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Is it normal to fight with your parents and hate each other

DeeChick

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Hi I am a 15 year old chick.
I fight with my mum alot,akot alot.I was just womdeing is it normal.The other day she told me that i was hopless.I think we need time apart.what do u think?
 

anonymous

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It's hard to say although I can't imagine being away from your family isn't in anyones best interest. Yes, I think itis pretty normal for teenagers and parents to argue cos teenagers turn into little monsters who grunt, scowl, don't listen, answer back, leave a mess, complain when asked to help out SO it's easy to see why parents get cross. Calling you hopeless isn't really nice of course but us parents say things we don't mean when we get to the end of our tether. I'm sorry darl. I"m sure you know if your Mum is a big meany or whethr she is a caring Mum who lost it. It sounds like you might think time away is a cool thing to do. I suggest you talk to her when you can tell she is relaxed and in a receptive mood. Tell her that you want to try harder and hope she does to so that you do not argue so much and tell her how it makes you feel when she says you're hopeless. I have had days when my kids wouldn't move in time for school, not taking pills, doing treatments, leaving rooms etc in a mess and I have cried all day cos all I've done is yell before school but I'm sure alot of other families are in the same situation. I Love my kids more than anything in the world but teenage years are hard. I wish you luck, you must make an effort too and know that you are certainly not hopeless an in a few years time you and your Mum will probably have a laugh and enjoy each others company.
Best of Luck
 

DeeChick

New member
Hey,
Thanx.I know I should try harder but the thing is even if I try harder she gets abgry at me all the time and I mean all the time.I know she loves me but she just gets on my nerves if you know what I mean.But I guess it is kind of hard just being the only parent.She just is so anoying.But I will try,really hard.
Thank you
 

anonymous

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When I was in my early teens, I fought with my parents all the time. Mostly it was me not wanting to "conform" to their idea of how I should be. When I got a little older (15ish) I started to realize that I was almost ready to go out into this world on my own and I wanted to be as ready as possible. So I started shaping up and learning how to be responsible.

I don't know why your mom nags you so much, but most likely she is overworked and tired. Maybe you should sit down and talk with her about this. You could tell her you love her and that you want to make her happy while making yourself happy too. Tell her that you don't like being called hopeless bc you are afraid that you may actually become hopeless if you hear that enough. My guess is that she will hear what you are saying and that you will notice some change from her. Moms get really stressed & tired then do/say things they wouldn't normally say. But no matter what they do/say it is almost certain that she wants the best for.

Good Luck, being a teenager isn't easy! Okay, being an adult isn't really easy either, just different!!!
 

anonymous

New member
Hoping things have improved for you and just want to say that I care. I want all children in the world to be happy most of the time. Take Care & I hope with you making an effort your Mum might finds things easier. Yes it must be tough being a one parent family. Take Care Look after yourself. If you try hard, be the best you can be most of the time, be kind when you can, no moatter what happens u will know u are a special chick who will grow up to be a happy well adjusted caring adult.
Sending big Hugs
 
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