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Males with CF and having children?

anonymous

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Hi. I am a 27yr old with CF, I found out when I was about 18 that I could not have children do to CF and was never told there was a procedure that could make it possible.Does this procedure work ALL of the time???????????????????????
 

anonymous

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This is a heavy! Yes there definitely is a procedure that most likely can help you become a father, but it's very, very expensive if you don't have insurance that covers invitro fertilization and other drugs, procedures, etc. I've been down that bumpy road about 10 yrs ago and could'nt afford to do it. But thankfully, times have changed and reproductive knowledge is much greater now. Don't waste any time tho, see a reproductive specialist soon and get ALL the options available to you. If your experience is like ours, you'll have to do allot of research too to make sure you have access to all the procedures that may be available to you by the laws in your state. I wish you well and keep us posted how things progress.
 

anonymous

New member
Anonymous,If you are planning on having a child please make sure your partner has a genetic test done to make sure that she is not a carrier. If she is there is 50/50 chance that your child will have CF too, and I am pretty sure you don't want that to happen, do you?Dave 29 w/cf
 

anonymous

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Well currently I am single so no the child thing is not a current issue now. but I was engaged about four years ago. Things did not work out but it was not because of the CF. But I do remember I always felt guilty and frustrated with having my fiance live with the fact that we could not have children, and to tell you the truth I let alot of things bother me that dint matter to her. Ultimately I think I destroyed the relationship which sucks because we were together for seven yrs and she was my best friend. I still havnet been in a serious relationship since then.Most of the time I just think to myself that I blew my chance at finding the one and she was the one.Since then yes ive been lonely I just dont know how to get back out there.All my friends are married already so no singles to go hang out with and i feel to old for the club thing at 27 (especially when I have no one to go with).I really think I missed my chance at a life with someone.
 

anonymous

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hi, this is a first for me. my partner has cf and we are getting married in about a year. we are attending a fertility specialist to have children. basically, once they get the sperm out of the man it's the same as ivf after that.to explain: they aspirate the sperm fron the scrotum and freeze it. it's called icse, intra cellular sperm extraction. after they have the sperm out, the man's part is done as such. the woman is hyper ovulated using hormone injections and they take out lots of eggs and artificially combine the eggs and sperm. they implant them in the woman (obviously) and then it's up to mother nature. there is a high chance of multiple births and miscarriage. it carries the exact same risks as ivf.i hope this has shed some light on the subject.good luck and get on to it asap.
 

anonymous

New member
Just to put my $.02 in. Dave is incorrect. "If she is there is 50/50 chance that your child will have CF too" Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. Get your genetics straight. The child has a 1/4 chance of NOT having CF and NOT carrying the gene, a 1/4 chance of having CF, and 1/2 chance of carrying the gene. But I do agree with you that a genetics test needs to be done beforehand.~C
 

anonymous

New member
Dear 27 year old,Don't beat yourself up about the relationship that didn't work out. If you were meant to be together, you would be together.Also, don't let this be a "shadow" in future relationships. If you share this information w/ girls that may have been interested in you and act all depressed about it, they will never pursue a relationship w/ you because they think they will never have your heart 100%.Maybe you could try to get into some type of group situation, i.e. dance lessons, church groups, discussion groups if there are any in your area, etc. and even if you don't meet a gal there, maybe someone there will have a "friend" that they think would be perfect for you.Hang in there <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

anonymous

New member
Dave was correct on his genetics. If one person has CF (therefore has 2 gene mutations) and the other one is just a carrier (1 gene mutation), then there IS a 50/50 chance that the child will have cf. "C" - your calculations are only correct if both parents are just carriers.Just had to stick up for you Dave! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">And lets not forget - Many people have fertility problems! So men - don't beat yourself up about it!! At least you know your chances now. I know many couples who have been trying for years only to find out that they would have to have IVF or take another route to have children. Doctors like for healthy couples to try for a year before any fertility testing is done. So at least you can get tested right away and take the steps necessary for you to have children. Keep an open mind and DON'T GIVE UP!!
 
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