New Relationship/Cohabitation

[TemptressOfTheSea]

I hope to not make this a long winded post but I have some important questions to ask of my fellow CF'ers!

So basically I met the most amazing man on the face of the planet and things have moved pretty quickly. I've found myself staying over his apartment several times already, but bottom line, it's FILTHY!!

So of course I'm concerned with all the dust, mold, and god knows what else I'm breathing in. He knows about my CF but I don't think he understands just how serious it is. A mutual friend and I plan on kicking him out for the afternoon and cleaning the place from top to bottom. That being said, I want him to understand why it's so important for his place to be semi-clean without being too naggy. Any advice on how to approach this?

One more quick one...but I must ask. How does everyone deal with the ever present super-stinky, sometimes-noisy double-flush, sit on-toilet-for-more-than-20-minutes poop issue? Do I just go heavy on the air freshener, hope the toilet doesn't clog, and not say anything? Any advice to me on how to get more comfortable with this would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks everyone!

 

[TemptressOfTheSea]

I hope to not make this a long winded post but I have some important questions to ask of my fellow CF'ers!

So basically I met the most amazing man on the face of the planet and things have moved pretty quickly. I've found myself staying over his apartment several times already, but bottom line, it's FILTHY!!

So of course I'm concerned with all the dust, mold, and god knows what else I'm breathing in. He knows about my CF but I don't think he understands just how serious it is. A mutual friend and I plan on kicking him out for the afternoon and cleaning the place from top to bottom. That being said, I want him to understand why it's so important for his place to be semi-clean without being too naggy. Any advice on how to approach this?

One more quick one...but I must ask. How does everyone deal with the ever present super-stinky, sometimes-noisy double-flush, sit on-toilet-for-more-than-20-minutes poop issue? Do I just go heavy on the air freshener, hope the toilet doesn't clog, and not say anything? Any advice to me on how to get more comfortable with this would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks everyone!

 

[TemptressOfTheSea]

I hope to not make this a long winded post but I have some important questions to ask of my fellow CF'ers!

So basically I met the most amazing man on the face of the planet and things have moved pretty quickly. I've found myself staying over his apartment several times already, but bottom line, it's FILTHY!!

So of course I'm concerned with all the dust, mold, and god knows what else I'm breathing in. He knows about my CF but I don't think he understands just how serious it is. A mutual friend and I plan on kicking him out for the afternoon and cleaning the place from top to bottom. That being said, I want him to understand why it's so important for his place to be semi-clean without being too naggy. Any advice on how to approach this?

One more quick one...but I must ask. How does everyone deal with the ever present super-stinky, sometimes-noisy double-flush, sit on-toilet-for-more-than-20-minutes poop issue? Do I just go heavy on the air freshener, hope the toilet doesn't clog, and not say anything? Any advice to me on how to get more comfortable with this would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks everyone!

 

[TemptressOfTheSea]

I hope to not make this a long winded post but I have some important questions to ask of my fellow CF'ers!

So basically I met the most amazing man on the face of the planet and things have moved pretty quickly. I've found myself staying over his apartment several times already, but bottom line, it's FILTHY!!

So of course I'm concerned with all the dust, mold, and god knows what else I'm breathing in. He knows about my CF but I don't think he understands just how serious it is. A mutual friend and I plan on kicking him out for the afternoon and cleaning the place from top to bottom. That being said, I want him to understand why it's so important for his place to be semi-clean without being too naggy. Any advice on how to approach this?

One more quick one...but I must ask. How does everyone deal with the ever present super-stinky, sometimes-noisy double-flush, sit on-toilet-for-more-than-20-minutes poop issue? Do I just go heavy on the air freshener, hope the toilet doesn't clog, and not say anything? Any advice to me on how to get more comfortable with this would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks everyone!

