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<hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>coltsfan715</b></i>
(at least I hope that is the truth - cause I am looking forward to hanging around my family when my time comes - lol I have already told them to be prepared)
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I love that... hahaha. And I totally agree. I'm a giant neat freak, and Mike's a slob. So I already told him that after I die, I'm going to come back and neaten the bed sheets, and straighten couch cushions and stuff. He said that was a bad thing to tell him, because then he'd be <i>more</i> of a slob on purpose. lol
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<hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>luke</b></i>
Do I think that positive attitude and faith plays a very important part in our disease, yes. Do I think that lack of these things cause an early death, it could. <hr></blockquote>
I actually see what you mean. If you're completely negative, and don't care about anything, that can kill you because you just don't care. I suppose I should've been a little broader. I'm not a faithful person, and I'm not particularly positive either. <u>But</u> I do have something to live for, and that's what'll keep me going when it really sucks. You don't need any specific type of thing to keep you going. No god, no positive outlook, no faith... just as long as you have <b>something</b> that makes you want to stick around and fight as long as possible.
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<hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>lynda</b></i>
This is also a perfect time when I miss Winace's reply, he would have plenty to say about this! I mean that in a most respectful way.<hr></blockquote>
Oh my god... Allie said something to me last night on this subject, that I was sure was going to make me piss my pants. "You know Allan, if he got up to heaven and met god himself, I believe he would stand there and try to explain to god's face why he wasn't real." Sooooooooo funny. I can just see it happening too. lol
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<hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>risa</b></i>
I have learned not to let what others say influence me. I try hard to not react to what they say. If they mean well and have good intentions even though their choice of wording stinks, I say to myself consider the source from that statement and appreciate what the person is saying.<hr></blockquote>
I do the same. As long as someone means well, I let it slide. Or, if they say something incorrect with kind intentions, I'll thank them and then sometimes correct the piece they had wrong, politely, of course. I always try to consider the intentions, because a lot of people just don't know. All I meant was people around here, people like us, that do know and say that stuff. That drives me up a damn wall, because unless it's clear that they're not blaming dead CFers, it sounds like they are. If that makes sense.
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<hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>anonymous - lisav</b></i>
And others like to think that there's more under the control of the ill person (or under their control if they are a loved one) than is. It's a way of distancing ourselves from our own mortality. We can think "well, maybe he died young, but that because he didn't do x or y or z. Even though I have the CF (or whatever), I won't die young because I WILL or DO do x or y or z." It's a kind of "blame the victim" thing as a way of avoiding looking at the truth - which is that there is less under our control than we would like.<hr></blockquote>
This actually makes a whole lot of sense. But it still sucks. And whether or not you're willing to face your own mortality doesn't give you the right to put the blame on a CFer themselves for not having done X, Y, or Z. I certainly understand what you're saying... I just don't like it.
Thanks for replying everyone. And this thread went a lot more civilly than Allie and I feared it might. Hahaha. <img src="i/expressions/rose.gif" border="0">