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palinsyaya

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my grandson has cf he has been doing good until now. my dd doesnt understand cf or doesnt care. she has moved out 2 times with a boyfriend the 1st time she didnt take his vest or meds with her so he got sick and lost 2 pounds. this time she has been moved out for 2 weeks and now he has pnemona in his right lung [sorry i cant spell] i think she plans his treatments around her so call busy life, so if she is busy he dosent get treatments or meds.i tried to talk to her about it and she says its her life and her baby. little infor she has 2 other health kids that she gave up. what do i do or should i just wait and see that maybe she will wake up and grow up.
 
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palinsyaya

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my grandson has cf he has been doing good until now. my dd doesnt understand cf or doesnt care. she has moved out 2 times with a boyfriend the 1st time she didnt take his vest or meds with her so he got sick and lost 2 pounds. this time she has been moved out for 2 weeks and now he has pnemona in his right lung [sorry i cant spell] i think she plans his treatments around her so call busy life, so if she is busy he dosent get treatments or meds.i tried to talk to her about it and she says its her life and her baby. little infor she has 2 other health kids that she gave up. what do i do or should i just wait and see that maybe she will wake up and grow up.
 
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palinsyaya

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my grandson has cf he has been doing good until now. my dd doesnt understand cf or doesnt care. she has moved out 2 times with a boyfriend the 1st time she didnt take his vest or meds with her so he got sick and lost 2 pounds. this time she has been moved out for 2 weeks and now he has pnemona in his right lung [sorry i cant spell] i think she plans his treatments around her so call busy life, so if she is busy he dosent get treatments or meds.i tried to talk to her about it and she says its her life and her baby. little infor she has 2 other health kids that she gave up. what do i do or should i just wait and see that maybe she will wake up and grow up.
 
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Mommafirst

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Oh gosh, I am so sorry. This must be so difficult for you to watch. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> HOnestly, I don't have a grown child, so I can't say how I'd behave in your situation, but I'm inclined to believe I'd be all about protecting that poor boy. I'd tell her that she'd better grow up or she's going to lose this child as well. And then I'd consider calling CPS. It is a crime, in my opinion, to ignore a child's health needs for your own social life.

So sorry you have this to worry about. I can't even begin to imagine being a mom who isn't eager to learn as much as possible about this disease and figure out the best way to help my child with all I have.
 
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Mommafirst

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Oh gosh, I am so sorry. This must be so difficult for you to watch. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> HOnestly, I don't have a grown child, so I can't say how I'd behave in your situation, but I'm inclined to believe I'd be all about protecting that poor boy. I'd tell her that she'd better grow up or she's going to lose this child as well. And then I'd consider calling CPS. It is a crime, in my opinion, to ignore a child's health needs for your own social life.

So sorry you have this to worry about. I can't even begin to imagine being a mom who isn't eager to learn as much as possible about this disease and figure out the best way to help my child with all I have.
 
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Mommafirst

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Oh gosh, I am so sorry. This must be so difficult for you to watch. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> HOnestly, I don't have a grown child, so I can't say how I'd behave in your situation, but I'm inclined to believe I'd be all about protecting that poor boy. I'd tell her that she'd better grow up or she's going to lose this child as well. And then I'd consider calling CPS. It is a crime, in my opinion, to ignore a child's health needs for your own social life.
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<br />So sorry you have this to worry about. I can't even begin to imagine being a mom who isn't eager to learn as much as possible about this disease and figure out the best way to help my child with all I have.
 
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JennifersHope

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I know this is going to sound blunt, but I would report her to whatever department of social services in your area deals with children. That is neglect. Hopefully and prayerfully she will either straighten up or give him to a loving family,

In one second I would take a CF child and love him for all of his life. It is very important that he gets all his treatments everyday, never skipping,

I am glad you reached out here, that shows you are a responsible person. Please help your grandchild get the care he needs, he needs someone he can depend on. Like I said, maybe call DYFUS or whatever.. just do something so your grandbaby has a chance to thrive in this life.

Please stay around and keep us posted how things are going.
 
