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Quackie

New member
I'm not really sure about posting this, but I thought that I maybe could get some suggestions from other people... Here it goes

I'm 19, I go to college part time (3 classes per semester), I'm going for a batchlors degee in Business Admin., which will take me about 5-6 years. I've been going at it for 1 1/2, I really would like to go full time, but I couldn't do that and work full time. It would be too much on me. At some point I will have to take classes during the day. But my current job is 7:30 - 4:30 M-F (I work at a bank), and I cannot take time off during the week, because they 1. wont let me and 2. we couldn't financially afford it. Anyway, I bring in the income that pays our rent and other small bills, and my job provides the heath insurance, I also work a consistant 40-45 hours a week, in order to get more 'free money'. If I work part time my husband will have to work more, and have to find a job with health insurance or an additional job that would bring in enough income to get health insurance. He currently works about 40 hrs a week, some times more. some times less, and makes slightly less then I do. He's 23, and doesnt really know what he wants to do, I try and to encourage him to follow his tallents, when ever I bring this up to him 'it's not the right time'. It fustrates me, but I don't want him to do something that makes him unhappy, but I'm am getting really exausted with working and school. I'm just not sure how to bring this up to him, with out him saying, ' not now'. I'm not sure if I can do this for another 3-4 years, I can hardly handle it now.

I have considered moving to my mom or dads house. But that would mean we would be moving from an aptartment to a single bedroom. I love living on my own too. I just don't know how long I can hadle the whole work and school thing...

Not to mention how this all affects my CF....

Any insight would be great!

Thanks so much ~Jackie~
 

Quackie

New member
I'm not really sure about posting this, but I thought that I maybe could get some suggestions from other people... Here it goes

I'm 19, I go to college part time (3 classes per semester), I'm going for a batchlors degee in Business Admin., which will take me about 5-6 years. I've been going at it for 1 1/2, I really would like to go full time, but I couldn't do that and work full time. It would be too much on me. At some point I will have to take classes during the day. But my current job is 7:30 - 4:30 M-F (I work at a bank), and I cannot take time off during the week, because they 1. wont let me and 2. we couldn't financially afford it. Anyway, I bring in the income that pays our rent and other small bills, and my job provides the heath insurance, I also work a consistant 40-45 hours a week, in order to get more 'free money'. If I work part time my husband will have to work more, and have to find a job with health insurance or an additional job that would bring in enough income to get health insurance. He currently works about 40 hrs a week, some times more. some times less, and makes slightly less then I do. He's 23, and doesnt really know what he wants to do, I try and to encourage him to follow his tallents, when ever I bring this up to him 'it's not the right time'. It fustrates me, but I don't want him to do something that makes him unhappy, but I'm am getting really exausted with working and school. I'm just not sure how to bring this up to him, with out him saying, ' not now'. I'm not sure if I can do this for another 3-4 years, I can hardly handle it now.

I have considered moving to my mom or dads house. But that would mean we would be moving from an aptartment to a single bedroom. I love living on my own too. I just don't know how long I can hadle the whole work and school thing...

Not to mention how this all affects my CF....

Any insight would be great!

Thanks so much ~Jackie~
 

Quackie

New member
I'm not really sure about posting this, but I thought that I maybe could get some suggestions from other people... Here it goes

I'm 19, I go to college part time (3 classes per semester), I'm going for a batchlors degee in Business Admin., which will take me about 5-6 years. I've been going at it for 1 1/2, I really would like to go full time, but I couldn't do that and work full time. It would be too much on me. At some point I will have to take classes during the day. But my current job is 7:30 - 4:30 M-F (I work at a bank), and I cannot take time off during the week, because they 1. wont let me and 2. we couldn't financially afford it. Anyway, I bring in the income that pays our rent and other small bills, and my job provides the heath insurance, I also work a consistant 40-45 hours a week, in order to get more 'free money'. If I work part time my husband will have to work more, and have to find a job with health insurance or an additional job that would bring in enough income to get health insurance. He currently works about 40 hrs a week, some times more. some times less, and makes slightly less then I do. He's 23, and doesnt really know what he wants to do, I try and to encourage him to follow his tallents, when ever I bring this up to him 'it's not the right time'. It fustrates me, but I don't want him to do something that makes him unhappy, but I'm am getting really exausted with working and school. I'm just not sure how to bring this up to him, with out him saying, ' not now'. I'm not sure if I can do this for another 3-4 years, I can hardly handle it now.

I have considered moving to my mom or dads house. But that would mean we would be moving from an aptartment to a single bedroom. I love living on my own too. I just don't know how long I can hadle the whole work and school thing...

