Scarlett81
New member
I don't mind the opinion,
but I'll take the advice of my husband, my therapist, and doctor on this one. Of course, the same thought has run through my head-why? b/c I'm not a terrible person. I was given to-and it pains me deeply that I can not give to someone else right now.
NO child is a mistake-so don't misconstrue me here, but it is not fair that I should have to handle my estranged mother's mistakes. I have come this far, in order to have a life. To enjoy some of this life free from all the pain of my past-besides what life Cf will take from me already.
From a non-emotional point of view-taking in a 13 year old that already has tremendous issues and is in trouble could damage my health right now. Raising a baby will present enough issues-but adding a troubled teen?
Perhaps its good for me write this-I can explain it all to myself and see word for word how I feel.
Anyhow-again, I do not mind different opinions. Thats' what a forum is about. I was asking more for support on this one. And I would only add-and I mean this only a kind way-be very careful about advising people on a situation like this when you know so little about the circumstances. I can take it, thankfully b/c I have a good psychaitrist! But I'd feel terrible if someone like me, impressionable came here for support and got a guilt trip for not adopting their estranged mother's child.
but I'll take the advice of my husband, my therapist, and doctor on this one. Of course, the same thought has run through my head-why? b/c I'm not a terrible person. I was given to-and it pains me deeply that I can not give to someone else right now.
NO child is a mistake-so don't misconstrue me here, but it is not fair that I should have to handle my estranged mother's mistakes. I have come this far, in order to have a life. To enjoy some of this life free from all the pain of my past-besides what life Cf will take from me already.
From a non-emotional point of view-taking in a 13 year old that already has tremendous issues and is in trouble could damage my health right now. Raising a baby will present enough issues-but adding a troubled teen?
Perhaps its good for me write this-I can explain it all to myself and see word for word how I feel.
Anyhow-again, I do not mind different opinions. Thats' what a forum is about. I was asking more for support on this one. And I would only add-and I mean this only a kind way-be very careful about advising people on a situation like this when you know so little about the circumstances. I can take it, thankfully b/c I have a good psychaitrist! But I'd feel terrible if someone like me, impressionable came here for support and got a guilt trip for not adopting their estranged mother's child.