Hello!
First, WELCOME! We are happy you're here. This is a great place to come for support. Secondly, my heart breaks, thinking of what you're feeling right now. It's so overwhelming. My daughter was not diagnosed until about 4 days after birth, but our world went into a tailspin then like yours must have when you got the news. You are not alone.
Third, let me assure you that you will have a beautiful baby whom you will LOVE beyond belief! Eventually, you will have a "normal" life, doing all the things you've done with your 8 year old, just with CF in the mix. Seems impossible right now, I know. It did to me, too. But eventually, the things you have to do become routine...except for the times when the routine is blown out the window, the times of sickness.
There are some diagnosis stories in the diagnosis section of this site. You'll find details of alot of our stories there. For now, I'm going to tell you some of the major ways that our lives shanged after dagnosis.
Prior to CF we rarely visited the doctor...for any of us. Now it's a regular deal. The first two years it felt like we lived in one waiting room or the other. That has settled down for us, and now we have pretty much the quartely clinic visits and a few things in between. That's different for everyone. Emily technically has two class 1 mutations (Df508, R5113x - I think). So, by the numbers she has a severe case...but you'll learn that that really doesn't mean much. There is a HUGE variance in symptoms, degrees of severity, general helath, etc, among people with the same mutations, let alone the hundreds of different mutation combinations that are possible.
We are vigilant about meds and treatments at home. Currently Emily takes about 8 different meds daily, some oral, some inhaled/nebulized, some that we put in her g-tube (more about that lately). We've gotten to this point gradually over 4 years, and it changes from time to time. When she was a tiny baby, yes, it felt overwhelming. Now, it's part of the routine, and it doesn't phase us, her, or her daycare staff, or the occasional babysitter. It's just our life. Emily also uses a vest for airway clearance. Again, part of the routine.
Getting her g-tube at about 18 months was a HUGE decision for us...the hardest thing we've encountered yet. That's one thing about CF...it sure makes you grow and learn and face tough stuff. But, we made the choice the best we could, and we've never regretted it. Even something as big as this hadsn't had a negative impact on Emily's day to day life. SHe's just a normal preschooler. Really.
You asked about daily life, travel, etc... Well, the best I can say is that it's all VERY NORMAL! We are like any other family in our neighborhood or in our kids schools. We're normal. No, it didn't feel that way at first. I thought we'd never be able to do the things we enjoyed again, like camping and going out for dates just the two of us (well, that hasn't happened in years, but not due to CF!!!). But, we do! It's OK, and it's a great life.
I do live with the constant knowledge that things could change tomorrow. One day there will be a clinic vist that ends in a hospital admit instead of coming home. Some day we'll add a new med to the routine, or we'll get a culture result that will send me into despair. I know the other shoe will drop. But for now, we are managing, and Emily is THRIVING. MOre than anything, CF HAS taught me to enjoy each day. To LIVE and be aware of it. There are lots of other positive consequences, too (we both take care of ourselves a little better now. We don't sweat the small stuff. We've gotten closer as a couple...) that I attribute to Emily's dagnosis.
OK. I've gone on long enough. Just rest assured that it's going to be tough at first. You'll find support for those tough days here and from your family, hopefully. Then, in a few years, you'll be able to write a post like this to a "new" family. It's going to be OK.
A few last items:
1. Find the closest accredidted CF center and make an appointment, if you haven;'t done that already.
2. Plan to deliver at a hospital with a high level NICU, just in case. I wish I had been able to do that.
3. There are some kids books out there about CF...although I can't think of anything appropriate for an 8 year old. They are geared for younger kids. You'll want to let him know about some of the things you'll have to do for the baby, (Chest PT, enzymes...) and by all means, make HIM a part of it as early as you can.
OK. I"m really done now.
Please visit often. We're here for you!