Should I continue to work?????

65rosessamurai · Feb 25, 2008

This can be viewed from three aspects:

The company; in order to stay functional, meet the customers requirements and even have room to grow, some adjustments have to be considered.

Your husband; in order to meet the customers demands, keep himself in business, he has to do whats best for the company. (and maybe find some R & R before going bonkers from overwork!)

Your situation (which can be a longer list); Have a husband to see on the weekends cause work isn't bogging him down from having personal time; you still have the opportunity to work there on your own schedule; You would also be dealing with less external stress and can focus on keeping yourself healthy.

I wouldn't see this as "giving up" at all..it wasn't your decision to throw in the towel, and besides, it's a lifestyle adjustment.

I'm sure that even if your husband makes a good enough income for you to go to school, maybe just going to school can be a worthwhile "hobby"? As for getting a new and different job, it would still depend on how well you think you can work effectively in the future...I think just going to school would keep you busy and to feel that you are doing a worthwhile investment.

As a guy, I'd love to be able to take a part-time schedule to what I'm doing now, as well as make good money and be able to spend it on my hobbies...but, I guess that's the second downfall of a CF guy, huh?

Hope this input was helpful and a good perspective...

65rosessamurai · Feb 25, 2008

This can be viewed from three aspects:

The company; in order to stay functional, meet the customers requirements and even have room to grow, some adjustments have to be considered.

Your husband; in order to meet the customers demands, keep himself in business, he has to do whats best for the company. (and maybe find some R & R before going bonkers from overwork!)

Your situation (which can be a longer list); Have a husband to see on the weekends cause work isn't bogging him down from having personal time; you still have the opportunity to work there on your own schedule; You would also be dealing with less external stress and can focus on keeping yourself healthy.

I wouldn't see this as "giving up" at all..it wasn't your decision to throw in the towel, and besides, it's a lifestyle adjustment.

I'm sure that even if your husband makes a good enough income for you to go to school, maybe just going to school can be a worthwhile "hobby"? As for getting a new and different job, it would still depend on how well you think you can work effectively in the future...I think just going to school would keep you busy and to feel that you are doing a worthwhile investment.

As a guy, I'd love to be able to take a part-time schedule to what I'm doing now, as well as make good money and be able to spend it on my hobbies...but, I guess that's the second downfall of a CF guy, huh?

Hope this input was helpful and a good perspective...

65rosessamurai · Feb 25, 2008

This can be viewed from three aspects:

The company; in order to stay functional, meet the customers requirements and even have room to grow, some adjustments have to be considered.

Your husband; in order to meet the customers demands, keep himself in business, he has to do whats best for the company. (and maybe find some R & R before going bonkers from overwork!)

Your situation (which can be a longer list); Have a husband to see on the weekends cause work isn't bogging him down from having personal time; you still have the opportunity to work there on your own schedule; You would also be dealing with less external stress and can focus on keeping yourself healthy.

I wouldn't see this as "giving up" at all..it wasn't your decision to throw in the towel, and besides, it's a lifestyle adjustment.

I'm sure that even if your husband makes a good enough income for you to go to school, maybe just going to school can be a worthwhile "hobby"? As for getting a new and different job, it would still depend on how well you think you can work effectively in the future...I think just going to school would keep you busy and to feel that you are doing a worthwhile investment.

As a guy, I'd love to be able to take a part-time schedule to what I'm doing now, as well as make good money and be able to spend it on my hobbies...but, I guess that's the second downfall of a CF guy, huh?

Hope this input was helpful and a good perspective...

65rosessamurai · Feb 25, 2008

This can be viewed from three aspects:

The company; in order to stay functional, meet the customers requirements and even have room to grow, some adjustments have to be considered.

Your husband; in order to meet the customers demands, keep himself in business, he has to do whats best for the company. (and maybe find some R & R before going bonkers from overwork!)

