I just wanted to clear up a few things before this thread got locked into oblivion. As far as not knowing who you were, I knew almost immediately. I talked to Emily about it. Want some proof?
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I said that on page 3. Yeah, I knew what was going on.
Secondly, I told you a bunch of reasons Ry decided no on that thread, and you wouldn't accept any of them. I have no idea why, but I am going to try and explain his point of view as best I can. We have a saying in our circles around here, two actually. "the needs of the many come before the needs of the one." and more importantly, "everything for the family". This was Ry's mindset. We would have moved to a place we'd never been, I'd have lost my job, we'd have lost the house, we'd have lost a lot of things. Ry told me and I quote "I will not let you lose everything when there's that big of a chance of losing me too." Ry's actions, whether you agree with them or not, were, at his heart selfless. He was ready to give up everything to make sure we were provided for, even his life. And he did.
Another thing you don't get. Ry and I fought <b>bitterly</b> over his choice. It was the only fight where we literally screamed at each other, and he slept on the couch that night. It was the ugliest night of our married life when he told me. But his reasons were his, and he deserved to have them, as it was his choice. I decided not to spend what time I had left with him angry with him, but enjoy him for as long as I could. I'm glad I did.
This forum is generally great. It's one of the best places I have ever found, and I am so glad I came across it. Sometimes things here make me insane, like any family, but mostly I love this place. Thanks.