Having CF and having a Partner.. Advice for the CFer.

[anonymous]

Ok folks I have cf and I had a girlfriend for eight years who I was engageed too and she stood by me the whole time.
Well I had alot of emotinal problems and as time went on I pushed and pushed her away.
Part of it was me being a jerk.. Part of it was me thinking she deserved someone who could give her all she wanted.

Well finally I did push her away and she left me. Not out of wanting to get away from me but from not being able to deal with how I treated her and finally as time went on, distanced myself from her.
Its been about six years since then and I still regret it. Theres not a day that goes by that I dont think about her. Heck I still have dreams about her and me getting back together. But shes married to someone else now and has two kids.

I wonder if I did what was right pushing her away... She has a husband now and I think she is happy. Although I have NO contact with her at all now and shortly after we broke up she would not even speak to me and it CRUSHED ME, I think it was for her best.
Or was it? I dunno..
All I do know is that I miss her and I have never even tried to find anyone else.
Did I do what was right? Sometimes I think yes for her, other times I think I just ruined my life.
I dunno... But agian I dont think ill EVER find anyone liker her ever again. And Im pretty sure that I will be alone when it comes to a love.. forever.

Well I hope the Non CFers know why we push others away.
Sometimes we think that it is harder for the people we love to see us having CF than for us to go through having it.

Question is what do I do now? Six yrs since then and I cant even look for anyone else.
I have my family and one friend and thats it.
But theres nothing I would not give to have one more day with her.

Matt- 27 yrs old CFer and CFRD.

 

[anonymous]

Yeah, it was prob a bad idea to push her away. I mean, who knows how long one's life will last?

For a healthy person, or a CFer, life expectancy is unknown, and one has to persue whatever makes them happy.

I am getting married in January, and I am not worried at all. I exercise like a fanatic to keep myself healthy, and I go after life the way all people should.

I mean, who knows what the future holds?

Get over the chick, get out of the house (if possible) and enjoy life! Find another woman. There are millions out there!

 

[anonymous]

I also have CF and I am 18 yrs old, i got married back inMarch right before I turned 18..
When I first met my husband Jimmy I thought well he knows I have CF,but if he really loves me he wont leave me because of that. He did not he treats me just like anyone else because he doesnt want me to feel any different from everyone else in the world. My husband loves me more than anything. Im not sure how long Im going to be here, but I try to enjoy life the best that I can. I was first diagnosed with CF when I was 17 months old.
I usually stay in the hospital for two weeks at a time about twice a year, which is no fun because I have to be away from my husband and the rest of my family for two weeks. I wanted to write because sometimes I feel like the only one with CF even though I know Im not.

Lee Ann Caylor,18...

 

[anonymous]

Hey,

I think pushing the one u love away is not a good idea. If he or she loves then she/he should stand for u in difficult times. However, it happened pal and there is no benefit of regreting it. If i were u i would start looking for someone else bec i'm sure u'll find a grl who'll love u as much as ur ex gf. Life doesnt stop here. You should go ahead and get urself together. Dont waste ur time. Someone might be waiting for u.


Rami 21w/cf

 

[anonymous]

I think that you just need to get out and meet some new people. Try to improve your social life. Maybe try one of those internet groups. You never know, you might meet somebody that will make you forget about the other one.

Dave 29 w/cf