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JennifersHope

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I know this is going to sound blunt, but I would report her to whatever department of social services in your area deals with children. That is neglect. Hopefully and prayerfully she will either straighten up or give him to a loving family,

In one second I would take a CF child and love him for all of his life. It is very important that he gets all his treatments everyday, never skipping,

I am glad you reached out here, that shows you are a responsible person. Please help your grandchild get the care he needs, he needs someone he can depend on. Like I said, maybe call DYFUS or whatever.. just do something so your grandbaby has a chance to thrive in this life.

Please stay around and keep us posted how things are going.
 
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JennifersHope

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I know this is going to sound blunt, but I would report her to whatever department of social services in your area deals with children. That is neglect. Hopefully and prayerfully she will either straighten up or give him to a loving family,
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<br />In one second I would take a CF child and love him for all of his life. It is very important that he gets all his treatments everyday, never skipping,
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<br />I am glad you reached out here, that shows you are a responsible person. Please help your grandchild get the care he needs, he needs someone he can depend on. Like I said, maybe call DYFUS or whatever.. just do something so your grandbaby has a chance to thrive in this life.
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<br />Please stay around and keep us posted how things are going.
 
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crickit715

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its a terrible situation she is putting you in! but i agree with the posts above...you are doing the right thing by seeking information and thinking about your grandson first. i am sorry you are being made to make this kind of decision and hope you can find somekind of peace with the right choice! good luck!
 
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crickit715

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its a terrible situation she is putting you in! but i agree with the posts above...you are doing the right thing by seeking information and thinking about your grandson first. i am sorry you are being made to make this kind of decision and hope you can find somekind of peace with the right choice! good luck!
 
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crickit715

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its a terrible situation she is putting you in! but i agree with the posts above...you are doing the right thing by seeking information and thinking about your grandson first. i am sorry you are being made to make this kind of decision and hope you can find somekind of peace with the right choice! good luck!
 
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AleksandraKaczynska

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I'mm sorry you,re going through this....
but I must agree it's a form of neglect and perhaps the right social care can influence you're daughter. if she has the means to take proper care of her child - there is no excuse.

Please help your grandchild at chance for a good life.
 
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AleksandraKaczynska

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I'mm sorry you,re going through this....
but I must agree it's a form of neglect and perhaps the right social care can influence you're daughter. if she has the means to take proper care of her child - there is no excuse.

Please help your grandchild at chance for a good life.
 
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AleksandraKaczynska

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I'mm sorry you,re going through this....
<br />but I must agree it's a form of neglect and perhaps the right social care can influence you're daughter. if she has the means to take proper care of her child - there is no excuse.
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<br />Please help your grandchild at chance for a good life.
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LouLou

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First of all, so sorry you are dealing with this. I'm sure it is very painful to witness your dd not giving the same care in return you (I assume) gave to her AT THE VERY LEAST!

That said, everyone else is correct in suggesting this is a neglect case. Are you listed as someone the child's cf center can report her condition to? If so, I would give them a call first. Was this pneumonia diagnosed by them? Why wasn't she admitted as I would imagine they can figure out too that the home care plan isn't being carried out. Perhaps they don't know she is no longer under your roof.

Hopefully a wake up call by the medical professionals or a judge will be enough to snap your dd's selfishness under control but if not where are the other two children?? Perhaps this one will need to be given up or removed as well :-(

Please keep the cf center aware of the situation. It is in their interest as well to keep this child healthy. Not only because she is their patient and compassionately I'm sure they care but statistically a major decline or worse would reflect very poorly on them.
 
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LouLou

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First of all, so sorry you are dealing with this. I'm sure it is very painful to witness your dd not giving the same care in return you (I assume) gave to her AT THE VERY LEAST!

That said, everyone else is correct in suggesting this is a neglect case. Are you listed as someone the child's cf center can report her condition to? If so, I would give them a call first. Was this pneumonia diagnosed by them? Why wasn't she admitted as I would imagine they can figure out too that the home care plan isn't being carried out. Perhaps they don't know she is no longer under your roof.

Hopefully a wake up call by the medical professionals or a judge will be enough to snap your dd's selfishness under control but if not where are the other two children?? Perhaps this one will need to be given up or removed as well :-(

Please keep the cf center aware of the situation. It is in their interest as well to keep this child healthy. Not only because she is their patient and compassionately I'm sure they care but statistically a major decline or worse would reflect very poorly on them.
 
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