Not to mention how this all affects my CF....

Any insight would be great!

Thanks so much ~Jackie~
 

Quackie

New member
I'm not really sure about posting this, but I thought that I maybe could get some suggestions from other people... Here it goes

I'm 19, I go to college part time (3 classes per semester), I'm going for a batchlors degee in Business Admin., which will take me about 5-6 years. I've been going at it for 1 1/2, I really would like to go full time, but I couldn't do that and work full time. It would be too much on me. At some point I will have to take classes during the day. But my current job is 7:30 - 4:30 M-F (I work at a bank), and I cannot take time off during the week, because they 1. wont let me and 2. we couldn't financially afford it. Anyway, I bring in the income that pays our rent and other small bills, and my job provides the heath insurance, I also work a consistant 40-45 hours a week, in order to get more 'free money'. If I work part time my husband will have to work more, and have to find a job with health insurance or an additional job that would bring in enough income to get health insurance. He currently works about 40 hrs a week, some times more. some times less, and makes slightly less then I do. He's 23, and doesnt really know what he wants to do, I try and to encourage him to follow his tallents, when ever I bring this up to him 'it's not the right time'. It fustrates me, but I don't want him to do something that makes him unhappy, but I'm am getting really exausted with working and school. I'm just not sure how to bring this up to him, with out him saying, ' not now'. I'm not sure if I can do this for another 3-4 years, I can hardly handle it now.

I have considered moving to my mom or dads house. But that would mean we would be moving from an aptartment to a single bedroom. I love living on my own too. I just don't know how long I can hadle the whole work and school thing...

Not to mention how this all affects my CF....

Any insight would be great!

Thanks so much ~Jackie~
 

Quackie

New member
I'm not really sure about posting this, but I thought that I maybe could get some suggestions from other people... Here it goes

I'm 19, I go to college part time (3 classes per semester), I'm going for a batchlors degee in Business Admin., which will take me about 5-6 years. I've been going at it for 1 1/2, I really would like to go full time, but I couldn't do that and work full time. It would be too much on me. At some point I will have to take classes during the day. But my current job is 7:30 - 4:30 M-F (I work at a bank), and I cannot take time off during the week, because they 1. wont let me and 2. we couldn't financially afford it. Anyway, I bring in the income that pays our rent and other small bills, and my job provides the heath insurance, I also work a consistant 40-45 hours a week, in order to get more 'free money'. If I work part time my husband will have to work more, and have to find a job with health insurance or an additional job that would bring in enough income to get health insurance. He currently works about 40 hrs a week, some times more. some times less, and makes slightly less then I do. He's 23, and doesnt really know what he wants to do, I try and to encourage him to follow his tallents, when ever I bring this up to him 'it's not the right time'. It fustrates me, but I don't want him to do something that makes him unhappy, but I'm am getting really exausted with working and school. I'm just not sure how to bring this up to him, with out him saying, ' not now'. I'm not sure if I can do this for another 3-4 years, I can hardly handle it now.

I have considered moving to my mom or dads house. But that would mean we would be moving from an aptartment to a single bedroom. I love living on my own too. I just don't know how long I can hadle the whole work and school thing...

Not to mention how this all affects my CF....

Any insight would be great!

Thanks so much ~Jackie~
 

jaimers

Super Moderator
hey jackie,
would it be possible for you to do online classes through a university somewhere? obviously not all classes you need are going to be online but that might be a way to do some of them where the actual class meets during the day? or what about at a community college? hope things work out for ya!
 

jaimers

Super Moderator
hey jackie,
would it be possible for you to do online classes through a university somewhere? obviously not all classes you need are going to be online but that might be a way to do some of them where the actual class meets during the day? or what about at a community college? hope things work out for ya!
 

jaimers

Super Moderator
hey jackie,
would it be possible for you to do online classes through a university somewhere? obviously not all classes you need are going to be online but that might be a way to do some of them where the actual class meets during the day? or what about at a community college? hope things work out for ya!
 

jaimers

Super Moderator
hey jackie,
would it be possible for you to do online classes through a university somewhere? obviously not all classes you need are going to be online but that might be a way to do some of them where the actual class meets during the day? or what about at a community college? hope things work out for ya!
 

jaimers

Super Moderator
hey jackie,
would it be possible for you to do online classes through a university somewhere? obviously not all classes you need are going to be online but that might be a way to do some of them where the actual class meets during the day? or what about at a community college? hope things work out for ya!
 

