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My Hubby's Test Was Negative, Yea!

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anonymous

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HI all,

I'm just so relieved-my husband's test results came back today, and he's not a carrier.

I realize now, that I was so worried! The whole time I was like-could fate really play another cruel trick on me? The one person in the world I marry and love-could he have it?

I'm not even sure if I want to adopt, or have children naturally yet. I don't know why this feels so big to me. I'm so emotional right now.

I guess some of you have had to go through this, so only you would know how I feel.

So, Step 1 is complete! I'm a little step closer to kids. (even if it's a teeny one)

Christian
 
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anonymous

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HI all,

I'm just so relieved-my husband's test results came back today, and he's not a carrier.

I realize now, that I was so worried! The whole time I was like-could fate really play another cruel trick on me? The one person in the world I marry and love-could he have it?

I'm not even sure if I want to adopt, or have children naturally yet. I don't know why this feels so big to me. I'm so emotional right now.

I guess some of you have had to go through this, so only you would know how I feel.

So, Step 1 is complete! I'm a little step closer to kids. (even if it's a teeny one)

Christian
 
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princessjdc

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congratulations, his not a carrier, that is always a relief, I had my husband tested after we got married and he is not a carrier either.
 
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princessjdc

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congratulations, his not a carrier, that is always a relief, I had my husband tested after we got married and he is not a carrier either.
 
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LouLou

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Christian, I'm so happy for you! I know the exact feeling you are having. It sounds like you did the test at just the right time - before the two of you got too excited and all planned out about what exactly you wanted in terms of children for the future. I also did the test at the same point. Interestingly, my husband was sure he wasn't a carrier. When I asked him why he said because no one in his family ever had it. It was positive thinking because he knew that no one in my family had ever had it either. Luckily, he was not a carrier. I hope they explained to you that it is 99% effective that he is not a carrier. The genes are constantly mutating so they can't test them all. I think they test for 600 mutations of the CF gene. Now around 1-2 years later we're ready for step two. In one week I am taking my last birth control pill and starting pre-natal vitamins. I'm so excited!!! We don't plan to start 'trying' until July though. How old are you?
 
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LouLou

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Christian, I'm so happy for you! I know the exact feeling you are having. It sounds like you did the test at just the right time - before the two of you got too excited and all planned out about what exactly you wanted in terms of children for the future. I also did the test at the same point. Interestingly, my husband was sure he wasn't a carrier. When I asked him why he said because no one in his family ever had it. It was positive thinking because he knew that no one in my family had ever had it either. Luckily, he was not a carrier. I hope they explained to you that it is 99% effective that he is not a carrier. The genes are constantly mutating so they can't test them all. I think they test for 600 mutations of the CF gene. Now around 1-2 years later we're ready for step two. In one week I am taking my last birth control pill and starting pre-natal vitamins. I'm so excited!!! We don't plan to start 'trying' until July though. How old are you?
 
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thelizardqueen

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Christian that is awesome news! I totally understand how worried you must have been with the whole 'fate playing another cruel trick on you' bit. My boyfriend is going for a carrier test in the next couple of months, and I am terrified that he will be a carrier - that will make our options, that more harder. Hopefully fingers crosses we'll be able to start trying for kids summer/fall. That is awesome news Christian! I'll keep you in my thoughts about the whole baby thing. Have you decided when you'd like to start trying?
 
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thelizardqueen

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Christian that is awesome news! I totally understand how worried you must have been with the whole 'fate playing another cruel trick on you' bit. My boyfriend is going for a carrier test in the next couple of months, and I am terrified that he will be a carrier - that will make our options, that more harder. Hopefully fingers crosses we'll be able to start trying for kids summer/fall. That is awesome news Christian! I'll keep you in my thoughts about the whole baby thing. Have you decided when you'd like to start trying?
 
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Emily65Roses

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Weird question. Could I get Mike tested now, even though we aren't married yet? We eventually want to, and I'd be curious to see. I'm just wondering if insurance would cover that even though we're not legally together yet?

And congrats, Christian. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Emily65Roses

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Weird question. Could I get Mike tested now, even though we aren't married yet? We eventually want to, and I'd be curious to see. I'm just wondering if insurance would cover that even though we're not legally together yet?

And congrats, Christian. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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LouLou

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When I got husband tested I got him tested for CF not CF carrier so it would seem like a medical necesssity not a fertility need. I had my cf doc. write up the order then gave the order sheet to his primary care provider so that insurance wouldn't have any questions. The genentech test for cf (blood test) automatically tests for any mutations not just one (what a carrier would have). So Emily I would suggest this approach. Now in terms of doing it before marriage or after. You guys need to decide this. Husband and I talked many times and he insisted that he wanted to marry me for who I was not for my child bearing abilities so we decided we'd cross that bridge post marriage (having biological kids, adopting, no kids, etc. Now if he had seemed worried about the fact that I might not be able to reproduce (personally how I viewed it at the time even though now I know there are options to have a non-cf pregnancy even if both are carriers) I might have wanted the reassurance that we were right for marriage then and have the test. Then again, I probably wouldn't have wanted to marry him if he had felt this way personally. We've been together for 8 years. Married 3. We talked about all this in the first year of dating.
 
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LouLou

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When I got husband tested I got him tested for CF not CF carrier so it would seem like a medical necesssity not a fertility need. I had my cf doc. write up the order then gave the order sheet to his primary care provider so that insurance wouldn't have any questions. The genentech test for cf (blood test) automatically tests for any mutations not just one (what a carrier would have). So Emily I would suggest this approach. Now in terms of doing it before marriage or after. You guys need to decide this. Husband and I talked many times and he insisted that he wanted to marry me for who I was not for my child bearing abilities so we decided we'd cross that bridge post marriage (having biological kids, adopting, no kids, etc. Now if he had seemed worried about the fact that I might not be able to reproduce (personally how I viewed it at the time even though now I know there are options to have a non-cf pregnancy even if both are carriers) I might have wanted the reassurance that we were right for marriage then and have the test. Then again, I probably wouldn't have wanted to marry him if he had felt this way personally. We've been together for 8 years. Married 3. We talked about all this in the first year of dating.
 
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miesl

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Yay for the non-carrier results!

I still need to get around to doing that, but with my current crappy health insurance... not so much.
 
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miesl

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Yay for the non-carrier results!

I still need to get around to doing that, but with my current crappy health insurance... not so much.
 
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thelizardqueen

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Here in Canada - the carrier testing is paid by the government. My boyfriend does not have a family doctor, so I talked to my CF specialist, and he is simply referring us to the genetic testing department for the test. We don't have to worry about insurance covering the test, or even the fact that my guy doesn't have a family doctor. I've also been told that artificial insemination is covered as well by the government for me in case I'm not able to conceive naturally.
 
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thelizardqueen

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Here in Canada - the carrier testing is paid by the government. My boyfriend does not have a family doctor, so I talked to my CF specialist, and he is simply referring us to the genetic testing department for the test. We don't have to worry about insurance covering the test, or even the fact that my guy doesn't have a family doctor. I've also been told that artificial insemination is covered as well by the government for me in case I'm not able to conceive naturally.
 
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JazzysMom

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When I was pregnant....we had hubby tested for being a CF carrier & I was tested for sickle cell. Both were negative. It was a relief that I didnt think I was worrying about either until the results came in....
 
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JazzysMom

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When I was pregnant....we had hubby tested for being a CF carrier & I was tested for sickle cell. Both were negative. It was a relief that I didnt think I was worrying about either until the results came in....
 
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