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beleache

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sometimes i think some of my family members think i am to extreme with germs,sick people etc. but i am trying everything possible (and sometimes that doesn't even work) to stay well and out of the hospital...my son,daughter-in-law and my grandson live with us... they were away a few days. (staying by her moms because of the weather) came home yesterday.. i noticed the baby was sick (my son said he was teething) but i knew it was more than that, as the night went by he seemed to be getting worse.so i asked my husband to clean up and went in my room... my son thinks i take my illness to seriously... my husband kind of understood,but still made a little comment (felt i was a little harsh, but said i'm doing good, so i should keep doing whater it takes... anyway sorry for going on, i do love them all, i guess i just needed to vent ... thanks.. Joni..55 y/o f w c/f
 
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beleache

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sometimes i think some of my family members think i am to extreme with germs,sick people etc. but i am trying everything possible (and sometimes that doesn't even work) to stay well and out of the hospital...my son,daughter-in-law and my grandson live with us... they were away a few days. (staying by her moms because of the weather) came home yesterday.. i noticed the baby was sick (my son said he was teething) but i knew it was more than that, as the night went by he seemed to be getting worse.so i asked my husband to clean up and went in my room... my son thinks i take my illness to seriously... my husband kind of understood,but still made a little comment (felt i was a little harsh, but said i'm doing good, so i should keep doing whater it takes... anyway sorry for going on, i do love them all, i guess i just needed to vent ... thanks.. Joni..55 y/o f w c/f
 
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beleache

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sometimes i think some of my family members think i am to extreme with germs,sick people etc. but i am trying everything possible (and sometimes that doesn't even work) to stay well and out of the hospital...my son,daughter-in-law and my grandson live with us... they were away a few days. (staying by her moms because of the weather) came home yesterday.. i noticed the baby was sick (my son said he was teething) but i knew it was more than that, as the night went by he seemed to be getting worse.so i asked my husband to clean up and went in my room... my son thinks i take my illness to seriously... my husband kind of understood,but still made a little comment (felt i was a little harsh, but said i'm doing good, so i should keep doing whater it takes... anyway sorry for going on, i do love them all, i guess i just needed to vent ... thanks.. Joni..55 y/o f w c/f
 
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ktsmom

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We've made some unpopular decisions about not being with family as well, in the name of our daughter's CF. I just keep trying to explain that with CF, everything you thought you knew goes out the window. I personally don't think you are being too cautious. They'll come around to your way of thinking, I'm sure.

Dana
Mom to Katy (3, cf) and Kyra (6, no cf)
 
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ktsmom

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We've made some unpopular decisions about not being with family as well, in the name of our daughter's CF. I just keep trying to explain that with CF, everything you thought you knew goes out the window. I personally don't think you are being too cautious. They'll come around to your way of thinking, I'm sure.

Dana
Mom to Katy (3, cf) and Kyra (6, no cf)
 
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ktsmom

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We've made some unpopular decisions about not being with family as well, in the name of our daughter's CF. I just keep trying to explain that with CF, everything you thought you knew goes out the window. I personally don't think you are being too cautious. They'll come around to your way of thinking, I'm sure.

Dana
Mom to Katy (3, cf) and Kyra (6, no cf)
 
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NoExcuses

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no one has more interest in your health, longevity and well-being than yourself.

no two ways about it.

you need to do what you need to know. your husband, son or whoever won't have to suffer through a hospitalization if they get sick. YOU will.

i'm behind ya - keep yourself well. going to the hospital is hell.
 
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NoExcuses

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no one has more interest in your health, longevity and well-being than yourself.

no two ways about it.

you need to do what you need to know. your husband, son or whoever won't have to suffer through a hospitalization if they get sick. YOU will.

i'm behind ya - keep yourself well. going to the hospital is hell.
 
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NoExcuses

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no one has more interest in your health, longevity and well-being than yourself.

no two ways about it.

you need to do what you need to know. your husband, son or whoever won't have to suffer through a hospitalization if they get sick. YOU will.

i'm behind ya - keep yourself well. going to the hospital is hell.
 
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EnergyGal

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If I had a son and he told me his opinion about my health. I would say,
"Son, I did not ask for your opinion. When you have walked in my shoes, then you can give me your opinion. I know what works best for me and the best thing that you can do is respect the way I live my life."


You know best<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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EnergyGal

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If I had a son and he told me his opinion about my health. I would say,
"Son, I did not ask for your opinion. When you have walked in my shoes, then you can give me your opinion. I know what works best for me and the best thing that you can do is respect the way I live my life."


You know best<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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EnergyGal

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If I had a son and he told me his opinion about my health. I would say,
"Son, I did not ask for your opinion. When you have walked in my shoes, then you can give me your opinion. I know what works best for me and the best thing that you can do is respect the way I live my life."