 

[TemptressOfTheSea]

I hope to not make this a long winded post but I have some important questions to ask of my fellow CF'ers!
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<br />So basically I met the most amazing man on the face of the planet and things have moved pretty quickly. I've found myself staying over his apartment several times already, but bottom line, it's FILTHY!!
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<br />So of course I'm concerned with all the dust, mold, and god knows what else I'm breathing in. He knows about my CF but I don't think he understands just how serious it is. A mutual friend and I plan on kicking him out for the afternoon and cleaning the place from top to bottom. That being said, I want him to understand why it's so important for his place to be semi-clean without being too naggy. Any advice on how to approach this?
<br />
<br />One more quick one...but I must ask. How does everyone deal with the ever present super-stinky, sometimes-noisy double-flush, sit on-toilet-for-more-than-20-minutes poop issue? Do I just go heavy on the air freshener, hope the toilet doesn't clog, and not say anything? Any advice to me on how to get more comfortable with this would be greatly appreciated!
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<br />Thanks everyone!

 

[crazyredhead]

when i told my honey i came out and told him , when my belly starts making funny noises its timeto go , and just tell him the truth it can be extremely stinky...thats what i did..

 

[crazyredhead]

when i told my honey i came out and told him , when my belly starts making funny noises its timeto go , and just tell him the truth it can be extremely stinky...thats what i did..

 

[crazyredhead]

when i told my honey i came out and told him , when my belly starts making funny noises its timeto go , and just tell him the truth it can be extremely stinky...thats what i did..

 

[crazyredhead]

when i told my honey i came out and told him , when my belly starts making funny noises its timeto go , and just tell him the truth it can be extremely stinky...thats what i did..

 

[crazyredhead]

when i told my honey i came out and told him , when my belly starts making funny noises its timeto go , and just tell him the truth it can be extremely stinky...thats what i did..

 

[jdubbs]

Ah yes. I flush immediately after anything drops. So poop, flush... then wait, then poop and flush again. At max I need three flushes. I think this reduces stinkage quite a bit, although it sounds a bit funny flushing so many times. Granted I have no sense of smell, so I have no idea if it's really working. But when I don't use this strategy, I often hear comments, like "oh my God!"

 

[jdubbs]

Ah yes. I flush immediately after anything drops. So poop, flush... then wait, then poop and flush again. At max I need three flushes. I think this reduces stinkage quite a bit, although it sounds a bit funny flushing so many times. Granted I have no sense of smell, so I have no idea if it's really working. But when I don't use this strategy, I often hear comments, like "oh my God!"

 

[jdubbs]

Ah yes. I flush immediately after anything drops. So poop, flush... then wait, then poop and flush again. At max I need three flushes. I think this reduces stinkage quite a bit, although it sounds a bit funny flushing so many times. Granted I have no sense of smell, so I have no idea if it's really working. But when I don't use this strategy, I often hear comments, like "oh my God!"

 

[jdubbs]

Ah yes. I flush immediately after anything drops. So poop, flush... then wait, then poop and flush again. At max I need three flushes. I think this reduces stinkage quite a bit, although it sounds a bit funny flushing so many times. Granted I have no sense of smell, so I have no idea if it's really working. But when I don't use this strategy, I often hear comments, like "oh my God!"

 

[jdubbs]

Ah yes. I flush immediately after anything drops. So poop, flush... then wait, then poop and flush again. At max I need three flushes. I think this reduces stinkage quite a bit, although it sounds a bit funny flushing so many times. Granted I have no sense of smell, so I have no idea if it's really working. But when I don't use this strategy, I often hear comments, like "oh my God!"

 

[Havoc]

I moved in with a mutual friend about a year and a half ago, the rent was right and it's VERY close to work. Perfect situation right? When i moved in I noticed the house was pretty messy, but there was some renovation going on and I dismissed it (she even commented and apologized about the condition of the house). Well a year and a half later I'm having to move out before this house kills me. She's a complete slob and the conditions here are abysmal. I can clean all I want and its truly amazing how fast she can trash it again. In the meantime I've had one of my worst years as far as my health.

