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Angel868

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Can two CF patients date that have the same bugs? I always wonder because they can share feelings and help eachother out. It is hard finding someone who doesnt have cf or once finding someone keeping them because not a lot of people will tolerate being with a 23 year old who goes on 02 cant work goes in hospitals and is a dead wait what fun is that?>
 
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Angel868

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Can two CF patients date that have the same bugs? I always wonder because they can share feelings and help eachother out. It is hard finding someone who doesnt have cf or once finding someone keeping them because not a lot of people will tolerate being with a 23 year old who goes on 02 cant work goes in hospitals and is a dead wait what fun is that?>
 
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Angel868

Guest
Can two CF patients date that have the same bugs? I always wonder because they can share feelings and help eachother out. It is hard finding someone who doesnt have cf or once finding someone keeping them because not a lot of people will tolerate being with a 23 year old who goes on 02 cant work goes in hospitals and is a dead wait what fun is that?>
 
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Angel868

Guest
Can two CF patients date that have the same bugs? I always wonder because they can share feelings and help eachother out. It is hard finding someone who doesnt have cf or once finding someone keeping them because not a lot of people will tolerate being with a 23 year old who goes on 02 cant work goes in hospitals and is a dead wait what fun is that?>
 
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Angel868

Guest
Can two CF patients date that have the same bugs? I always wonder because they can share feelings and help eachother out. It is hard finding someone who doesnt have cf or once finding someone keeping them because not a lot of people will tolerate being with a 23 year old who goes on 02 cant work goes in hospitals and is a dead wait what fun is that?>
 
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Jbenjamin152

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I know what you mean about people not understanding...and at the same time this sounds like a clieshay, if they didn't understand U DIDN'T NEED THEM ANYWAY. I was with my now wife for 3 weeks literally when I went in the hospital and got so sick, I didn't even know who she was. That was almost 4 years ago...we have been married for over 3 years. I WAS 22 YEARS OLD.and it make me tear up typing it, she was there and no one ever had been and I mean EVER...growing up my mom and dad literally treated the hospital like a free 2 and a half to 3 week baby sitter, they dropped me off and picked me up, but never came to see me. U probably shouldn't date another Cf patient, because we pick up problems like dirt on ur shoe, I in the last 2 months have found out I now have b-cepacia, mrsa and also cf related diabetis. and if I had a cf girlfriend I would have given it to her the moment I saw her. It's hard enough having a sibling with cf, I see her 1 time a year for about 2 or 3 days, a few hours at a time always with a mask, and outside and I still am almost sure that she gave me this gift even if it was unwanted and unoffered. I can't work, I do when I am able to, and my wife deals with alot from my cf but this relationship was built on the truth that I CAN'T BE THE MAIN PROVIDER. I do what I can when I can. If I can't I don't. It is a blow to the main old machoisim society we live in but I'm fine with that, if only to not be alone and to be happy. Having our son was a big struggle and took 2 years to make happen. Message me if u need someone to talk to sometime...now I'll be 26 on DECEMBER 1ST yeah
 
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Jbenjamin152

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I know what you mean about people not understanding...and at the same time this sounds like a clieshay, if they didn't understand U DIDN'T NEED THEM ANYWAY. I was with my now wife for 3 weeks literally when I went in the hospital and got so sick, I didn't even know who she was. That was almost 4 years ago...we have been married for over 3 years. I WAS 22 YEARS OLD.and it make me tear up typing it, she was there and no one ever had been and I mean EVER...growing up my mom and dad literally treated the hospital like a free 2 and a half to 3 week baby sitter, they dropped me off and picked me up, but never came to see me. U probably shouldn't date another Cf patient, because we pick up problems like dirt on ur shoe, I in the last 2 months have found out I now have b-cepacia, mrsa and also cf related diabetis. and if I had a cf girlfriend I would have given it to her the moment I saw her. It's hard enough having a sibling with cf, I see her 1 time a year for about 2 or 3 days, a few hours at a time always with a mask, and outside and I still am almost sure that she gave me this gift even if it was unwanted and unoffered. I can't work, I do when I am able to, and my wife deals with alot from my cf but this relationship was built on the truth that I CAN'T BE THE MAIN PROVIDER. I do what I can when I can. If I can't I don't. It is a blow to the main old machoisim society we live in but I'm fine with that, if only to not be alone and to be happy. Having our son was a big struggle and took 2 years to make happen. Message me if u need someone to talk to sometime...now I'll be 26 on DECEMBER 1ST yeah
 
