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Taking comments the wrong way!

pnhuffman

New member
Today I took Kaydan the 2 year old to his playgroup/speech therapy class. While waiting for the teachers to come get the children we were talking. The ladies were talking about someone losing quite a few people these last few years and I guess one must have been this person they were talking abouts child whom was actually an adult.

The one lady made a comment about she doesn't know what she would do if she ever lost one of her children. (They know Austin has CF) I made the comment about how that is one thing also that scares me with Austins CF. Her comment was: "Well at least you know it's coming" I just kind of clammed up and the teachers came to get the kids so I left.

Why do some people think that its is easier when you know someone is dying? Especially when its your own child. I know it's really hard if it's sudden because of the no goodbyes and leaving things unfinished. But it doesn't make it any easier knowing that your child is gonna die at an early age.

I don't know if I was being hypersensite or what today. But today is one of those days I didn't like comments like that. I just sat there when Austin got home from school and stared at him. And all of those crazy thoughts went rushing to my head wondering all those horrible thoughts.
 

pnhuffman

New member
Today I took Kaydan the 2 year old to his playgroup/speech therapy class. While waiting for the teachers to come get the children we were talking. The ladies were talking about someone losing quite a few people these last few years and I guess one must have been this person they were talking abouts child whom was actually an adult.

The one lady made a comment about she doesn't know what she would do if she ever lost one of her children. (They know Austin has CF) I made the comment about how that is one thing also that scares me with Austins CF. Her comment was: "Well at least you know it's coming" I just kind of clammed up and the teachers came to get the kids so I left.

Why do some people think that its is easier when you know someone is dying? Especially when its your own child. I know it's really hard if it's sudden because of the no goodbyes and leaving things unfinished. But it doesn't make it any easier knowing that your child is gonna die at an early age.

I don't know if I was being hypersensite or what today. But today is one of those days I didn't like comments like that. I just sat there when Austin got home from school and stared at him. And all of those crazy thoughts went rushing to my head wondering all those horrible thoughts.
 

pnhuffman

New member
Today I took Kaydan the 2 year old to his playgroup/speech therapy class. While waiting for the teachers to come get the children we were talking. The ladies were talking about someone losing quite a few people these last few years and I guess one must have been this person they were talking abouts child whom was actually an adult.

The one lady made a comment about she doesn't know what she would do if she ever lost one of her children. (They know Austin has CF) I made the comment about how that is one thing also that scares me with Austins CF. Her comment was: "Well at least you know it's coming" I just kind of clammed up and the teachers came to get the kids so I left.

Why do some people think that its is easier when you know someone is dying? Especially when its your own child. I know it's really hard if it's sudden because of the no goodbyes and leaving things unfinished. But it doesn't make it any easier knowing that your child is gonna die at an early age.

I don't know if I was being hypersensite or what today. But today is one of those days I didn't like comments like that. I just sat there when Austin got home from school and stared at him. And all of those crazy thoughts went rushing to my head wondering all those horrible thoughts.
 

pnhuffman

New member
Today I took Kaydan the 2 year old to his playgroup/speech therapy class. While waiting for the teachers to come get the children we were talking. The ladies were talking about someone losing quite a few people these last few years and I guess one must have been this person they were talking abouts child whom was actually an adult.

The one lady made a comment about she doesn't know what she would do if she ever lost one of her children. (They know Austin has CF) I made the comment about how that is one thing also that scares me with Austins CF. Her comment was: "Well at least you know it's coming" I just kind of clammed up and the teachers came to get the kids so I left.

Why do some people think that its is easier when you know someone is dying? Especially when its your own child. I know it's really hard if it's sudden because of the no goodbyes and leaving things unfinished. But it doesn't make it any easier knowing that your child is gonna die at an early age.

I don't know if I was being hypersensite or what today. But today is one of those days I didn't like comments like that. I just sat there when Austin got home from school and stared at him. And all of those crazy thoughts went rushing to my head wondering all those horrible thoughts.
 

pnhuffman

New member
Today I took Kaydan the 2 year old to his playgroup/speech therapy class. While waiting for the teachers to come get the children we were talking. The ladies were talking about someone losing quite a few people these last few years and I guess one must have been this person they were talking abouts child whom was actually an adult.