My point? If this guy is naturally messy nothing is probably going to change that. You and your friend might clean but it's probably not going to be a one time thing. I would plan on having to keep up with it all the time. If you are ok with that then great, but I find that sometimes I'm just too busy or don't feel like keeping up with my mess and someone else's. Although , my situation is different in that mine is a roomie and not a significant other, so I'm not as tolerant of her mess as you might be of his.

I've asked her repeatedly and tried to make it abundantly clear how detrimental it is to my health to let things get messy, but it doesn't seem to natter. I've taken to sequestering myself to my room where there is a HEPA filter and generally staying away from home as much as possible until I can move again.

I would think long and hard about cohabitation with this guy until you see how good he is gonna be about keeping his place clean after you and your friend help him get it in good shape. If it goes to crap again in 2 weeks then I would say don't get yourself in that situation.

Regarding the bathroom issues. I find it's just better to be honest. That being said I also try and be as discreet as possible. I already kinda have a thing about bad smells, so I usually have some kind of air freshener in rooms or oil burners. If you keep something like that going all the time its hard to tell that you are trying to cover up a particularly foul BM.

Hope this helps.

 

[Havoc]

I moved in with a mutual friend about a year and a half ago, the rent was right and it's VERY close to work. Perfect situation right? When i moved in I noticed the house was pretty messy, but there was some renovation going on and I dismissed it (she even commented and apologized about the condition of the house). Well a year and a half later I'm having to move out before this house kills me. She's a complete slob and the conditions here are abysmal. I can clean all I want and its truly amazing how fast she can trash it again. In the meantime I've had one of my worst years as far as my health.

My point? If this guy is naturally messy nothing is probably going to change that. You and your friend might clean but it's probably not going to be a one time thing. I would plan on having to keep up with it all the time. If you are ok with that then great, but I find that sometimes I'm just too busy or don't feel like keeping up with my mess and someone else's. Although , my situation is different in that mine is a roomie and not a significant other, so I'm not as tolerant of her mess as you might be of his.

I've asked her repeatedly and tried to make it abundantly clear how detrimental it is to my health to let things get messy, but it doesn't seem to natter. I've taken to sequestering myself to my room where there is a HEPA filter and generally staying away from home as much as possible until I can move again.

I would think long and hard about cohabitation with this guy until you see how good he is gonna be about keeping his place clean after you and your friend help him get it in good shape. If it goes to crap again in 2 weeks then I would say don't get yourself in that situation.

Regarding the bathroom issues. I find it's just better to be honest. That being said I also try and be as discreet as possible. I already kinda have a thing about bad smells, so I usually have some kind of air freshener in rooms or oil burners. If you keep something like that going all the time its hard to tell that you are trying to cover up a particularly foul BM.

Hope this helps.

 

[Havoc]

I moved in with a mutual friend about a year and a half ago, the rent was right and it's VERY close to work. Perfect situation right? When i moved in I noticed the house was pretty messy, but there was some renovation going on and I dismissed it (she even commented and apologized about the condition of the house). Well a year and a half later I'm having to move out before this house kills me. She's a complete slob and the conditions here are abysmal. I can clean all I want and its truly amazing how fast she can trash it again. In the meantime I've had one of my worst years as far as my health.

My point? If this guy is naturally messy nothing is probably going to change that. You and your friend might clean but it's probably not going to be a one time thing. I would plan on having to keep up with it all the time. If you are ok with that then great, but I find that sometimes I'm just too busy or don't feel like keeping up with my mess and someone else's. Although , my situation is different in that mine is a roomie and not a significant other, so I'm not as tolerant of her mess as you might be of his.

I've asked her repeatedly and tried to make it abundantly clear how detrimental it is to my health to let things get messy, but it doesn't seem to natter. I've taken to sequestering myself to my room where there is a HEPA filter and generally staying away from home as much as possible until I can move again.