Your situation (which can be a longer list); Have a husband to see on the weekends cause work isn't bogging him down from having personal time; you still have the opportunity to work there on your own schedule; You would also be dealing with less external stress and can focus on keeping yourself healthy.

I wouldn't see this as "giving up" at all..it wasn't your decision to throw in the towel, and besides, it's a lifestyle adjustment.

I'm sure that even if your husband makes a good enough income for you to go to school, maybe just going to school can be a worthwhile "hobby"? As for getting a new and different job, it would still depend on how well you think you can work effectively in the future...I think just going to school would keep you busy and to feel that you are doing a worthwhile investment.

As a guy, I'd love to be able to take a part-time schedule to what I'm doing now, as well as make good money and be able to spend it on my hobbies...but, I guess that's the second downfall of a CF guy, huh?

Hope this input was helpful and a good perspective...

65rosessamurai · Feb 25, 2008

This can be viewed from three aspects:
 
 The company; in order to stay functional, meet the customers requirements and even have room to grow, some adjustments have to be considered.
 
 Your husband; in order to meet the customers demands, keep himself in business, he has to do whats best for the company. (and maybe find some R & R before going bonkers from overwork!)
 
 Your situation (which can be a longer list); Have a husband to see on the weekends cause work isn't bogging him down from having personal time; you still have the opportunity to work there on your own schedule; You would also be dealing with less external stress and can focus on keeping yourself healthy.
 
 I wouldn't see this as "giving up" at all..it wasn't your decision to throw in the towel, and besides, it's a lifestyle adjustment.
 
 I'm sure that even if your husband makes a good enough income for you to go to school, maybe just going to school can be a worthwhile "hobby"? As for getting a new and different job, it would still depend on how well you think you can work effectively in the future...I think just going to school would keep you busy and to feel that you are doing a worthwhile investment.
 
 As a guy, I'd love to be able to take a part-time schedule to what I'm doing now, as well as make good money and be able to spend it on my hobbies...but, I guess that's the second downfall of a CF guy, huh?
 
 Hope this input was helpful and a good perspective...

lightNlife · Feb 25, 2008

Hi Kelli,
I'm in the process of figuring out that question for myself. I love my job and don't like the idea of having to take a lighter load or even quit altogether. I know I need to put my health first, but part of that involves mental health.

It's interesting you said "it's not like I have kids..." that was almost my same thought when I was all upset the other night about the possibility of quitting my job. I told my husband "women who aren't working should be raising kids...and that's not what I'll be doing!" I felt almost as though I didn't have any value or identity unless I'm being productive in the workplace.

Would you be able to take a leave of absence from your job just to see how things go? I took a year off last year, mostly because my health was unstable, but also because I needed the break. Coming back to work was hard, and I'm still not sure if it was the right decision.

You aren't a failure if you need to stop working, and you're not a failure for not being able to be an employee alongside your husband. Remind yourself that you have value as a spouse, as a creative individual, as a volunteer, etc.

Like I said, I'm still making these decisions for myself, so I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts along the way to your decision. Please PM me anytime.

lightNlife · Feb 25, 2008

Hi Kelli,
I'm in the process of figuring out that question for myself. I love my job and don't like the idea of having to take a lighter load or even quit altogether. I know I need to put my health first, but part of that involves mental health.

It's interesting you said "it's not like I have kids..." that was almost my same thought when I was all upset the other night about the possibility of quitting my job. I told my husband "women who aren't working should be raising kids...and that's not what I'll be doing!" I felt almost as though I didn't have any value or identity unless I'm being productive in the workplace.

Would you be able to take a leave of absence from your job just to see how things go? I took a year off last year, mostly because my health was unstable, but also because I needed the break. Coming back to work was hard, and I'm still not sure if it was the right decision.

You aren't a failure if you need to stop working, and you're not a failure for not being able to be an employee alongside your husband. Remind yourself that you have value as a spouse, as a creative individual, as a volunteer, etc.