You know best<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Ratatosk

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Staff member
I hear you -- so many times we have relatives tell us that "it's just a cold", only to find out the next day that it's pneumonia, bronchitis -- cuz they didn't want to miss out on the festivities or even worse, my MIL knows ahead of time, but doesn't want to miss out of visiting with her grandson. They think we're overreacting, but we just want to be made aware of these things, so we can plan accordingly. Most of the time DS is off on his own and doesn't want to have anything to do with the grownups, so it's not an issue.

Last month I got sick and I was so worried DS was going to catch it. Constantly washing my hands, making sure he didn't eat or drink anything I'd touched. I even wore a mask. 'Course then he had to wear one 'cuz he thought it was cool.
 
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Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
I hear you -- so many times we have relatives tell us that "it's just a cold", only to find out the next day that it's pneumonia, bronchitis -- cuz they didn't want to miss out on the festivities or even worse, my MIL knows ahead of time, but doesn't want to miss out of visiting with her grandson. They think we're overreacting, but we just want to be made aware of these things, so we can plan accordingly. Most of the time DS is off on his own and doesn't want to have anything to do with the grownups, so it's not an issue.

Last month I got sick and I was so worried DS was going to catch it. Constantly washing my hands, making sure he didn't eat or drink anything I'd touched. I even wore a mask. 'Course then he had to wear one 'cuz he thought it was cool.
 
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Ratatosk

Administrator
Staff member
I hear you -- so many times we have relatives tell us that "it's just a cold", only to find out the next day that it's pneumonia, bronchitis -- cuz they didn't want to miss out on the festivities or even worse, my MIL knows ahead of time, but doesn't want to miss out of visiting with her grandson. They think we're overreacting, but we just want to be made aware of these things, so we can plan accordingly. Most of the time DS is off on his own and doesn't want to have anything to do with the grownups, so it's not an issue.

Last month I got sick and I was so worried DS was going to catch it. Constantly washing my hands, making sure he didn't eat or drink anything I'd touched. I even wore a mask. 'Course then he had to wear one 'cuz he thought it was cool.
 
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kayleesgrandma

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Joni, I'm glad you vented here--no one understands you like us!! Our kids--what can I say, they just don't get it! It's simple--do they want to keep mom around, or talk to her picture! They think we will be around forever . . . if when I tell my daughter she gives me chest pains! You are entirely in the right--your son needs to do some reading!
 
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kayleesgrandma

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Joni, I'm glad you vented here--no one understands you like us!! Our kids--what can I say, they just don't get it! It's simple--do they want to keep mom around, or talk to her picture! They think we will be around forever . . . if when I tell my daughter she gives me chest pains! You are entirely in the right--your son needs to do some reading!
 
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kayleesgrandma

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Joni, I'm glad you vented here--no one understands you like us!! Our kids--what can I say, they just don't get it! It's simple--do they want to keep mom around, or talk to her picture! They think we will be around forever . . . if when I tell my daughter she gives me chest pains! You are entirely in the right--your son needs to do some reading!
 
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Diane

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Joni
You definitely have NOT gone too far by avoiding your grandson. When others get a cold it is a nuisance to them for a little while and then it goes away. But if we catch it from them it can turn into a disaster. I always tell my friends ( and family who might have forgotten) that their simple cold, could land me in the hospital deathly sick. The problem is ....we know it from experience, we've been there and had it happen, most healthy people have never ever been so sick they had to be hospitalized and thought they would die from a simple cold , so they just can not imagine it is a true possibility. I had to avoid my mother for 3 months because she had an off and on cold that would just not go away. I felt terrible because my mom and i are close and she doesnt drive so i always take her where she needs to go. But she certainly understood. A lot of people dont take our cautious nature seriously because they think we are overdoing it. And for them , ( who are usually healthy) it would be overdoing it, but for us, the possibilities of getting horribly sick arent worth the risks of throwing caution to the wind just to make everyone else happy. You did the right thing <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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Diane

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Joni
You definitely have NOT gone too far by avoiding your grandson. When others get a cold it is a nuisance to them for a little while and then it goes away. But if we catch it from them it can turn into a disaster. I always tell my friends ( and family who might have forgotten) that their simple cold, could land me in the hospital deathly sick. The problem is ....we know it from experience, we've been there and had it happen, most healthy people have never ever been so sick they had to be hospitalized and thought they would die from a simple cold , so they just can not imagine it is a true possibility. I had to avoid my mother for 3 months because she had an off and on cold that would just not go away. I felt terrible because my mom and i are close and she doesnt drive so i always take her where she needs to go. But she certainly understood. A lot of people dont take our cautious nature seriously because they think we are overdoing it. And for them , ( who are usually healthy) it would be overdoing it, but for us, the possibilities of getting horribly sick arent worth the risks of throwing caution to the wind just to make everyone else happy. You did the right thing <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
 
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