thoughts on being an onlie or having an onlie?

[momtowonderfulchild]

Hello everyone

I have a 2 year old who has CF. My husband and I always thought we wanted to have two children. However, lately as many of my other 'mommy friends' are getting pregnant I find myself questioning this. The fact that my son has CF does of course play a part in that decision but I'd like to think it's not the only factor. When I look toward the future, the thought of having another child seems to be stressful in a way. When I'm with my son sometimes I think, 'how would I be able to do this with another child?' (for example he will only do his vest/nebs treatment in my lap). Then I started wondering if having another child would really make us a happier family or are we perhaps complete as we are. Maybe we could have a really good life just the three of us...

Anyway, I would love to hear from any of you who are only children or parents who have decided to have only one on this issue.

Thank you very much

Sandra

 

[momtowonderfulchild]

Hello everyone

I have a 2 year old who has CF. My husband and I always thought we wanted to have two children. However, lately as many of my other 'mommy friends' are getting pregnant I find myself questioning this. The fact that my son has CF does of course play a part in that decision but I'd like to think it's not the only factor. When I look toward the future, the thought of having another child seems to be stressful in a way. When I'm with my son sometimes I think, 'how would I be able to do this with another child?' (for example he will only do his vest/nebs treatment in my lap). Then I started wondering if having another child would really make us a happier family or are we perhaps complete as we are. Maybe we could have a really good life just the three of us...

Anyway, I would love to hear from any of you who are only children or parents who have decided to have only one on this issue.

Thank you very much

Sandra

 

[momtowonderfulchild]

Hello everyone

I have a 2 year old who has CF. My husband and I always thought we wanted to have two children. However, lately as many of my other 'mommy friends' are getting pregnant I find myself questioning this. The fact that my son has CF does of course play a part in that decision but I'd like to think it's not the only factor. When I look toward the future, the thought of having another child seems to be stressful in a way. When I'm with my son sometimes I think, 'how would I be able to do this with another child?' (for example he will only do his vest/nebs treatment in my lap). Then I started wondering if having another child would really make us a happier family or are we perhaps complete as we are. Maybe we could have a really good life just the three of us...

Anyway, I would love to hear from any of you who are only children or parents who have decided to have only one on this issue.

Thank you very much

Sandra

 

[momtowonderfulchild]

Hello everyone

I have a 2 year old who has CF. My husband and I always thought we wanted to have two children. However, lately as many of my other 'mommy friends' are getting pregnant I find myself questioning this. The fact that my son has CF does of course play a part in that decision but I'd like to think it's not the only factor. When I look toward the future, the thought of having another child seems to be stressful in a way. When I'm with my son sometimes I think, 'how would I be able to do this with another child?' (for example he will only do his vest/nebs treatment in my lap). Then I started wondering if having another child would really make us a happier family or are we perhaps complete as we are. Maybe we could have a really good life just the three of us...

Anyway, I would love to hear from any of you who are only children or parents who have decided to have only one on this issue.

Thank you very much

Sandra

 

[momtowonderfulchild]

Hello everyone

I have a 2 year old who has CF. My husband and I always thought we wanted to have two children. However, lately as many of my other 'mommy friends' are getting pregnant I find myself questioning this. The fact that my son has CF does of course play a part in that decision but I'd like to think it's not the only factor. When I look toward the future, the thought of having another child seems to be stressful in a way. When I'm with my son sometimes I think, 'how would I be able to do this with another child?' (for example he will only do his vest/nebs treatment in my lap). Then I started wondering if having another child would really make us a happier family or are we perhaps complete as we are. Maybe we could have a really good life just the three of us...

Anyway, I would love to hear from any of you who are only children or parents who have decided to have only one on this issue.

Thank you very much

Sandra

 

[JazzysMom]

There is always a part of me that wants another child. We chose not to have another after Jazz had gotten sick & I realized that if I had a baby plus her and I got sick it would be totally unfair.

My biggest issues with having an only child are the times that Jazz has to entertain herself. We do things with her & she has friends, but there are times (more than I would like) that she has to entertain herself for various reasons. This seems unfair, but at the same time its healthy.

Another issue is how others opinions of having 1 child can get on your nerves. Its definitely a personal choice. Although I agree that often only children get spoiled more, I also know kids with siblings who are spoiled brats.

Jazmine is spoiled. She has Daddy wrapped around her finger. BUT for the most part she is appreciative, respectful, tolerant & doesnt act like a brat. She had the patience of a saint when we visited with Jeanne. Jazz was ready to go long before I was & let me know it, but still was tolerant.

There are pros/cons to both sides. The additional thing you have to consider is the CF fractor of which there are pros/cons.

I am really not much of a help I guess. Just know that no matter what you decide we have your back & I guarantee that someone has chose that same path!

HUGS for now.

 

[JazzysMom]

There is always a part of me that wants another child. We chose not to have another after Jazz had gotten sick & I realized that if I had a baby plus her and I got sick it would be totally unfair.