Like I said, I'm still making these decisions for myself, so I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts along the way to your decision. Please PM me anytime.

lightNlife · Feb 25, 2008

Hi Kelli,
I'm in the process of figuring out that question for myself. I love my job and don't like the idea of having to take a lighter load or even quit altogether. I know I need to put my health first, but part of that involves mental health.

It's interesting you said "it's not like I have kids..." that was almost my same thought when I was all upset the other night about the possibility of quitting my job. I told my husband "women who aren't working should be raising kids...and that's not what I'll be doing!" I felt almost as though I didn't have any value or identity unless I'm being productive in the workplace.

Would you be able to take a leave of absence from your job just to see how things go? I took a year off last year, mostly because my health was unstable, but also because I needed the break. Coming back to work was hard, and I'm still not sure if it was the right decision.

You aren't a failure if you need to stop working, and you're not a failure for not being able to be an employee alongside your husband. Remind yourself that you have value as a spouse, as a creative individual, as a volunteer, etc.

Like I said, I'm still making these decisions for myself, so I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts along the way to your decision. Please PM me anytime.

lightNlife · Feb 25, 2008

Hi Kelli,
I'm in the process of figuring out that question for myself. I love my job and don't like the idea of having to take a lighter load or even quit altogether. I know I need to put my health first, but part of that involves mental health.

It's interesting you said "it's not like I have kids..." that was almost my same thought when I was all upset the other night about the possibility of quitting my job. I told my husband "women who aren't working should be raising kids...and that's not what I'll be doing!" I felt almost as though I didn't have any value or identity unless I'm being productive in the workplace.

Would you be able to take a leave of absence from your job just to see how things go? I took a year off last year, mostly because my health was unstable, but also because I needed the break. Coming back to work was hard, and I'm still not sure if it was the right decision.

You aren't a failure if you need to stop working, and you're not a failure for not being able to be an employee alongside your husband. Remind yourself that you have value as a spouse, as a creative individual, as a volunteer, etc.

Like I said, I'm still making these decisions for myself, so I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts along the way to your decision. Please PM me anytime.

lightNlife · Feb 25, 2008

Hi Kelli,
 I'm in the process of figuring out that question for myself. I love my job and don't like the idea of having to take a lighter load or even quit altogether. I know I need to put my health first, but part of that involves mental health.
 
 It's interesting you said "it's not like I have kids..." that was almost my same thought when I was all upset the other night about the possibility of quitting my job. I told my husband "women who aren't working should be raising kids...and that's not what I'll be doing!" I felt almost as though I didn't have any value or identity unless I'm being productive in the workplace.
 
 Would you be able to take a leave of absence from your job just to see how things go? I took a year off last year, mostly because my health was unstable, but also because I needed the break. Coming back to work was hard, and I'm still not sure if it was the right decision.
 
 You aren't a failure if you need to stop working, and you're not a failure for not being able to be an employee alongside your husband. Remind yourself that you have value as a spouse, as a creative individual, as a volunteer, etc.
 
 Like I said, I'm still making these decisions for myself, so I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts along the way to your decision. Please PM me anytime.

bittyhorse23 · Feb 25, 2008

Kelli just like you I am struggling with all of this as well. I should stop working to take care of my health more but I am just not ready to do it. The prospect of not working does entice me and the thought of seeing my nephew more and all of my friends' children more does excite me. But I have the unfortunate circumstance of not being married and having to move back in with my mom so I can afford this lifestyle change - and that is what is irking me. I made the decision to move back in (as you can read in all of my blogs) but it is not really one I am truly happy with. I am making myself see the positives so I do not dwell on the obvious negatives.

Because of my "issues" with myself, I have decided to just take a leave of absence come the summer so I can work on my health and then go back part time.

You sound alot like me. I can see how you feel worthless but know that you are not (trust me I know it is hard to accept that and it is something I continue to struggle with daily). Try to think about the positive side of not working. You will be able to do more for your hubby as a wife and friend. You will have more energy to do things with him. He will have help at the office so you two can spend more time together hopefully. TRY not to dwell on the bad side, make the most of the good sides. I know it is hard, but try <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Also Lauren (lightnlife) had a good point - would you be able to take some time off to see if you can get your health more stable? Then just work part time? Even if your hubby hires someone else you could do some things to help out just so you feel "needed".

