Not having kids

[Juniper]

I know a lot of you out there have had kids and that must be great but i wondered if there are many like me who can't

We did IVF about 3 years ago it didn't work and i became quite poorly cos i had to come of some of my drugs in case i got pregnant. We decided because of this not to try again.

Most days i'm fine with this but like today when i've been to a christening. Then i got home to find a message on my answerphone that my best friend is expecting again ( she has two already).
Of course i'm pleased for her but i don't think anyone else really understands. They all think its great that we have so much freedom. I got so fed up i just sat and cried which i know won't change anything and doesn't help

Since i was little i wanted to be a Mum and it seems so unfair !!!! I know nothing will change this but i wondered if anyone else gets depressed about it like me??

 

[Juniper]

I know a lot of you out there have had kids and that must be great but i wondered if there are many like me who can't

We did IVF about 3 years ago it didn't work and i became quite poorly cos i had to come of some of my drugs in case i got pregnant. We decided because of this not to try again.

Most days i'm fine with this but like today when i've been to a christening. Then i got home to find a message on my answerphone that my best friend is expecting again ( she has two already).
Of course i'm pleased for her but i don't think anyone else really understands. They all think its great that we have so much freedom. I got so fed up i just sat and cried which i know won't change anything and doesn't help

Since i was little i wanted to be a Mum and it seems so unfair !!!! I know nothing will change this but i wondered if anyone else gets depressed about it like me??

 

[Juniper]

I know a lot of you out there have had kids and that must be great but i wondered if there are many like me who can't

We did IVF about 3 years ago it didn't work and i became quite poorly cos i had to come of some of my drugs in case i got pregnant. We decided because of this not to try again.

Most days i'm fine with this but like today when i've been to a christening. Then i got home to find a message on my answerphone that my best friend is expecting again ( she has two already).
Of course i'm pleased for her but i don't think anyone else really understands. They all think its great that we have so much freedom. I got so fed up i just sat and cried which i know won't change anything and doesn't help

Since i was little i wanted to be a Mum and it seems so unfair !!!! I know nothing will change this but i wondered if anyone else gets depressed about it like me??

 

[Juniper]

I know a lot of you out there have had kids and that must be great but i wondered if there are many like me who can't

We did IVF about 3 years ago it didn't work and i became quite poorly cos i had to come of some of my drugs in case i got pregnant. We decided because of this not to try again.

Most days i'm fine with this but like today when i've been to a christening. Then i got home to find a message on my answerphone that my best friend is expecting again ( she has two already).
Of course i'm pleased for her but i don't think anyone else really understands. They all think its great that we have so much freedom. I got so fed up i just sat and cried which i know won't change anything and doesn't help

Since i was little i wanted to be a Mum and it seems so unfair !!!! I know nothing will change this but i wondered if anyone else gets depressed about it like me??

 

[Juniper]

I know a lot of you out there have had kids and that must be great but i wondered if there are many like me who can't
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<br />We did IVF about 3 years ago it didn't work and i became quite poorly cos i had to come of some of my drugs in case i got pregnant. We decided because of this not to try again.
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<br />Most days i'm fine with this but like today when i've been to a christening. Then i got home to find a message on my answerphone that my best friend is expecting again ( she has two already).
<br />Of course i'm pleased for her but i don't think anyone else really understands. They all think its great that we have so much freedom. I got so fed up i just sat and cried which i know won't change anything and doesn't help
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<br />Since i was little i wanted to be a Mum and it seems so unfair !!!! I know nothing will change this but i wondered if anyone else gets depressed about it like me??
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[Emily65Roses]

I see IVF didn't work. Did you look into adoption? You don't have to give up being a mother just because you can't get pregnant.

 

[Emily65Roses]

I see IVF didn't work. Did you look into adoption? You don't have to give up being a mother just because you can't get pregnant.

 

[Emily65Roses]

I see IVF didn't work. Did you look into adoption? You don't have to give up being a mother just because you can't get pregnant.

 

[Emily65Roses]

I see IVF didn't work. Did you look into adoption? You don't have to give up being a mother just because you can't get pregnant.

 

[Emily65Roses]

I see IVF didn't work. Did you look into adoption? You don't have to give up being a mother just because you can't get pregnant.

 

[bittyhorse23]

I feel your pain. I never tried to get pregnant so I don't know if I can but I have made the decision NOT to have children, whether naturally or through adoption. It is hard and it hurt alot when I finally made the choice. Just like you, children have always been my number one goal in life. I still do cry about my choice somedays but I know it is the best choice for me.

Like Emily said, have you thought about adoption? If you really want to be a mom then go for it. If your health is good then it might not be a bad idea. Unless you are against it of course!

Best of luck and HUGS!!!!

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[bittyhorse23]

I feel your pain. I never tried to get pregnant so I don't know if I can but I have made the decision NOT to have children, whether naturally or through adoption. It is hard and it hurt alot when I finally made the choice. Just like you, children have always been my number one goal in life. I still do cry about my choice somedays but I know it is the best choice for me.

Like Emily said, have you thought about adoption? If you really want to be a mom then go for it. If your health is good then it might not be a bad idea. Unless you are against it of course!

