People need to relax

[Seana30]

OH DYZA.....With that statement I believe you are just trying to stir up even more sh**!

Why did you even have to go there !!!!!!!!!!!!!

Seana

 

[Allie]

Hey, not all wives of Cfers think they have no right to sound off. My hubby was unpredictably humorous too, never bothered me.

 

[littledebbie]

okay now i feel the need to reply and say I'm with dyza on this.
 CFers have twisted humor a lot and its part of the package
with a lot of us.  And I don't think a reasonable person can
start a thread and not think there won't be at least one frivolous
post, it's part of the forum package.<br>
<br>
I think moms and spouses etc have as much right to an opinion etc
it is just you have to admit it's an interesting trend of the ones
that were soooo offended, some exceptions acknowledged...please
don't make me acknowledge all of you individually we could be
here a looong time.<br>
<br>
I also think it might be helpful to look at what you think this
forum represents and think for a second if maybe it represents
something else to others.  Some see it as an information tool,
others a "support" system, some are just making friends
with other Cfers we can't meet because of bugs.  While a
comment might seem out of line with your "vision" of the
forum, it might not be so out of step for others.

 

[julie]

I think some are totally missing the point of what I, I repeat I (I, me, Me, I, ME!!!) has a problem with.

Sean, it's not that you come out of nowhere with you crazy comments, quirky statements, funny scenarios, jokes you pull out of your butt. Half the time I don't get it either, but that's NOT what my problem is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It's the time/place in which you choose to do it. You've made me laugh on many occasions, and I've told you so. Just research some of your posts. You'll see nothing but "thanks for the laughs sean..." or so on from me. But please, not every waking moment and every post is the right time/place to do it.

You have jokes all over the place on this board, and there is NOTHING wrong with many of them save for the timeing/location of some. But if you look back and notice, it's the ones where you TAKE AWAY from the questions/concerns of others that I really have a problem with it-as do some others. And maybe it's not my place to say something about it. The first few times I didn't say anything because I figured, "hey, it's so and so's topic and if they a problem they as the creator should say something". But as it's gone on more and more, I've become more and more frustrated with having to wade through the crap to get to the point.

All I ask is the same thing that Seana stated, please take into consideration that people (myself included) are saying that you are making their time here an unplesant one. My time here isn't unplesant perse (as seana stated) but I know you've made others very intimitated and sure, it's really their problem. But others are noticing it now too. Can you just try to be a little more conscious about where you choose to post your funny comments??????

AS for the anon at 8:21 pm. I'm not going anywhere so dream on. And are you even aware of the definition of ignorant because you've grossly misrepresented it by including me in the same statement with that word.
I've learned so much from this board, made so many friends and I also have things to share that have been very beneficial to others. That is my purpose here. What's yours?

Ender, nothing hurts. But since you provided a scale, I'll tell you I'm pissed off right now on a scale of 10/10. Ironically that's the same scale we use at work for children. Funny that you should choose to present it. Only a child would find that scale useful. If you have a problem with me, please, address it on an adult level. I will continue to treat you as the child you present yourself to be until you appear otherwise to me.

And Dyza, I'm not sure if it's you or Craig, but the one's objecting here aren't just mothers of or wives of CFers. EVERYONE has a right to sound off now and then. CFer's aren't special in their need to vent. We all have crap going on in our lives, sometimes it's worse than someone else, sometimes it's not.

And by the way, for anyone who thinks my problem is to the reference HIGHLANDER, I acutally love that show. My dad and I use to watch it every time it was on when I was younger. He would convince my mom to let me stay up to watch it with him. Lots of great memories there. My problem has nothing to do with the show, but rather the fact that the poster (if you go to that post) asked a question that quickly got diverted by Sean's comment of highlander without ever addressing the posters question, and then others commented about highlander rather than the question.

 

[Allie]

Julie, a tip, one thing I've learned as a parent. The more you have a reaction to something, the more likely they are to repeat that action. Just a thought. If you don't rise to the bait, they have nothing to play off of.

 

[julie]

I hear what you are saying Allie. But I've sat back long enough on this one. I'm not asking sean to not say funny things or to be himself. Not one bit. What I, and others are asking is that he be considerate of others, just as we have of him but are now getting fed up with.

I have a lot of time to waste lately too so maybe that's part of the problem. But i've just been bothered by this lately and have sat on it for a while but feel the need to say something. Just as you address things in your blog, I address things here.

Thanks for the feedback though, this will inevitably keep going aroudn in a circle so I think I am done now, I've made my point.

