Strange CF things,

[littledebbie]

I agree with whoever said that no matter how you handle this she's
going to end up ticked at you/not liking you.  Since that's
the way it's going to be you might as well not have to listen to
her yammer day after day.  Shocking as it always is to
me...cuz I'm the most likable thing since chocolate milk....not
everyone is going to like us *faints away from shock* some people
just don't like a person from the start...you know oil and water.
 This kind of sounds like a case like that.  <br>
I would maybe suggest saying something along the lines of...you
don't mind talking about CF in an educational way etc. but it's not
something you dwell on or discuss in casual conversation so if she
could limit the CF talk at work you would appreciate it. Allowing
that of course if there's ever anything she NEEDS to dicuss/vent
etc. you would be glad to maybe talk to her at that point but
otherwise put a sock in it.  Hugs and kisses love
jennifer.<br>
Then maybe move the topic onto shoes <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> you know...More important
things!<br>

 

[EnergyGal]

I agree with Debbie one hundred percent. I thought of a good analogy. If you had a patient who was a call monster and asked you for a million things, you have to cut them off sometime so they would stop pestering you. I think you should think of this woman as a call monster and deal with her appropriately. In a professional setting it must be very difficult especially if you are new. I think it is nice to tell others about cf but I would limit the talk and body language will give her the message. Sometimes not smiling or give her cold eyes will help. Not rolling your eyes but look to the left then to the right and say, " ooops I need to take care of something right away, EXCUSE me

I would try the very professional Assertive action first

 

[Ratatosk]

My husband's response to people who question DS's diagnosis -- the he doesn't look sick -- is to say "well the genetic tests from the Mayo Clinic say otherwise. Would you like to see a copy of them which indicated he is homozygous delta f508?" Usually shuts people up.

Try your best to ignore this woman. Only talk about work related stuff with her if you have to speak with her at all. Seems a bit off (psycho) to me. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> L

 

[julie]

I don't have any suggestions other than what others have recommended to you, and not that it makes it any better but maybe she's jealous of you being an RN and her an LPN and jealous that you aren't as sick as her daughter might be. Maybe she had/has hopes and dreams for her daughter that she knows she'll probably never achieve because she's sick so young. Not that it makes what she's doing (the comparison, never shutting up about it...) ok, but maybe she thinks you'd understand above all else.

I'm kind of dealing with the same thing now pregnancy wise. Some moms are telling me they had this god awful pregnancy with this that and a million other problems and I am having triplets and haven't had any really serious issues yet and am so lucky and blah blah blah.... I just have to bite my tounge and refrain from saying something like, "yah, but you brought home one baby and you have 2 arms and 1 husband, so there are two of you to care for one baby. I'm bringing home 3 babies, I have 2 arms and 1 husband and we are outnumbered from day one so shut up. Maybe it's God's way of giving me a break now so I have more energy for when these 3 babies come". I know it's not the same thing, but I can relate to the feelings of getting annoyed with hearing it all the time!!!!

Haven't chatted with you for a while, aside from that, how is everything????

Love ya auntie! only 10 more weeks to go until C section day (If I make it that far), are you ready??????????????????????????????????????

 

[Emily65Roses]

Well hell, Julie, at least you can say you got what you paid for, IVF wise. <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-cool.gif" border="0">

Edited to add: As for me personally, if I got those kind of comments from people, my first response would not be "We're outnumbered, having three babies," but "Yeah well you got pregnant naturally with no extra costs added in, and Mark and I had to go through hell (emotionally, physically, and financially) to get here."

 

[JennifersHope]

Holy Moly Julie, I can't believe that is all you have left to go.. The time flew by soo fast.. Make sure you update your website I want pictures of the belly.

I also need your address so I can send you and my online niece and nephews so presents.. Please PM it to me...

Love

Jennifer

 

[julie]

You sure are right em!! <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> Mark and I joke all of the time that we should have invested our money in stocks or something for the rate of return we got with this IVF.

As a rule of thumb, we don't tell people it was IVF (not really relevant either way but since you mentioned it, I just thought I'd say.....). Mark doesn't share his CF with anyone anymore because of some bad experiences, so he prefers to just tell people it was natural. I wish he wasn't so uncomfortable with it, I would love to share our website with everyone, mainly to educate them but that's his wish and I respect it. He feels if they dont' already know it was IVF, then they have no business asking. I can see his point.

Once one girl did tell me she was asking because they were going to do IVF, so I pulled her aside and explained everything to her, why we tell people it's natural and so on. And she understood, and now I've been chatting with her through her IVF experience. But it's amazing how many people I've run into at the grocery store or mall or something who ask... crazy.

I was going to try to update my site tonight but I don't think I'll get to it until tomorrow. I'll have Mark take a belly picture tonight though.

I'll PM you my address now.