The one lady made a comment about she doesn't know what she would do if she ever lost one of her children. (They know Austin has CF) I made the comment about how that is one thing also that scares me with Austins CF. Her comment was: "Well at least you know it's coming" I just kind of clammed up and the teachers came to get the kids so I left.

Why do some people think that its is easier when you know someone is dying? Especially when its your own child. I know it's really hard if it's sudden because of the no goodbyes and leaving things unfinished. But it doesn't make it any easier knowing that your child is gonna die at an early age.

I don't know if I was being hypersensite or what today. But today is one of those days I didn't like comments like that. I just sat there when Austin got home from school and stared at him. And all of those crazy thoughts went rushing to my head wondering all those horrible thoughts.
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
People are so rude. I guess my response would've been that it's never easy when someone dies, even when it's expected it's still a major loss. Geez! I would've smacked her. Okay maybe not, but...
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
People are so rude. I guess my response would've been that it's never easy when someone dies, even when it's expected it's still a major loss. Geez! I would've smacked her. Okay maybe not, but...
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
People are so rude. I guess my response would've been that it's never easy when someone dies, even when it's expected it's still a major loss. Geez! I would've smacked her. Okay maybe not, but...
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
People are so rude. I guess my response would've been that it's never easy when someone dies, even when it's expected it's still a major loss. Geez! I would've smacked her. Okay maybe not, but...
 

Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
People are so rude. I guess my response would've been that it's never easy when someone dies, even when it's expected it's still a major loss. Geez! I would've smacked her. Okay maybe not, but...
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
WHAT?!! It's no consolation to know it's coming. What an idiot. I'd have been hard pressed not to inform her of how insensitive that comment was, and I'd probably not have been very sensity as to how I informed her either.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
WHAT?!! It's no consolation to know it's coming. What an idiot. I'd have been hard pressed not to inform her of how insensitive that comment was, and I'd probably not have been very sensity as to how I informed her either.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
WHAT?!! It's no consolation to know it's coming. What an idiot. I'd have been hard pressed not to inform her of how insensitive that comment was, and I'd probably not have been very sensity as to how I informed her either.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
WHAT?!! It's no consolation to know it's coming. What an idiot. I'd have been hard pressed not to inform her of how insensitive that comment was, and I'd probably not have been very sensity as to how I informed her either.

Stacey
 

JORDYSMOM

New member
WHAT?!! It's no consolation to know it's coming. What an idiot. I'd have been hard pressed not to inform her of how insensitive that comment was, and I'd probably not have been very sensity as to how I informed her either.

Stacey
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
What an insensitive and heartless thing for her to say. I don't think you overreacted by feeling upset. I would be very hurt too. Losing anyone you love is devestating. Knowing that your child may not get the oportunity to grow old is devestating too. Even before they get there, you alternate beween grieving and denial. I'm sooooo sorry we all have to deal with such people.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
What an insensitive and heartless thing for her to say. I don't think you overreacted by feeling upset. I would be very hurt too. Losing anyone you love is devestating. Knowing that your child may not get the oportunity to grow old is devestating too. Even before they get there, you alternate beween grieving and denial. I'm sooooo sorry we all have to deal with such people.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
What an insensitive and heartless thing for her to say. I don't think you overreacted by feeling upset. I would be very hurt too. Losing anyone you love is devestating. Knowing that your child may not get the oportunity to grow old is devestating too. Even before they get there, you alternate beween grieving and denial. I'm sooooo sorry we all have to deal with such people.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
What an insensitive and heartless thing for her to say. I don't think you overreacted by feeling upset. I would be very hurt too. Losing anyone you love is devestating. Knowing that your child may not get the oportunity to grow old is devestating too. Even before they get there, you alternate beween grieving and denial. I'm sooooo sorry we all have to deal with such people.
 
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Mommafirst

Guest
What an insensitive and heartless thing for her to say. I don't think you overreacted by feeling upset. I would be very hurt too. Losing anyone you love is devestating. Knowing that your child may not get the oportunity to grow old is devestating too. Even before they get there, you alternate beween grieving and denial. I'm sooooo sorry we all have to deal with such people.
 
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