 

[littledebbie]

Not to be a snot...but who decides when it's okay to make a funny
comment and when it's inappropriate?  i think we should let
people speak for themselves.  Julie you seem to think you are
speaking for other people.  i am really only interested in
what people actually post on here not what they PM others etc.
 Also if the subtley of the fact that Ender was indicating you
are being childish is lost on you I don't know what to say....

 

[dyza]

Damn, found out

 

[Seana30]

LOL.....Dyza......good sense of humor.....your response made me laugh!!

Seana

 

[dyza]

Sarcasm, eh littledebbie, lost on a lot of people<br>
.Dyza and Craig are one and the sane, sorry ,the same.

 

[ladybug]

I sort of agree with Julie with regard to something being said and the posts getting diverted. I notice sometimes threads on here get diverted easily when something unrelated is brought up. So, one often has to sift through a page or two of unrelated things just to get to more posts having to do with the original question. I'm not saying its due to one person or another, but I do notice that sometimes the initial poster's question gets "lost" when coversations are made out of a joke or off-topic remark. Such things may be better served in a seperate post.

For example... I know my post on going overseas hasn't had this happen, but if someone WOULD get on and start chatting or joking about their vacations, having nothing at all to do with my initial question about traveling to Russia and the obstacles I, as a CFer, may face, I would become a bit irritated too. Such things can be posted on a seperate "off-topic" thread about vacations or funny vacations or something like that... not in my post asking for ideas and comment.

Now, this was just an EXAMPLE to illustrate the frustration I think many are having with jokes popping up on threads. You can say "well, you have a choice not to read it then"... but, really if it is in my thread that I'm hoping to find information on, I don't have much of a choice in case someone has posted something relevant in with the jokes. Ya know?

So, I guess all's I'm saying is I do understand its a fine line when posting jokes and diverting the original purpose of the post. I dont' think, for those of us who pop on from time to time to see if anyone has added to a question we posted, everyone has time to sift through they post to find the relevance, ya know (sometimes I only have a moment or two to check the boards)?

I feel its more of a respect-thing to keep a post on-topic. The poster obviously wanted responses or they wouldn't have posted. And, I think it is respectful of us to at least try to keep our posts relevant (even if a relevant joke here or there is thrown in).

OK, so I'm being redundant.....

As far as SD.... I don't have a problem with a joke here or there in posts... as long as it doesn't divert the thread entirely. JMO. Humor is a good thing, and he has given me many a laugh and sometimes a bit of shock and awe with what he comes up with! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Sometimes, I do think it breaks up threads to have a bit of humor in them, again, though not diverting entirely from the post.

Thanks for listening.

 

[littlemisssilly]

I've been sitting here debating with myself for the last 20 mins or
so as to whether I should respond to this thread or just let things
go........ but no prizes for guessing what I decided!<br>
<br>
This forum has given me so much support and strength to help me
deal with the everyday issues that come with having an illness like
CF. It has given me information, insight into how others cope with
the challenges that CF brings and most importantly, it has shown me
that I am not alone and has provided me with a much needed outlet
to voice my thoughts on anything, especially taboo topics like, my
own mortality.<br>
<br>
Having said that, there are things also about this forum that at
times, disappoint me, this thread being one of them with all it's
carrying on.<br>
<br>
Like life, this forum is home to many different and some very
dominant personalities. I consider myself one of those dominant
personalities although you may not think so given that I don't post
that much. I have learnt from my own life experiences that (without
realising) I have a tendency to dominant conversations with my
personality, opinions, laughter and very dry sense of humour and
unintentionally have intimidated others around me who are more
quiet and passive.<br>
<br>
I have also learnt in life, that there is a time and place for
humour and jokes for fear that I may deny others a voice or
that I may come across as a bit of a bully which is never my
intention. The point of this story is, everyone deserves a voice on
this site and I fear that if users are increasingly confronted with
smart arse jokes in response to their questions, they may feel that
we are making light of their issues, which to them, are very
real.<br>
<br>
SD, I enjoy some of your posts, they're refreshing but others I
feel could have used better judgment. Not everyone on this site is
as assertive as perhaps you and me.<br>
<br>
Thanks

 

[anonymous]

SeanDaivs,
I don't really think its an issue of disliking you or not. I don't dislike you, but I do sometimes find your comments a bit out of place. Its sometimes like you come into a hospital room where someone is worried about themselves and you start cracking sarcastic comments. Its not helpful. I mean on a lot of topics its ok, but its the serious ones you should probably leave alone.
I find your jokes and that funny and it makes me smile, except when I read about someone who's having a problem and I see your sarcastic comment, it makes me roll my eyes.