I hope this helped and feel free to PM me anything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

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bittyhorse23 · Feb 25, 2008

Kelli just like you I am struggling with all of this as well. I should stop working to take care of my health more but I am just not ready to do it. The prospect of not working does entice me and the thought of seeing my nephew more and all of my friends' children more does excite me. But I have the unfortunate circumstance of not being married and having to move back in with my mom so I can afford this lifestyle change - and that is what is irking me. I made the decision to move back in (as you can read in all of my blogs) but it is not really one I am truly happy with. I am making myself see the positives so I do not dwell on the obvious negatives.

Because of my "issues" with myself, I have decided to just take a leave of absence come the summer so I can work on my health and then go back part time.

You sound alot like me. I can see how you feel worthless but know that you are not (trust me I know it is hard to accept that and it is something I continue to struggle with daily). Try to think about the positive side of not working. You will be able to do more for your hubby as a wife and friend. You will have more energy to do things with him. He will have help at the office so you two can spend more time together hopefully. TRY not to dwell on the bad side, make the most of the good sides. I know it is hard, but try <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Also Lauren (lightnlife) had a good point - would you be able to take some time off to see if you can get your health more stable? Then just work part time? Even if your hubby hires someone else you could do some things to help out just so you feel "needed".

I hope this helped and feel free to PM me anything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

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bittyhorse23 · Feb 25, 2008

Kelli just like you I am struggling with all of this as well. I should stop working to take care of my health more but I am just not ready to do it. The prospect of not working does entice me and the thought of seeing my nephew more and all of my friends' children more does excite me. But I have the unfortunate circumstance of not being married and having to move back in with my mom so I can afford this lifestyle change - and that is what is irking me. I made the decision to move back in (as you can read in all of my blogs) but it is not really one I am truly happy with. I am making myself see the positives so I do not dwell on the obvious negatives.

Because of my "issues" with myself, I have decided to just take a leave of absence come the summer so I can work on my health and then go back part time.

You sound alot like me. I can see how you feel worthless but know that you are not (trust me I know it is hard to accept that and it is something I continue to struggle with daily). Try to think about the positive side of not working. You will be able to do more for your hubby as a wife and friend. You will have more energy to do things with him. He will have help at the office so you two can spend more time together hopefully. TRY not to dwell on the bad side, make the most of the good sides. I know it is hard, but try <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Also Lauren (lightnlife) had a good point - would you be able to take some time off to see if you can get your health more stable? Then just work part time? Even if your hubby hires someone else you could do some things to help out just so you feel "needed".

I hope this helped and feel free to PM me anything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23 · Feb 25, 2008

Kelli just like you I am struggling with all of this as well. I should stop working to take care of my health more but I am just not ready to do it. The prospect of not working does entice me and the thought of seeing my nephew more and all of my friends' children more does excite me. But I have the unfortunate circumstance of not being married and having to move back in with my mom so I can afford this lifestyle change - and that is what is irking me. I made the decision to move back in (as you can read in all of my blogs) but it is not really one I am truly happy with. I am making myself see the positives so I do not dwell on the obvious negatives.

Because of my "issues" with myself, I have decided to just take a leave of absence come the summer so I can work on my health and then go back part time.

You sound alot like me. I can see how you feel worthless but know that you are not (trust me I know it is hard to accept that and it is something I continue to struggle with daily). Try to think about the positive side of not working. You will be able to do more for your hubby as a wife and friend. You will have more energy to do things with him. He will have help at the office so you two can spend more time together hopefully. TRY not to dwell on the bad side, make the most of the good sides. I know it is hard, but try <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

Also Lauren (lightnlife) had a good point - would you be able to take some time off to see if you can get your health more stable? Then just work part time? Even if your hubby hires someone else you could do some things to help out just so you feel "needed".

