Living with someone with CF

[Dizzymd123]

I have a girlfriend i have been dating for over a year now. not like this is the first time this has happend but i think she really doesnt understand one main important thing in my life. Everyone who has ever been in my life wants to stay close and in contact. therefore i have alot of ex's and an ex wife that want to visit or talk to me. mostly during my hardest times to show thier support. lately i just recieved a double lung transplant as of jan 18th far im doing ok. she works nights as a nurse 7pm-7am. when she is home it seems she wants me all to herself. so when she leave my friends come over. discussing who came over is always a guaranteed fight. how do you explain to someone how important it is to have alot of people who love and support you in their life? i may be dragging on here. except we had a fight the other day where i actually thought i was going to die. couldnt breathe, my chest got tight, it was the worst feeling. then to top it off she told me i had to move out. im only one month post transplant. i dont need this stress. what advice do you have for me?

btw im also starting a website called livingaftertransplant.com its currently down right now. it will be a site where i will invite cf couples or patients to come blog with me and share our stories. ran by a true cf'r <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ME!! i am so bored with these 6 months off. its driving me nuts,

if you are interested in bloggin on my site when i get it done in the next few days i would love it.. email me at dizzymd123@yahoo.com

you can visit my actual journey at rickysjourney.com

Thanks
Ricky

 

[Dizzymd123]

I have a girlfriend i have been dating for over a year now. not like this is the first time this has happend but i think she really doesnt understand one main important thing in my life. Everyone who has ever been in my life wants to stay close and in contact. therefore i have alot of ex's and an ex wife that want to visit or talk to me. mostly during my hardest times to show thier support. lately i just recieved a double lung transplant as of jan 18th far im doing ok. she works nights as a nurse 7pm-7am. when she is home it seems she wants me all to herself. so when she leave my friends come over. discussing who came over is always a guaranteed fight. how do you explain to someone how important it is to have alot of people who love and support you in their life? i may be dragging on here. except we had a fight the other day where i actually thought i was going to die. couldnt breathe, my chest got tight, it was the worst feeling. then to top it off she told me i had to move out. im only one month post transplant. i dont need this stress. what advice do you have for me?

btw im also starting a website called livingaftertransplant.com its currently down right now. it will be a site where i will invite cf couples or patients to come blog with me and share our stories. ran by a true cf'r <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ME!! i am so bored with these 6 months off. its driving me nuts,

if you are interested in bloggin on my site when i get it done in the next few days i would love it.. email me at dizzymd123@yahoo.com

you can visit my actual journey at rickysjourney.com

Thanks
Ricky

 

[Dizzymd123]

I have a girlfriend i have been dating for over a year now. not like this is the first time this has happend but i think she really doesnt understand one main important thing in my life. Everyone who has ever been in my life wants to stay close and in contact. therefore i have alot of ex's and an ex wife that want to visit or talk to me. mostly during my hardest times to show thier support. lately i just recieved a double lung transplant as of jan 18th far im doing ok. she works nights as a nurse 7pm-7am. when she is home it seems she wants me all to herself. so when she leave my friends come over. discussing who came over is always a guaranteed fight. how do you explain to someone how important it is to have alot of people who love and support you in their life? i may be dragging on here. except we had a fight the other day where i actually thought i was going to die. couldnt breathe, my chest got tight, it was the worst feeling. then to top it off she told me i had to move out. im only one month post transplant. i dont need this stress. what advice do you have for me?

btw im also starting a website called livingaftertransplant.com its currently down right now. it will be a site where i will invite cf couples or patients to come blog with me and share our stories. ran by a true cf'r <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ME!! i am so bored with these 6 months off. its driving me nuts,

if you are interested in bloggin on my site when i get it done in the next few days i would love it.. email me at dizzymd123@yahoo.com

you can visit my actual journey at rickysjourney.com

Thanks
Ricky

 

[Dizzymd123]

I have a girlfriend i have been dating for over a year now. not like this is the first time this has happend but i think she really doesnt understand one main important thing in my life. Everyone who has ever been in my life wants to stay close and in contact. therefore i have alot of ex's and an ex wife that want to visit or talk to me. mostly during my hardest times to show thier support. lately i just recieved a double lung transplant as of jan 18th far im doing ok. she works nights as a nurse 7pm-7am. when she is home it seems she wants me all to herself. so when she leave my friends come over. discussing who came over is always a guaranteed fight. how do you explain to someone how important it is to have alot of people who love and support you in their life? i may be dragging on here. except we had a fight the other day where i actually thought i was going to die. couldnt breathe, my chest got tight, it was the worst feeling. then to top it off she told me i had to move out. im only one month post transplant. i dont need this stress. what advice do you have for me?

btw im also starting a website called livingaftertransplant.com its currently down right now. it will be a site where i will invite cf couples or patients to come blog with me and share our stories. ran by a true cf'r <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ME!! i am so bored with these 6 months off. its driving me nuts,

if you are interested in bloggin on my site when i get it done in the next few days i would love it.. email me at dizzymd123@yahoo.com

you can visit my actual journey at rickysjourney.com

Thanks
Ricky

 

[Dizzymd123]

