Hong Kong friend

[anonymous]

So my friend from high school has been living in Hong Kong for a year, and just got back on wednesday.

at first i didnt even think of it and was planning on seeing him- but then i was like "ahh, what if he has some gross virus" (not the bird flu- but anything!)

So i talked to my doctor and she said that as long as he wasnt symtomatic or sick there was nothing to really do and to try not to worry, but then i talked to him and after making plans was like 'So, i have to ask, youi are not sick or anything right?" and he was like "actuallky I am, i had kind of a sore throat last night and feel a little weird today."

So it was awkward and i tried to explain to him that i cant hang out with sick people, especially ones from Asia, (or anywhere else really, foreign) and hewas like "no, no, i am fine, i am not sick."

Basically I am paranoid- but think I have the right to be. I am just getting over my third thing of the season despite the fact that i have tried really hard this year to not get sick, and i just cant deal with catching something else...so i dont want to see him- at least not right now

what do you all think?

 

[thelizardqueen]

If he said he was sick to begin with, he probably changed his story because you said you couldn't hang with him if he was. If I were you I would rather be safer then sorry, and wouldn't want to catch some wierd nasty bug. If he's any kind of friend, he will understand. Just my two cents though.<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

 

[teknogeek1300]

Yeh, I'd say stay away as well. Tell him he's infectious. Tell him it's like the T Virus from Resident Evil. lmao

 

[kybert]

you know, i cant stand it when people insist they arent sick when its so obvious that they are. ive caught so many bugs this way and you end up trusting the people who do this less and less. i say stay away.

 

[anonymous]

Did you already try the oregano capsules? I take them since December and haven´t caugt a cold since.
When we got back from Thailand, my friend got quite sick (cough, fever, sneezing), although she normally does seldom catch anything, but I didn´t!


Uli,43,Germany

 

[Scarlett81]

OK- this is my number one complaint too! It's so hard b/c people mean well-but you have to protect yourself.

With me, I've been home on Ivs, so I've been missing church for a month or so. I have alot of friends there-and it's a very close community. So I go last week as a treat to myself-and just sitting there listening to the discussion is fine-it's afterwards b/c everyone wants to hug you and kiss you and see how you are. Well I get mobbed with hugs afterwards-and each time-I strain my head to the opposite side of my body so I don't have face to face contact with anyone!!

It's like-you can't get mad at people for wanting to hug you and see you! But I CAN"T get another bug!! So I think if you're the type of person that can speak up and say 'I really can't hug or kiss anyone'-good for you. If not-like me-I just have a hard time saying anything-I just have to force myself to stay away from church until I'm 100%. It's hard-it hurts. My lifeline is there. But I have to protect myself.

It's your decision. If it were me, I'd probably call him up and give a lengthy explanation of why you can't catch anything-how it could give you an exacerbation-and each exacerbation causes more damage to your already sensitive lungs. You know too-maybe people need to hear the absolute truth too-that this is a serious life/death issue. People don't like hearing that but its true.

Maybe you could say-come over here-and go to a hotel until you feel like you've gotten over whatever you have and then we'll spend the rest of your trip hanging out.

 

[anonymous]

So I ended up not seeing him. it was hard because i couldn't really tell HIM not to come- since all of my other friends wanted to see him as well- i ended up seeing all of my other friends, and then leaving around 11 when they were about to meet up with him. My closest friends really understand---the hard part with him was that i had said enough that some people would get a clue and say 'well, maybe it is not a good idea we see eachother' but instead he just said "no i am not that sick....."

it was probably better for me anyway- i have been fighting a cold like i said and so i went home early last night and got a good rest , whereas i would have been out late otherwise.

it sucks though- regardless of creepy asian diseases i feel like i am constantly paranoid about catching things --to the point of HIGH anxiety. mostly i knew that if i saw him, the anxiety about wondering if i was going to get sick in the next few days would be almost the worst part