I hope this helped and feel free to PM me anything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">

<img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

bittyhorse23 · Feb 25, 2008

Kelli just like you I am struggling with all of this as well. I should stop working to take care of my health more but I am just not ready to do it. The prospect of not working does entice me and the thought of seeing my nephew more and all of my friends' children more does excite me. But I have the unfortunate circumstance of not being married and having to move back in with my mom so I can afford this lifestyle change - and that is what is irking me. I made the decision to move back in (as you can read in all of my blogs) but it is not really one I am truly happy with. I am making myself see the positives so I do not dwell on the obvious negatives.
 
 Because of my "issues" with myself, I have decided to just take a leave of absence come the summer so I can work on my health and then go back part time.
 
 You sound alot like me. I can see how you feel worthless but know that you are not (trust me I know it is hard to accept that and it is something I continue to struggle with daily). Try to think about the positive side of not working. You will be able to do more for your hubby as a wife and friend. You will have more energy to do things with him. He will have help at the office so you two can spend more time together hopefully. TRY not to dwell on the bad side, make the most of the good sides. I know it is hard, but try <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
 Also Lauren (lightnlife) had a good point - would you be able to take some time off to see if you can get your health more stable? Then just work part time? Even if your hubby hires someone else you could do some things to help out just so you feel "needed".
 
 I hope this helped and feel free to PM me anything <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-happy.gif" border="0">
 
 <img src="i/expressions/heart.gif" border="0">

Kelli · Feb 25, 2008

Hey Everyone,

Thank you so much. I do feel a LOT better after reading this. I literally cried in bed last night and sobbed to my husband how I feel (didn't plan on that) and he listened.

I guess I am struggling with the fact that if I work I feel like I am important, to make an income makes me feel like I contribute to my bills, my shopping, etc. But I KNOW my husband needs & deserves a break, he's going to kill himself working! I want him to be happy, have free time and be able to do what he wants to do.

JennifersHope, yes I could still make the same $ (I'm on salary and my husband doesn't really care if I work or not) so I could still have the same paycheck. And the business is really successful which God has fully blessed us with (and yes it's a multi million dollar business but WE are not millionaires, the business is). Not like I'm rolling in dough in some mansion. Well, not that I'd really mind. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I don't really feel all that 'needed' at work, anyone could do what I do but I feel like I need to hold onto that position for some reason, stand my ground (and I don't know WHY I feel like this). I think I am just 'there' and it's not the greatest place for me, the language alone could make me go thru the roof. But it's like I think I need a job so I know who I am etc etc.

I guess I need to find a hobby that I like. Try different things, do things, go places. Maybe go to school (it would be where my step daughter goes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) I have always wanted to learn sign language and sign in front of my church to a song, maybe I could persue that.

Well thank you everyone for your posts. I'm sure I'll keep looking back at this and re-reading it and seeing more posts too about this. I e-mailed 2 of my best friends and my sister to see what they think since I value their opinions and they know my life personally. I just feel like I won't be 'busy' enough and I don't want to be bored, sit around, etc.

But I would like to work out more and get a smokin' hot body too!!! I looked in the mirror yesterday and could have cried when I saw the shape my butt is in. Yikes. I don't think it's where it used to be!! It headed south for the winter.

Thanks everyone, I really truly appreciate all of your advice and insight. I will continue to think about this & pray about this. I think I'll work M,W,F and see how that is. Maybe stopping cold turkey will be too rough for me.

Thank you thank you thank you!
You guys are great!

Kelli

Kelli · Feb 25, 2008

Hey Everyone,

Thank you so much. I do feel a LOT better after reading this. I literally cried in bed last night and sobbed to my husband how I feel (didn't plan on that) and he listened.

I guess I am struggling with the fact that if I work I feel like I am important, to make an income makes me feel like I contribute to my bills, my shopping, etc. But I KNOW my husband needs & deserves a break, he's going to kill himself working! I want him to be happy, have free time and be able to do what he wants to do.