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Jbenjamin152

New member
I know what you mean about people not understanding...and at the same time this sounds like a clieshay, if they didn't understand U DIDN'T NEED THEM ANYWAY. I was with my now wife for 3 weeks literally when I went in the hospital and got so sick, I didn't even know who she was. That was almost 4 years ago...we have been married for over 3 years. I WAS 22 YEARS OLD.and it make me tear up typing it, she was there and no one ever had been and I mean EVER...growing up my mom and dad literally treated the hospital like a free 2 and a half to 3 week baby sitter, they dropped me off and picked me up, but never came to see me. U probably shouldn't date another Cf patient, because we pick up problems like dirt on ur shoe, I in the last 2 months have found out I now have b-cepacia, mrsa and also cf related diabetis. and if I had a cf girlfriend I would have given it to her the moment I saw her. It's hard enough having a sibling with cf, I see her 1 time a year for about 2 or 3 days, a few hours at a time always with a mask, and outside and I still am almost sure that she gave me this gift even if it was unwanted and unoffered. I can't work, I do when I am able to, and my wife deals with alot from my cf but this relationship was built on the truth that I CAN'T BE THE MAIN PROVIDER. I do what I can when I can. If I can't I don't. It is a blow to the main old machoisim society we live in but I'm fine with that, if only to not be alone and to be happy. Having our son was a big struggle and took 2 years to make happen. Message me if u need someone to talk to sometime...now I'll be 26 on DECEMBER 1ST yeah
 
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Jbenjamin152

New member
I know what you mean about people not understanding...and at the same time this sounds like a clieshay, if they didn't understand U DIDN'T NEED THEM ANYWAY. I was with my now wife for 3 weeks literally when I went in the hospital and got so sick, I didn't even know who she was. That was almost 4 years ago...we have been married for over 3 years. I WAS 22 YEARS OLD.and it make me tear up typing it, she was there and no one ever had been and I mean EVER...growing up my mom and dad literally treated the hospital like a free 2 and a half to 3 week baby sitter, they dropped me off and picked me up, but never came to see me. U probably shouldn't date another Cf patient, because we pick up problems like dirt on ur shoe, I in the last 2 months have found out I now have b-cepacia, mrsa and also cf related diabetis. and if I had a cf girlfriend I would have given it to her the moment I saw her. It's hard enough having a sibling with cf, I see her 1 time a year for about 2 or 3 days, a few hours at a time always with a mask, and outside and I still am almost sure that she gave me this gift even if it was unwanted and unoffered. I can't work, I do when I am able to, and my wife deals with alot from my cf but this relationship was built on the truth that I CAN'T BE THE MAIN PROVIDER. I do what I can when I can. If I can't I don't. It is a blow to the main old machoisim society we live in but I'm fine with that, if only to not be alone and to be happy. Having our son was a big struggle and took 2 years to make happen. Message me if u need someone to talk to sometime...now I'll be 26 on DECEMBER 1ST yeah
 
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Jbenjamin152

New member
I know what you mean about people not understanding...and at the same time this sounds like a clieshay, if they didn't understand U DIDN'T NEED THEM ANYWAY. I was with my now wife for 3 weeks literally when I went in the hospital and got so sick, I didn't even know who she was. That was almost 4 years ago...we have been married for over 3 years. I WAS 22 YEARS OLD.and it make me tear up typing it, she was there and no one ever had been and I mean EVER...growing up my mom and dad literally treated the hospital like a free 2 and a half to 3 week baby sitter, they dropped me off and picked me up, but never came to see me. U probably shouldn't date another Cf patient, because we pick up problems like dirt on ur shoe, I in the last 2 months have found out I now have b-cepacia, mrsa and also cf related diabetis. and if I had a cf girlfriend I would have given it to her the moment I saw her. It's hard enough having a sibling with cf, I see her 1 time a year for about 2 or 3 days, a few hours at a time always with a mask, and outside and I still am almost sure that she gave me this gift even if it was unwanted and unoffered. I can't work, I do when I am able to, and my wife deals with alot from my cf but this relationship was built on the truth that I CAN'T BE THE MAIN PROVIDER. I do what I can when I can. If I can't I don't. It is a blow to the main old machoisim society we live in but I'm fine with that, if only to not be alone and to be happy. Having our son was a big struggle and took 2 years to make happen. Message me if u need someone to talk to sometime...now I'll be 26 on DECEMBER 1ST yeah
 
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Cerulean

New member
I don't think its a good idea to date a fellow CFer. You may both have the same bugs INITIALLY. But as you know we CFers pick up bugs like there is no tomorrow. Your partner will transfer this new bug to you. And it works the other way around, of course. As you also know,it is the bugs that cause the lung damage. You two would be helping each other to an early grave.
 