Thats my two cents

Shamrock, x

 

[Ender]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>julie</b></i>
Ender, nothing hurts. But since you provided a scale, I'll tell you I'm pissed off right now on a scale of 10/10. Ironically that's the same scale we use at work for children. Funny that you should choose to present it. Only a child would find that scale useful. If you have a problem with me, please, address it on an adult level. I will continue to treat you as the child you present yourself to be until you appear otherwise to me.
.</end quote></div>

Oh please, grow up. It was a joke. I think you got it backwords....it was meant to represent your mindless arguing. Bleh....take it as it is.

Kiel

 

[Emily65Roses]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>julie</b></i>
And Dyza, I'm not sure if it's you or Craig, but the one's objecting here aren't just mothers of or wives of CFers. EVERYONE has a right to sound off now and then. CFer's aren't special in their need to vent. We all have crap going on in our lives, sometimes it's worse than someone else, sometimes it's not.</end quote></div>

Dyza, if I'm correct, wasn't saying we're special. We're not the only people who need to vent or complain. What she was saying is that a lot of us do tend to have ridiculous senses of humor. Kind of comes with the territory. *shrug*

 

[Jane]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>julie</b></i>



Sean, I have a bone to pick with you and this seems the appropriate topic to do so.

You need to grow up!! Maybe that's how you are and it's what works for you, but you have created nothing but animosity on this board since you joined AND IT IS NOT WORKING HERE. </end quote></div>




Although I do agree that Sean gets "off topic" very often, I don't believe it is always inappropriate. Random maybe. It is not OK to ridicule someone's post or to "set us up" with false postings. Most of the time I enjoy his comments and his humor. Sometimes they anger me, and when they do, I respond. The times it bothers me is when he has responded sarcastically to someone's post and missed their point. We all do that at times. The silly comments I read, sometimes laugh, sometimes ignore....its just Sean. He never fails to get a reaction.

But Julie, I have to disagree with your comments that Sean has ONLY created animosity since joining. I for one have gained a great deal from Sean's experiences with supplements and appreciate his input.

jane

 

[NoExcuses]

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[Scarlett81]

I seriously am sick of this crap. And all this nonsense as of late is seriously making me consider leaving this place. I'm just not getting what I used to get here.

There's only a few precious people that have held me to this place.

Since we're all letting it come out: there have been several times when I've been scrolling through a serious topic, note- I say serious topic, and it's interrupted by a stupid, innapropriate remark. Which either doesn't make sense-OR is ONLY said to draw attention to the person that wrote it!! Not to help. Not to "lighten the mood". These comments that are made-yes SD, are only made to draw attention to yourself. Not to help anyone.

OK-they have an appropriate place and time. This didn't have to turn into a war. You make everyone laugh. You help in many areas. But all I can say is that lately I'll be going through a thread and it's interrupted by a dumb remark, and I just turn the computer off.

Pick the right place and time-SD. There is a right place and time. Some people don't "get" your sense of humor, or just don't appreciate it when they're trying to get advice on a serious subject or need someone to talk to. That's how I feel. I don't want you to go away, and I think that's probably all Julie's trying to say also.

On another note-there have been more and more debates here as of late. And why is that? I'm not saying that some of them aren't legitimate. But some of them are ridiculous. Are some people just so exhausted or burnt from their routine or what they're dealing with that they come here and rant on others? Go punch a pillow.

 

[kybert]

people need to ask themselves the question "if a serious thread that i created was derailed and was turned into a joke thread would i be annoyed?". yes, you would be annoyed. serious threads need to be treated seriously. not everything can be made into a joke. im not peed off with anyone here but it is frustrating that all this commotion could have been avoided with a bit of common sense. can we all be calm now and remind ourselves that there is a time and place for jokes, just as most people have said?

 

[anonymous]

I think this is disgusting.
This entire thread is ripping on other people, having nothing to do with anything but to complain and get mad at other people.
SD, i think that a lot of times you put silly things into serious threads but every time i laugh. there are times when reading all the serious threads at once can get me sad and upset and I personally like having a one second break with a joke. it doesn't make me forget the serious thread or what i am reading.
This is my personal belief. others who thinking differently have the right too, i completely understand that.
What I hate lately is all the complaining about other people. This thread alone makes me want to leave the site.
Sue 24w/CF