there is no heroism involved. only lots of love for the children all around.
 
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NoExcuses

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i only meant wonderful things when i said that. in no way did i mean to offend, or make you upset.

quite the contrary.

i think adoption is incredible. that's all i was trying to express.......
 
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NoExcuses

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i only meant wonderful things when i said that. in no way did i mean to offend, or make you upset.

quite the contrary.

i think adoption is incredible. that's all i was trying to express.......
 
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NoExcuses

New member
i only meant wonderful things when i said that. in no way did i mean to offend, or make you upset.

quite the contrary.

i think adoption is incredible. that's all i was trying to express.......
 
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julie

New member
Anon, rest assured that Amy (sakasuka) is being most sincere in her post and stating her opinion about adoption. She finds it amazing and just wants adoptive parents to know that.

I know Mark and I looked, very breifly into adoption but wanted to try IVF first. HOwever, just in the little investigation I did (and it was very little), it seemed rather difficult, time consuming and financially draining. Home evaluation and home visits, forking over a LOT of money to adopt a baby who NEEDS parents (more money than what we paid for IVF), giving medical records.... it was just so much to open our house to a baby. If you can, I do think private adoption is the way to go, but that's not always possible.
 
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