Quackie

New member
I actaully am taking two online classes now, which I love. And the College I go to is a lot like a communty college... its UMA (university of Maine at Augusta), the next closest college is about an hour away. It's a really great place, they offer night classes and ITV classes too, which I have taken. I guess its not so much the classes them selves its all the extra work out side of them.

Any way thanks for the suggestion! I really appreciate it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

Quackie

New member
I actaully am taking two online classes now, which I love. And the College I go to is a lot like a communty college... its UMA (university of Maine at Augusta), the next closest college is about an hour away. It's a really great place, they offer night classes and ITV classes too, which I have taken. I guess its not so much the classes them selves its all the extra work out side of them.

Any way thanks for the suggestion! I really appreciate it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

Quackie

New member
I actaully am taking two online classes now, which I love. And the College I go to is a lot like a communty college... its UMA (university of Maine at Augusta), the next closest college is about an hour away. It's a really great place, they offer night classes and ITV classes too, which I have taken. I guess its not so much the classes them selves its all the extra work out side of them.

Any way thanks for the suggestion! I really appreciate it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

Quackie

New member
I actaully am taking two online classes now, which I love. And the College I go to is a lot like a communty college... its UMA (university of Maine at Augusta), the next closest college is about an hour away. It's a really great place, they offer night classes and ITV classes too, which I have taken. I guess its not so much the classes them selves its all the extra work out side of them.

Any way thanks for the suggestion! I really appreciate it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

Quackie

New member
I actaully am taking two online classes now, which I love. And the College I go to is a lot like a communty college... its UMA (university of Maine at Augusta), the next closest college is about an hour away. It's a really great place, they offer night classes and ITV classes too, which I have taken. I guess its not so much the classes them selves its all the extra work out side of them.

Any way thanks for the suggestion! I really appreciate it. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 

LouLou

New member
Sounds like something's got to give...before its a slip in your health. When your husband repeatedly brushes you off, try scheduling a sit down talk. Be frank about what the talk is about so he can feel prepared and not off guard. Make it fun...go to Starbucks or something.

Sounds like you've got a bit too much of the responsibility. More than half. If you were single your expenses would be less (you'd probably live at home) and you'd be able to focus on school and health. You'd be done with school a lot quicker. Just remember that side of it and then work backwards to a happy middle ground for you both. In all honesty, he needs to be prepared to one day take care of you.
 

LouLou

New member
Sounds like something's got to give...before its a slip in your health. When your husband repeatedly brushes you off, try scheduling a sit down talk. Be frank about what the talk is about so he can feel prepared and not off guard. Make it fun...go to Starbucks or something.

Sounds like you've got a bit too much of the responsibility. More than half. If you were single your expenses would be less (you'd probably live at home) and you'd be able to focus on school and health. You'd be done with school a lot quicker. Just remember that side of it and then work backwards to a happy middle ground for you both. In all honesty, he needs to be prepared to one day take care of you.
 

LouLou

New member
Sounds like something's got to give...before its a slip in your health. When your husband repeatedly brushes you off, try scheduling a sit down talk. Be frank about what the talk is about so he can feel prepared and not off guard. Make it fun...go to Starbucks or something.

Sounds like you've got a bit too much of the responsibility. More than half. If you were single your expenses would be less (you'd probably live at home) and you'd be able to focus on school and health. You'd be done with school a lot quicker. Just remember that side of it and then work backwards to a happy middle ground for you both. In all honesty, he needs to be prepared to one day take care of you.
 

LouLou

New member
Sounds like something's got to give...before its a slip in your health. When your husband repeatedly brushes you off, try scheduling a sit down talk. Be frank about what the talk is about so he can feel prepared and not off guard. Make it fun...go to Starbucks or something.

Sounds like you've got a bit too much of the responsibility. More than half. If you were single your expenses would be less (you'd probably live at home) and you'd be able to focus on school and health. You'd be done with school a lot quicker. Just remember that side of it and then work backwards to a happy middle ground for you both. In all honesty, he needs to be prepared to one day take care of you.
 

LouLou

New member
Sounds like something's got to give...before its a slip in your health. When your husband repeatedly brushes you off, try scheduling a sit down talk. Be frank about what the talk is about so he can feel prepared and not off guard. Make it fun...go to Starbucks or something.

Sounds like you've got a bit too much of the responsibility. More than half. If you were single your expenses would be less (you'd probably live at home) and you'd be able to focus on school and health. You'd be done with school a lot quicker. Just remember that side of it and then work backwards to a happy middle ground for you both. In all honesty, he needs to be prepared to one day take care of you.
 
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