I have a girlfriend i have been dating for over a year now. not like this is the first time this has happend but i think she really doesnt understand one main important thing in my life. Everyone who has ever been in my life wants to stay close and in contact. therefore i have alot of ex's and an ex wife that want to visit or talk to me. mostly during my hardest times to show thier support. lately i just recieved a double lung transplant as of jan 18th far im doing ok. she works nights as a nurse 7pm-7am. when she is home it seems she wants me all to herself. so when she leave my friends come over. discussing who came over is always a guaranteed fight. how do you explain to someone how important it is to have alot of people who love and support you in their life? i may be dragging on here. except we had a fight the other day where i actually thought i was going to die. couldnt breathe, my chest got tight, it was the worst feeling. then to top it off she told me i had to move out. im only one month post transplant. i dont need this stress. what advice do you have for me?
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<br />btw im also starting a website called livingaftertransplant.com its currently down right now. it will be a site where i will invite cf couples or patients to come blog with me and share our stories. ran by a true cf'r <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ME!! i am so bored with these 6 months off. its driving me nuts,
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<br />if you are interested in bloggin on my site when i get it done in the next few days i would love it.. email me at dizzymd123@yahoo.com
<br />
<br />you can visit my actual journey at rickysjourney.com
<br />
<br />Thanks
<br />Ricky

 

[Transplantmommy]

Ricky....As a CFer I know what the stress can do to someone and it's not good for you, especially so shortly after transplant. She needs to realize that you will stay in contact with many people for many years to come! I have one ex-boyfriend and a couple of really close guy friends that I stay in touch with and my husband has no problems with it because he understands that all of these people care about me and want to know what happens. This was all part of my HUGE support group when I got the transplants and it really helped me recover faster.

Maybe you should have her read what you wrote on here to see if that gets her attention as to what she's doing? You definitely need at least one person helping you out if she's not there. My Mom lived with me for 6 months post transplant and if she couldn't be here during the day, a friend of mine would come over and check on me to make sure that I was doing all right. Then again, I had a baby to take care of too.

I hope that things work out for you soon. You really DO NOT need that when you are trying to heal.

PS....I posted this reply in the transplant section too.

 

[Transplantmommy]

Ricky....As a CFer I know what the stress can do to someone and it's not good for you, especially so shortly after transplant. She needs to realize that you will stay in contact with many people for many years to come! I have one ex-boyfriend and a couple of really close guy friends that I stay in touch with and my husband has no problems with it because he understands that all of these people care about me and want to know what happens. This was all part of my HUGE support group when I got the transplants and it really helped me recover faster.

Maybe you should have her read what you wrote on here to see if that gets her attention as to what she's doing? You definitely need at least one person helping you out if she's not there. My Mom lived with me for 6 months post transplant and if she couldn't be here during the day, a friend of mine would come over and check on me to make sure that I was doing all right. Then again, I had a baby to take care of too.

I hope that things work out for you soon. You really DO NOT need that when you are trying to heal.

PS....I posted this reply in the transplant section too.

 

[Transplantmommy]

Ricky....As a CFer I know what the stress can do to someone and it's not good for you, especially so shortly after transplant. She needs to realize that you will stay in contact with many people for many years to come! I have one ex-boyfriend and a couple of really close guy friends that I stay in touch with and my husband has no problems with it because he understands that all of these people care about me and want to know what happens. This was all part of my HUGE support group when I got the transplants and it really helped me recover faster.

Maybe you should have her read what you wrote on here to see if that gets her attention as to what she's doing? You definitely need at least one person helping you out if she's not there. My Mom lived with me for 6 months post transplant and if she couldn't be here during the day, a friend of mine would come over and check on me to make sure that I was doing all right. Then again, I had a baby to take care of too.

I hope that things work out for you soon. You really DO NOT need that when you are trying to heal.

PS....I posted this reply in the transplant section too.

 

[Transplantmommy]

Ricky....As a CFer I know what the stress can do to someone and it's not good for you, especially so shortly after transplant. She needs to realize that you will stay in contact with many people for many years to come! I have one ex-boyfriend and a couple of really close guy friends that I stay in touch with and my husband has no problems with it because he understands that all of these people care about me and want to know what happens. This was all part of my HUGE support group when I got the transplants and it really helped me recover faster.

Maybe you should have her read what you wrote on here to see if that gets her attention as to what she's doing? You definitely need at least one person helping you out if she's not there. My Mom lived with me for 6 months post transplant and if she couldn't be here during the day, a friend of mine would come over and check on me to make sure that I was doing all right. Then again, I had a baby to take care of too.

I hope that things work out for you soon. You really DO NOT need that when you are trying to heal.

PS....I posted this reply in the transplant section too.

 

[Transplantmommy]

Ricky....As a CFer I know what the stress can do to someone and it's not good for you, especially so shortly after transplant. She needs to realize that you will stay in contact with many people for many years to come! I have one ex-boyfriend and a couple of really close guy friends that I stay in touch with and my husband has no problems with it because he understands that all of these people care about me and want to know what happens. This was all part of my HUGE support group when I got the transplants and it really helped me recover faster.
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<br />Maybe you should have her read what you wrote on here to see if that gets her attention as to what she's doing? You definitely need at least one person helping you out if she's not there. My Mom lived with me for 6 months post transplant and if she couldn't be here during the day, a friend of mine would come over and check on me to make sure that I was doing all right. Then again, I had a baby to take care of too.
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<br />I hope that things work out for you soon. You really DO NOT need that when you are trying to heal.
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<br />PS....I posted this reply in the transplant section too.