(((((OP))))), I really do feel for you....always the optimist, I do hope things get better, but you know what, maybe a little away time might be good for both of you. When I was married, sometimes I would take "mental holidays" from my husband by spending a few days away with my mom or friend just to clear my head and get my priorities straight. I am wondering if that might be a good idea with you, spend some time with someone who is positive, who will make you feel good. Usually when I did that, my husband would be a bit better, but would soon revert to his old ways...But what was important was that my sanity was preserved. Like I said before, it didn't work out and we are divorcing, been separated over a year now..he has gone on with his life, has a girlfriend and I have gone on with mine, vent and all with my children. Some things aren't meant to be, maybe this is one of t hem...do what you feel is right in your heart. It sounds like you have done alot of comprimising in this relationship, seems very one way to me...I wish I could take some of that sadness away from you, I know it is such a hard thing to go through. You have my hugs, Jenn <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">