I would think long and hard about cohabitation with this guy until you see how good he is gonna be about keeping his place clean after you and your friend help him get it in good shape. If it goes to crap again in 2 weeks then I would say don't get yourself in that situation.

Regarding the bathroom issues. I find it's just better to be honest. That being said I also try and be as discreet as possible. I already kinda have a thing about bad smells, so I usually have some kind of air freshener in rooms or oil burners. If you keep something like that going all the time its hard to tell that you are trying to cover up a particularly foul BM.

Hope this helps.

 

[Havoc]

I moved in with a mutual friend about a year and a half ago, the rent was right and it's VERY close to work. Perfect situation right? When i moved in I noticed the house was pretty messy, but there was some renovation going on and I dismissed it (she even commented and apologized about the condition of the house). Well a year and a half later I'm having to move out before this house kills me. She's a complete slob and the conditions here are abysmal. I can clean all I want and its truly amazing how fast she can trash it again. In the meantime I've had one of my worst years as far as my health.

My point? If this guy is naturally messy nothing is probably going to change that. You and your friend might clean but it's probably not going to be a one time thing. I would plan on having to keep up with it all the time. If you are ok with that then great, but I find that sometimes I'm just too busy or don't feel like keeping up with my mess and someone else's. Although , my situation is different in that mine is a roomie and not a significant other, so I'm not as tolerant of her mess as you might be of his.

I've asked her repeatedly and tried to make it abundantly clear how detrimental it is to my health to let things get messy, but it doesn't seem to natter. I've taken to sequestering myself to my room where there is a HEPA filter and generally staying away from home as much as possible until I can move again.

I would think long and hard about cohabitation with this guy until you see how good he is gonna be about keeping his place clean after you and your friend help him get it in good shape. If it goes to crap again in 2 weeks then I would say don't get yourself in that situation.

Regarding the bathroom issues. I find it's just better to be honest. That being said I also try and be as discreet as possible. I already kinda have a thing about bad smells, so I usually have some kind of air freshener in rooms or oil burners. If you keep something like that going all the time its hard to tell that you are trying to cover up a particularly foul BM.

Hope this helps.

 

[Havoc]

I moved in with a mutual friend about a year and a half ago, the rent was right and it's VERY close to work. Perfect situation right? When i moved in I noticed the house was pretty messy, but there was some renovation going on and I dismissed it (she even commented and apologized about the condition of the house). Well a year and a half later I'm having to move out before this house kills me. She's a complete slob and the conditions here are abysmal. I can clean all I want and its truly amazing how fast she can trash it again. In the meantime I've had one of my worst years as far as my health.
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<br />My point? If this guy is naturally messy nothing is probably going to change that. You and your friend might clean but it's probably not going to be a one time thing. I would plan on having to keep up with it all the time. If you are ok with that then great, but I find that sometimes I'm just too busy or don't feel like keeping up with my mess and someone else's. Although , my situation is different in that mine is a roomie and not a significant other, so I'm not as tolerant of her mess as you might be of his.
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<br />I've asked her repeatedly and tried to make it abundantly clear how detrimental it is to my health to let things get messy, but it doesn't seem to natter. I've taken to sequestering myself to my room where there is a HEPA filter and generally staying away from home as much as possible until I can move again.
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<br />I would think long and hard about cohabitation with this guy until you see how good he is gonna be about keeping his place clean after you and your friend help him get it in good shape. If it goes to crap again in 2 weeks then I would say don't get yourself in that situation.
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<br />Regarding the bathroom issues. I find it's just better to be honest. That being said I also try and be as discreet as possible. I already kinda have a thing about bad smells, so I usually have some kind of air freshener in rooms or oil burners. If you keep something like that going all the time its hard to tell that you are trying to cover up a particularly foul BM.
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<br />Hope this helps.