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Cerulean

New member
I don't think its a good idea to date a fellow CFer. You may both have the same bugs INITIALLY. But as you know we CFers pick up bugs like there is no tomorrow. Your partner will transfer this new bug to you. And it works the other way around, of course. As you also know,it is the bugs that cause the lung damage. You two would be helping each other to an early grave.
 
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Cerulean

New member
I don't think its a good idea to date a fellow CFer. You may both have the same bugs INITIALLY. But as you know we CFers pick up bugs like there is no tomorrow. Your partner will transfer this new bug to you. And it works the other way around, of course. As you also know,it is the bugs that cause the lung damage. You two would be helping each other to an early grave.
 
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Cerulean

New member
I don't think its a good idea to date a fellow CFer. You may both have the same bugs INITIALLY. But as you know we CFers pick up bugs like there is no tomorrow. Your partner will transfer this new bug to you. And it works the other way around, of course. As you also know,it is the bugs that cause the lung damage. You two would be helping each other to an early grave.
 
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Cerulean

New member
I don't think its a good idea to date a fellow CFer. You may both have the same bugs INITIALLY. But as you know we CFers pick up bugs like there is no tomorrow. Your partner will transfer this new bug to you. And it works the other way around, of course. As you also know,it is the bugs that cause the lung damage. You two would be helping each other to an early grave.
 
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lilywing

New member
I could not handle dating another cfer. I HATE when other people are sick, i'm used to being the one, and I can handle it. It breaks my heart to see others go through ***** and I can't do anything about it. I can definitely see how it would be awesome to have somebody who knows what you're going through, first-hand. I think it would be ok when you are both stable, but if one of you is not doing well, declining, etc., it would be devastating.

I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years now, but he can only support me to a certain degree. Sometimes, it definitely feels like it's not enough. I feel hurt that he continues to smoke (always outside, but whatever) while seeing what I'm going through. But at the same time, being alone feels so much scarier.

interesting topic, for sure
 
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lilywing

New member
I could not handle dating another cfer. I HATE when other people are sick, i'm used to being the one, and I can handle it. It breaks my heart to see others go through ***** and I can't do anything about it. I can definitely see how it would be awesome to have somebody who knows what you're going through, first-hand. I think it would be ok when you are both stable, but if one of you is not doing well, declining, etc., it would be devastating.

I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years now, but he can only support me to a certain degree. Sometimes, it definitely feels like it's not enough. I feel hurt that he continues to smoke (always outside, but whatever) while seeing what I'm going through. But at the same time, being alone feels so much scarier.

interesting topic, for sure
 
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lilywing

New member
I could not handle dating another cfer. I HATE when other people are sick, i'm used to being the one, and I can handle it. It breaks my heart to see others go through ***** and I can't do anything about it. I can definitely see how it would be awesome to have somebody who knows what you're going through, first-hand. I think it would be ok when you are both stable, but if one of you is not doing well, declining, etc., it would be devastating.

I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years now, but he can only support me to a certain degree. Sometimes, it definitely feels like it's not enough. I feel hurt that he continues to smoke (always outside, but whatever) while seeing what I'm going through. But at the same time, being alone feels so much scarier.

interesting topic, for sure
 
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lilywing

New member
I could not handle dating another cfer. I HATE when other people are sick, i'm used to being the one, and I can handle it. It breaks my heart to see others go through ***** and I can't do anything about it. I can definitely see how it would be awesome to have somebody who knows what you're going through, first-hand. I think it would be ok when you are both stable, but if one of you is not doing well, declining, etc., it would be devastating.

I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years now, but he can only support me to a certain degree. Sometimes, it definitely feels like it's not enough. I feel hurt that he continues to smoke (always outside, but whatever) while seeing what I'm going through. But at the same time, being alone feels so much scarier.

interesting topic, for sure
 
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lilywing

New member
I could not handle dating another cfer. I HATE when other people are sick, i'm used to being the one, and I can handle it. It breaks my heart to see others go through ***** and I can't do anything about it. I can definitely see how it would be awesome to have somebody who knows what you're going through, first-hand. I think it would be ok when you are both stable, but if one of you is not doing well, declining, etc., it would be devastating.
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<br />I have been with my boyfriend for 10 years now, but he can only support me to a certain degree. Sometimes, it definitely feels like it's not enough. I feel hurt that he continues to smoke (always outside, but whatever) while seeing what I'm going through. But at the same time, being alone feels so much scarier.
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<br />interesting topic, for sure
 
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