Best of luck and HUGS!!!!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

 

[bittyhorse23]

I feel your pain. I never tried to get pregnant so I don't know if I can but I have made the decision NOT to have children, whether naturally or through adoption. It is hard and it hurt alot when I finally made the choice. Just like you, children have always been my number one goal in life. I still do cry about my choice somedays but I know it is the best choice for me.

Like Emily said, have you thought about adoption? If you really want to be a mom then go for it. If your health is good then it might not be a bad idea. Unless you are against it of course!

Best of luck and HUGS!!!!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

 

[bittyhorse23]

I feel your pain. I never tried to get pregnant so I don't know if I can but I have made the decision NOT to have children, whether naturally or through adoption. It is hard and it hurt alot when I finally made the choice. Just like you, children have always been my number one goal in life. I still do cry about my choice somedays but I know it is the best choice for me.

Like Emily said, have you thought about adoption? If you really want to be a mom then go for it. If your health is good then it might not be a bad idea. Unless you are against it of course!

Best of luck and HUGS!!!!

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

 

[bittyhorse23]

I feel your pain. I never tried to get pregnant so I don't know if I can but I have made the decision NOT to have children, whether naturally or through adoption. It is hard and it hurt alot when I finally made the choice. Just like you, children have always been my number one goal in life. I still do cry about my choice somedays but I know it is the best choice for me.
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<br />Like Emily said, have you thought about adoption? If you really want to be a mom then go for it. If your health is good then it might not be a bad idea. Unless you are against it of course!
<br />
<br />Best of luck and HUGS!!!!
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<br /><img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

 

[lightNlife]

My husband and I have decided not to be parents (adoptive or otherwise) because we know it would be too much for us. Still, there are times that our decision seems like a sad one to have made. Like you, I tend to get a bit envious of those friends of mine who have had no trouble getting pregnant and were able to become parents without (seemingly) giving much thought to the matter at all. That can sting.

My husband and I remind ourselves that just because we're a 2 person family does not make us any less of a family. There have been days when we are hurting because of the sacrifice we've made, but that's okay. Some life decisions, especially the ones based on good judgment or go against the norm, are rarely easy.

Your life has meaning and value regardless of your ability to bear children. I hope you're able to find a sense of camaraderie with people in a similar situation so that you don't feel like the odd man out.

Blessings and peace, my friend.

 

[lightNlife]

My husband and I have decided not to be parents (adoptive or otherwise) because we know it would be too much for us. Still, there are times that our decision seems like a sad one to have made. Like you, I tend to get a bit envious of those friends of mine who have had no trouble getting pregnant and were able to become parents without (seemingly) giving much thought to the matter at all. That can sting.

My husband and I remind ourselves that just because we're a 2 person family does not make us any less of a family. There have been days when we are hurting because of the sacrifice we've made, but that's okay. Some life decisions, especially the ones based on good judgment or go against the norm, are rarely easy.

Your life has meaning and value regardless of your ability to bear children. I hope you're able to find a sense of camaraderie with people in a similar situation so that you don't feel like the odd man out.

Blessings and peace, my friend.

 

[lightNlife]

My husband and I have decided not to be parents (adoptive or otherwise) because we know it would be too much for us. Still, there are times that our decision seems like a sad one to have made. Like you, I tend to get a bit envious of those friends of mine who have had no trouble getting pregnant and were able to become parents without (seemingly) giving much thought to the matter at all. That can sting.

My husband and I remind ourselves that just because we're a 2 person family does not make us any less of a family. There have been days when we are hurting because of the sacrifice we've made, but that's okay. Some life decisions, especially the ones based on good judgment or go against the norm, are rarely easy.

Your life has meaning and value regardless of your ability to bear children. I hope you're able to find a sense of camaraderie with people in a similar situation so that you don't feel like the odd man out.

Blessings and peace, my friend.

 

[lightNlife]

My husband and I have decided not to be parents (adoptive or otherwise) because we know it would be too much for us. Still, there are times that our decision seems like a sad one to have made. Like you, I tend to get a bit envious of those friends of mine who have had no trouble getting pregnant and were able to become parents without (seemingly) giving much thought to the matter at all. That can sting.

My husband and I remind ourselves that just because we're a 2 person family does not make us any less of a family. There have been days when we are hurting because of the sacrifice we've made, but that's okay. Some life decisions, especially the ones based on good judgment or go against the norm, are rarely easy.

Your life has meaning and value regardless of your ability to bear children. I hope you're able to find a sense of camaraderie with people in a similar situation so that you don't feel like the odd man out.

Blessings and peace, my friend.

 

[lightNlife]

My husband and I have decided not to be parents (adoptive or otherwise) because we know it would be too much for us. Still, there are times that our decision seems like a sad one to have made. Like you, I tend to get a bit envious of those friends of mine who have had no trouble getting pregnant and were able to become parents without (seemingly) giving much thought to the matter at all. That can sting.
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<br />My husband and I remind ourselves that just because we're a 2 person family does not make us any less of a family. There have been days when we are hurting because of the sacrifice we've made, but that's okay. Some life decisions, especially the ones based on good judgment or go against the norm, are rarely easy.
<br />
<br />Your life has meaning and value regardless of your ability to bear children. I hope you're able to find a sense of camaraderie with people in a similar situation so that you don't feel like the odd man out.
<br />
<br />Blessings and peace, my friend.