JennifersHope, yes I could still make the same $ (I'm on salary and my husband doesn't really care if I work or not) so I could still have the same paycheck. And the business is really successful which God has fully blessed us with (and yes it's a multi million dollar business but WE are not millionaires, the business is). Not like I'm rolling in dough in some mansion. Well, not that I'd really mind. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I don't really feel all that 'needed' at work, anyone could do what I do but I feel like I need to hold onto that position for some reason, stand my ground (and I don't know WHY I feel like this). I think I am just 'there' and it's not the greatest place for me, the language alone could make me go thru the roof. But it's like I think I need a job so I know who I am etc etc.

I guess I need to find a hobby that I like. Try different things, do things, go places. Maybe go to school (it would be where my step daughter goes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) I have always wanted to learn sign language and sign in front of my church to a song, maybe I could persue that.

Well thank you everyone for your posts. I'm sure I'll keep looking back at this and re-reading it and seeing more posts too about this. I e-mailed 2 of my best friends and my sister to see what they think since I value their opinions and they know my life personally. I just feel like I won't be 'busy' enough and I don't want to be bored, sit around, etc.

But I would like to work out more and get a smokin' hot body too!!! I looked in the mirror yesterday and could have cried when I saw the shape my butt is in. Yikes. I don't think it's where it used to be!! It headed south for the winter.

Thanks everyone, I really truly appreciate all of your advice and insight. I will continue to think about this & pray about this. I think I'll work M,W,F and see how that is. Maybe stopping cold turkey will be too rough for me.

Thank you thank you thank you!
You guys are great!

Kelli

Kelli · Feb 25, 2008

Hey Everyone,

Thank you so much. I do feel a LOT better after reading this. I literally cried in bed last night and sobbed to my husband how I feel (didn't plan on that) and he listened.

I guess I am struggling with the fact that if I work I feel like I am important, to make an income makes me feel like I contribute to my bills, my shopping, etc. But I KNOW my husband needs & deserves a break, he's going to kill himself working! I want him to be happy, have free time and be able to do what he wants to do.

JennifersHope, yes I could still make the same $ (I'm on salary and my husband doesn't really care if I work or not) so I could still have the same paycheck. And the business is really successful which God has fully blessed us with (and yes it's a multi million dollar business but WE are not millionaires, the business is). Not like I'm rolling in dough in some mansion. Well, not that I'd really mind. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I don't really feel all that 'needed' at work, anyone could do what I do but I feel like I need to hold onto that position for some reason, stand my ground (and I don't know WHY I feel like this). I think I am just 'there' and it's not the greatest place for me, the language alone could make me go thru the roof. But it's like I think I need a job so I know who I am etc etc.

I guess I need to find a hobby that I like. Try different things, do things, go places. Maybe go to school (it would be where my step daughter goes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) I have always wanted to learn sign language and sign in front of my church to a song, maybe I could persue that.

Well thank you everyone for your posts. I'm sure I'll keep looking back at this and re-reading it and seeing more posts too about this. I e-mailed 2 of my best friends and my sister to see what they think since I value their opinions and they know my life personally. I just feel like I won't be 'busy' enough and I don't want to be bored, sit around, etc.

But I would like to work out more and get a smokin' hot body too!!! I looked in the mirror yesterday and could have cried when I saw the shape my butt is in. Yikes. I don't think it's where it used to be!! It headed south for the winter.

Thanks everyone, I really truly appreciate all of your advice and insight. I will continue to think about this & pray about this. I think I'll work M,W,F and see how that is. Maybe stopping cold turkey will be too rough for me.

Thank you thank you thank you!
You guys are great!

Kelli

Kelli · Feb 25, 2008

Hey Everyone,

Thank you so much. I do feel a LOT better after reading this. I literally cried in bed last night and sobbed to my husband how I feel (didn't plan on that) and he listened.

