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<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Blake</b></i>
It's not a matter of can and cannot, it's a matter of will or will not. Age doesn't matter, I learned this at a very young age.
I don't see where I was rude? She asked for advice, and got it. Maybe if people don't want to hear certain things, they should say "I need advice, but only the advice I want to hear" and then explain what they'd like you type so that we can know.
I also, for the most part, respond to people the way they themselves communicate. It's a habit from working with a lot of people on my day to day basis, if someone communicates softly, I usually do not get overbearing with them, etc. Jennifer has spoken to me in ways I will never forget, so I am communicating with her on her level. If you can't take it, don't dish it.</end quote></div>
Good point, Blake. A lot of people on here like to throw out the "you don't know what I've been through to get me here" card and it's annoying. I saw nothing wrong with your response. I too would have trashed the newsletter. I put a lot of things in the round file that aren't well written or are penned with the martyr attitude.
As far as the victim thing, being a victim is not just a one-time event. When a person continues to claim hardship or trouble because of a single incident of victimization, they they are what is referred to as a perpetual victim.
Many CFers do that. CF is the initial victimizing event (as though having CF actually sought us out to harm us...lol) and everything difficult that happens that is CF related serves as perpetual victimization. People who really have, as they believe, come through so much, forget that when you come through something you don't look back on it and keep remembering how lousy it was.
It's not a matter of can and cannot, it's a matter of will or will not. Age doesn't matter, I learned this at a very young age.
I don't see where I was rude? She asked for advice, and got it. Maybe if people don't want to hear certain things, they should say "I need advice, but only the advice I want to hear" and then explain what they'd like you type so that we can know.
I also, for the most part, respond to people the way they themselves communicate. It's a habit from working with a lot of people on my day to day basis, if someone communicates softly, I usually do not get overbearing with them, etc. Jennifer has spoken to me in ways I will never forget, so I am communicating with her on her level. If you can't take it, don't dish it.</end quote></div>
Good point, Blake. A lot of people on here like to throw out the "you don't know what I've been through to get me here" card and it's annoying. I saw nothing wrong with your response. I too would have trashed the newsletter. I put a lot of things in the round file that aren't well written or are penned with the martyr attitude.
As far as the victim thing, being a victim is not just a one-time event. When a person continues to claim hardship or trouble because of a single incident of victimization, they they are what is referred to as a perpetual victim.
Many CFers do that. CF is the initial victimizing event (as though having CF actually sought us out to harm us...lol) and everything difficult that happens that is CF related serves as perpetual victimization. People who really have, as they believe, come through so much, forget that when you come through something you don't look back on it and keep remembering how lousy it was.