My biggest issues with having an only child are the times that Jazz has to entertain herself. We do things with her & she has friends, but there are times (more than I would like) that she has to entertain herself for various reasons. This seems unfair, but at the same time its healthy.

Another issue is how others opinions of having 1 child can get on your nerves. Its definitely a personal choice. Although I agree that often only children get spoiled more, I also know kids with siblings who are spoiled brats.

Jazmine is spoiled. She has Daddy wrapped around her finger. BUT for the most part she is appreciative, respectful, tolerant & doesnt act like a brat. She had the patience of a saint when we visited with Jeanne. Jazz was ready to go long before I was & let me know it, but still was tolerant.

There are pros/cons to both sides. The additional thing you have to consider is the CF fractor of which there are pros/cons.

I am really not much of a help I guess. Just know that no matter what you decide we have your back & I guarantee that someone has chose that same path!

HUGS for now.

 

[JazzysMom]

There is always a part of me that wants another child. We chose not to have another after Jazz had gotten sick & I realized that if I had a baby plus her and I got sick it would be totally unfair.

My biggest issues with having an only child are the times that Jazz has to entertain herself. We do things with her & she has friends, but there are times (more than I would like) that she has to entertain herself for various reasons. This seems unfair, but at the same time its healthy.

Another issue is how others opinions of having 1 child can get on your nerves. Its definitely a personal choice. Although I agree that often only children get spoiled more, I also know kids with siblings who are spoiled brats.

Jazmine is spoiled. She has Daddy wrapped around her finger. BUT for the most part she is appreciative, respectful, tolerant & doesnt act like a brat. She had the patience of a saint when we visited with Jeanne. Jazz was ready to go long before I was & let me know it, but still was tolerant.

There are pros/cons to both sides. The additional thing you have to consider is the CF fractor of which there are pros/cons.

I am really not much of a help I guess. Just know that no matter what you decide we have your back & I guarantee that someone has chose that same path!

HUGS for now.

 

[JazzysMom]

There is always a part of me that wants another child. We chose not to have another after Jazz had gotten sick & I realized that if I had a baby plus her and I got sick it would be totally unfair.

My biggest issues with having an only child are the times that Jazz has to entertain herself. We do things with her & she has friends, but there are times (more than I would like) that she has to entertain herself for various reasons. This seems unfair, but at the same time its healthy.

Another issue is how others opinions of having 1 child can get on your nerves. Its definitely a personal choice. Although I agree that often only children get spoiled more, I also know kids with siblings who are spoiled brats.

Jazmine is spoiled. She has Daddy wrapped around her finger. BUT for the most part she is appreciative, respectful, tolerant & doesnt act like a brat. She had the patience of a saint when we visited with Jeanne. Jazz was ready to go long before I was & let me know it, but still was tolerant.

There are pros/cons to both sides. The additional thing you have to consider is the CF fractor of which there are pros/cons.

I am really not much of a help I guess. Just know that no matter what you decide we have your back & I guarantee that someone has chose that same path!

HUGS for now.

 

[JazzysMom]

There is always a part of me that wants another child. We chose not to have another after Jazz had gotten sick & I realized that if I had a baby plus her and I got sick it would be totally unfair.

My biggest issues with having an only child are the times that Jazz has to entertain herself. We do things with her & she has friends, but there are times (more than I would like) that she has to entertain herself for various reasons. This seems unfair, but at the same time its healthy.

Another issue is how others opinions of having 1 child can get on your nerves. Its definitely a personal choice. Although I agree that often only children get spoiled more, I also know kids with siblings who are spoiled brats.

Jazmine is spoiled. She has Daddy wrapped around her finger. BUT for the most part she is appreciative, respectful, tolerant & doesnt act like a brat. She had the patience of a saint when we visited with Jeanne. Jazz was ready to go long before I was & let me know it, but still was tolerant.

There are pros/cons to both sides. The additional thing you have to consider is the CF fractor of which there are pros/cons.

I am really not much of a help I guess. Just know that no matter what you decide we have your back & I guarantee that someone has chose that same path!

HUGS for now.

 

[Ratatosk]

DS is an onlie. We'd planned on having two children. We waited forever to begin having kids and considering our ages, among other things, decided to have just one. This isn't a decision we made overnight -- we thought about adoption, PGD, just taking a chance... One of DH's cousins made a similar determination -- they're older than we our and after several miscarriages, decided they'd just stick with one child. He's made it a point to ask only children what their views on it were -- some thought it was fine, one said she HATED being an onlyl child.

Last week DS told me he needed a baby brother like some of his classmates at preschool and I felt a little twinge. He seems to think it's as easy as picking one up at the store.