I guess I am struggling with the fact that if I work I feel like I am important, to make an income makes me feel like I contribute to my bills, my shopping, etc. But I KNOW my husband needs & deserves a break, he's going to kill himself working! I want him to be happy, have free time and be able to do what he wants to do.

JennifersHope, yes I could still make the same $ (I'm on salary and my husband doesn't really care if I work or not) so I could still have the same paycheck. And the business is really successful which God has fully blessed us with (and yes it's a multi million dollar business but WE are not millionaires, the business is). Not like I'm rolling in dough in some mansion. Well, not that I'd really mind. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I don't really feel all that 'needed' at work, anyone could do what I do but I feel like I need to hold onto that position for some reason, stand my ground (and I don't know WHY I feel like this). I think I am just 'there' and it's not the greatest place for me, the language alone could make me go thru the roof. But it's like I think I need a job so I know who I am etc etc.

I guess I need to find a hobby that I like. Try different things, do things, go places. Maybe go to school (it would be where my step daughter goes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) I have always wanted to learn sign language and sign in front of my church to a song, maybe I could persue that.

Well thank you everyone for your posts. I'm sure I'll keep looking back at this and re-reading it and seeing more posts too about this. I e-mailed 2 of my best friends and my sister to see what they think since I value their opinions and they know my life personally. I just feel like I won't be 'busy' enough and I don't want to be bored, sit around, etc.

But I would like to work out more and get a smokin' hot body too!!! I looked in the mirror yesterday and could have cried when I saw the shape my butt is in. Yikes. I don't think it's where it used to be!! It headed south for the winter.

Thanks everyone, I really truly appreciate all of your advice and insight. I will continue to think about this & pray about this. I think I'll work M,W,F and see how that is. Maybe stopping cold turkey will be too rough for me.

Thank you thank you thank you!
You guys are great!

Kelli

Kelli · Feb 25, 2008

Hey Everyone,
 
 Thank you so much. I do feel a LOT better after reading this. I literally cried in bed last night and sobbed to my husband how I feel (didn't plan on that) and he listened.
 
 I guess I am struggling with the fact that if I work I feel like I am important, to make an income makes me feel like I contribute to my bills, my shopping, etc. But I KNOW my husband needs & deserves a break, he's going to kill himself working! I want him to be happy, have free time and be able to do what he wants to do.
 
 JennifersHope, yes I could still make the same $ (I'm on salary and my husband doesn't really care if I work or not) so I could still have the same paycheck. And the business is really successful which God has fully blessed us with (and yes it's a multi million dollar business but WE are not millionaires, the business is). Not like I'm rolling in dough in some mansion. Well, not that I'd really mind. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
 I don't really feel all that 'needed' at work, anyone could do what I do but I feel like I need to hold onto that position for some reason, stand my ground (and I don't know WHY I feel like this). I think I am just 'there' and it's not the greatest place for me, the language alone could make me go thru the roof. But it's like I think I need a job so I know who I am etc etc.
 
 I guess I need to find a hobby that I like. Try different things, do things, go places. Maybe go to school (it would be where my step daughter goes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ) I have always wanted to learn sign language and sign in front of my church to a song, maybe I could persue that.
 
 
 Well thank you everyone for your posts. I'm sure I'll keep looking back at this and re-reading it and seeing more posts too about this. I e-mailed 2 of my best friends and my sister to see what they think since I value their opinions and they know my life personally. I just feel like I won't be 'busy' enough and I don't want to be bored, sit around, etc.
 
 But I would like to work out more and get a smokin' hot body too!!! I looked in the mirror yesterday and could have cried when I saw the shape my butt is in. Yikes. I don't think it's where it used to be!! It headed south for the winter.
 
 Thanks everyone, I really truly appreciate all of your advice and insight. I will continue to think about this & pray about this. I think I'll work M,W,F and see how that is. Maybe stopping cold turkey will be too rough for me.
 
 Thank you thank you thank you!
 You guys are great!
 
 Kelli

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