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anonymous

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Tara,

I did alot of soul searching if you will and thinking regarding tubal, and then I did a ton of research and asked alot of people about it, and even Seana from here gave me some great advice. With alot of research on the net and with several different doctors I went ahead and did it. Knowing full well the risks (and special thanks to Seana because she has first hand experience), complications, pros/cons. Ultimatly I decided since I have cf myself and my health might be considered mild, but i know my body and know that it couldnt handle a pregnancy. I went ahead with it....yes my husband and I considered "tieing his tubes" but we couldnt get that covered by insurance...plus if anything ever happened to me and he remarried what if they wanted kids then. Anyway what I'm getting at is it was MY decsion....I did it for ME...I did not want to pass on CF to possible children or grandchildren. So I do not regret the decsion, sure the urge to have children hits everyonce in a while...I am a woman I think its natural to an extent. But if you think you didnt do it for yourself, I see where you would regret it. Knowing you yourself are not a cfer, I understand it as well. When did you have this done? I know right after I had it done i felt a little remorse and regret just knowing that I could never have kids....Thinking and saying you wont have kids is different than positively knowing you cant ever have kids naturally. So maybe thats whats going on now....I dont know. If the urge to have more kids continue then I suggest adoption....I know that its not the same as carrying your own child.....but the love can be the same, the care and joy can be the same....even the tough times can be the same. Sure its different but alot of it can be the same...plus you could be giving a child a happy home and family.

I dont know if any of this helped you. But just know that you are not the only one that ever regreted having a tubal.

Amanda
 

Seana30

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Amanda,

I am glad I was able to help.

Good to hear you are happy with your decision. It really is a very personal choice.

I got pregnant TWICE while on the pill so I knew it was a choice I had to make.


(Hope this made sense, I am drugged up on Nyquil.....lol)

Seana
 
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