 

[Ratatosk]

DS is an onlie. We'd planned on having two children. We waited forever to begin having kids and considering our ages, among other things, decided to have just one. This isn't a decision we made overnight -- we thought about adoption, PGD, just taking a chance... One of DH's cousins made a similar determination -- they're older than we our and after several miscarriages, decided they'd just stick with one child. He's made it a point to ask only children what their views on it were -- some thought it was fine, one said she HATED being an onlyl child.

Last week DS told me he needed a baby brother like some of his classmates at preschool and I felt a little twinge. He seems to think it's as easy as picking one up at the store.

 

[Ratatosk]

DS is an onlie. We'd planned on having two children. We waited forever to begin having kids and considering our ages, among other things, decided to have just one. This isn't a decision we made overnight -- we thought about adoption, PGD, just taking a chance... One of DH's cousins made a similar determination -- they're older than we our and after several miscarriages, decided they'd just stick with one child. He's made it a point to ask only children what their views on it were -- some thought it was fine, one said she HATED being an onlyl child.

Last week DS told me he needed a baby brother like some of his classmates at preschool and I felt a little twinge. He seems to think it's as easy as picking one up at the store.

 

[Ratatosk]

DS is an onlie. We'd planned on having two children. We waited forever to begin having kids and considering our ages, among other things, decided to have just one. This isn't a decision we made overnight -- we thought about adoption, PGD, just taking a chance... One of DH's cousins made a similar determination -- they're older than we our and after several miscarriages, decided they'd just stick with one child. He's made it a point to ask only children what their views on it were -- some thought it was fine, one said she HATED being an onlyl child.

Last week DS told me he needed a baby brother like some of his classmates at preschool and I felt a little twinge. He seems to think it's as easy as picking one up at the store.

 

[Ratatosk]

DS is an onlie. We'd planned on having two children. We waited forever to begin having kids and considering our ages, among other things, decided to have just one. This isn't a decision we made overnight -- we thought about adoption, PGD, just taking a chance... One of DH's cousins made a similar determination -- they're older than we our and after several miscarriages, decided they'd just stick with one child. He's made it a point to ask only children what their views on it were -- some thought it was fine, one said she HATED being an onlyl child.

Last week DS told me he needed a baby brother like some of his classmates at preschool and I felt a little twinge. He seems to think it's as easy as picking one up at the store.

 

[lmattaway]

I'm an only and I didn't mind it at all. My parents decided that they didn't want to have more after I was diagnosed b/c they just didn't know what the future would hold. Yes, there were times when it would have been nice to have a sibling to play with but now that I'm older I love the fact that I'm very comfortable being alone (and I can easily amuse myself). Both CF and being an only child encouraged me to grow up quickly, but I always saw that as a good thing. I was far ahead of my peers, maturity-wise. I loved being an only and I think it was the right choice for my parents, but everyone is different. Go with your gut, only you know what's right for your family!

 

[lmattaway]

I'm an only and I didn't mind it at all. My parents decided that they didn't want to have more after I was diagnosed b/c they just didn't know what the future would hold. Yes, there were times when it would have been nice to have a sibling to play with but now that I'm older I love the fact that I'm very comfortable being alone (and I can easily amuse myself). Both CF and being an only child encouraged me to grow up quickly, but I always saw that as a good thing. I was far ahead of my peers, maturity-wise. I loved being an only and I think it was the right choice for my parents, but everyone is different. Go with your gut, only you know what's right for your family!

 

[lmattaway]

I'm an only and I didn't mind it at all. My parents decided that they didn't want to have more after I was diagnosed b/c they just didn't know what the future would hold. Yes, there were times when it would have been nice to have a sibling to play with but now that I'm older I love the fact that I'm very comfortable being alone (and I can easily amuse myself). Both CF and being an only child encouraged me to grow up quickly, but I always saw that as a good thing. I was far ahead of my peers, maturity-wise. I loved being an only and I think it was the right choice for my parents, but everyone is different. Go with your gut, only you know what's right for your family!

 

[lmattaway]

I'm an only and I didn't mind it at all. My parents decided that they didn't want to have more after I was diagnosed b/c they just didn't know what the future would hold. Yes, there were times when it would have been nice to have a sibling to play with but now that I'm older I love the fact that I'm very comfortable being alone (and I can easily amuse myself). Both CF and being an only child encouraged me to grow up quickly, but I always saw that as a good thing. I was far ahead of my peers, maturity-wise. I loved being an only and I think it was the right choice for my parents, but everyone is different. Go with your gut, only you know what's right for your family!

 

[lmattaway]

I'm an only and I didn't mind it at all. My parents decided that they didn't want to have more after I was diagnosed b/c they just didn't know what the future would hold. Yes, there were times when it would have been nice to have a sibling to play with but now that I'm older I love the fact that I'm very comfortable being alone (and I can easily amuse myself). Both CF and being an only child encouraged me to grow up quickly, but I always saw that as a good thing. I was far ahead of my peers, maturity-wise. I loved being an only and I think it was the right choice for my parents, but everyone is different. Go with your gut, only you know what's right for your family!