Question for whoever is in charge

[kayleesgrandma]

Emily, thank you for your reply. When I saw this post, I was distrubed. I understand the reasoning behind it, but I would never want ANYONE banned unless they were threatening the health and safety of the site or anyone on the site. I have said time and again, and so have others--<b>Amy is a valuable an important member of our site.</b> I have learned an unmeasurable amount of knowledge about Cf because of her. Amy makes me angry sometimes over a tactless remark that flips off her head, but she is <b>OUR AMY</b>. When I talk to to Jeanne, we always call Amy "OUR AMY". As was said, if you disagree with her, just call her out. She is able to take what she gives. For some reason there is an animosity between Seanna and Amy, Amy always knows how to get under Seanna's skin with a tactless remark.

There is a reason for the Golden Rule; <b>To do unto others as you would have others do unto you.</b>It applies to the mouth to, <b>Say</b> unto others . . .

We are all sisters and brothers united against this disease. We may bicker and even call each other names, but we should still love each other. I'm not Mother Teresa, I have a temper, and I say things I wish I could call back sometimes--well a lot of times.

Amy is an only child, if she had had a brother or sister, they would have probably had some little fights, as brothers and sisters tend to do. That's what we are here--a family, we fight, love , cry, and feel for one another. If one of you really needed Amy she would be there for you--in a minute!

I care about Seanna, and I care about Amy. My sister is 3 years younger than me. When we had fights, my mom would make us <i>kiss</i> each other and make up. We'd be mad as heck at each other, and then at mom for making us kisse each other, but then we'd look at each other and start laffing at the look on our faces.

As I type this , I am crying for the brothers and sisters a lot of you couldnt'have, or lost, or mothers and fathers who couldn't have other children, or who have other children with cf. We should focus our energies on hating CF, not each other.

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Emily, thank you for your reply. When I saw this post, I was distrubed. I understand the reasoning behind it, but I would never want ANYONE banned unless they were threatening the health and safety of the site or anyone on the site. I have said time and again, and so have others--<b>Amy is a valuable an important member of our site.</b> I have learned an unmeasurable amount of knowledge about Cf because of her. Amy makes me angry sometimes over a tactless remark that flips off her head, but she is <b>OUR AMY</b>. When I talk to to Jeanne, we always call Amy "OUR AMY". As was said, if you disagree with her, just call her out. She is able to take what she gives. For some reason there is an animosity between Seanna and Amy, Amy always knows how to get under Seanna's skin with a tactless remark.

There is a reason for the Golden Rule; <b>To do unto others as you would have others do unto you.</b>It applies to the mouth to, <b>Say</b> unto others . . .

We are all sisters and brothers united against this disease. We may bicker and even call each other names, but we should still love each other. I'm not Mother Teresa, I have a temper, and I say things I wish I could call back sometimes--well a lot of times.

Amy is an only child, if she had had a brother or sister, they would have probably had some little fights, as brothers and sisters tend to do. That's what we are here--a family, we fight, love , cry, and feel for one another. If one of you really needed Amy she would be there for you--in a minute!

I care about Seanna, and I care about Amy. My sister is 3 years younger than me. When we had fights, my mom would make us <i>kiss</i> each other and make up. We'd be mad as heck at each other, and then at mom for making us kisse each other, but then we'd look at each other and start laffing at the look on our faces.

As I type this , I am crying for the brothers and sisters a lot of you couldnt'have, or lost, or mothers and fathers who couldn't have other children, or who have other children with cf. We should focus our energies on hating CF, not each other.

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Emily, thank you for your reply. When I saw this post, I was distrubed. I understand the reasoning behind it, but I would never want ANYONE banned unless they were threatening the health and safety of the site or anyone on the site. I have said time and again, and so have others--<b>Amy is a valuable an important member of our site.</b> I have learned an unmeasurable amount of knowledge about Cf because of her. Amy makes me angry sometimes over a tactless remark that flips off her head, but she is <b>OUR AMY</b>. When I talk to to Jeanne, we always call Amy "OUR AMY". As was said, if you disagree with her, just call her out. She is able to take what she gives. For some reason there is an animosity between Seanna and Amy, Amy always knows how to get under Seanna's skin with a tactless remark.

There is a reason for the Golden Rule; <b>To do unto others as you would have others do unto you.</b>It applies to the mouth to, <b>Say</b> unto others . . .

We are all sisters and brothers united against this disease. We may bicker and even call each other names, but we should still love each other. I'm not Mother Teresa, I have a temper, and I say things I wish I could call back sometimes--well a lot of times.

Amy is an only child, if she had had a brother or sister, they would have probably had some little fights, as brothers and sisters tend to do. That's what we are here--a family, we fight, love , cry, and feel for one another. If one of you really needed Amy she would be there for you--in a minute!

I care about Seanna, and I care about Amy. My sister is 3 years younger than me. When we had fights, my mom would make us <i>kiss</i> each other and make up. We'd be mad as heck at each other, and then at mom for making us kisse each other, but then we'd look at each other and start laffing at the look on our faces.

As I type this , I am crying for the brothers and sisters a lot of you couldnt'have, or lost, or mothers and fathers who couldn't have other children, or who have other children with cf. We should focus our energies on hating CF, not each other.

 

[2perfectboys]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Emily65Roses</b></i>

I disagree entirely. A Bachelor's degree is still lots of hard work. Amy may be in good health right now, but because she has CF, she does by definition have something that limits her not to work. And I might add, she works full time. Working full time when you've got CF, even in good health, is a b*tch. She spends a lot of her weekends just resting, recovering from the week of hard work she put in.

</end quote></div>

In the professional work world, a bachelors degreee is a dime a dozen, to the general walmart work for, yes a Bachelor's degree is not as commom. But to quote her directly, from a thread she replied to about what limits you she personally said "04/12/2007 11:37 AM
sakasuka

Therefore NOTHING restricts me."

 

[2perfectboys]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Emily65Roses</b></i>

I disagree entirely. A Bachelor's degree is still lots of hard work. Amy may be in good health right now, but because she has CF, she does by definition have something that limits her not to work. And I might add, she works full time. Working full time when you've got CF, even in good health, is a b*tch. She spends a lot of her weekends just resting, recovering from the week of hard work she put in.

</end quote></div>

In the professional work world, a bachelors degreee is a dime a dozen, to the general walmart work for, yes a Bachelor's degree is not as commom. But to quote her directly, from a thread she replied to about what limits you she personally said "04/12/2007 11:37 AM
sakasuka

Therefore NOTHING restricts me."

 

[2perfectboys]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Emily65Roses</b></i>

I disagree entirely. A Bachelor's degree is still lots of hard work. Amy may be in good health right now, but because she has CF, she does by definition have something that limits her not to work. And I might add, she works full time. Working full time when you've got CF, even in good health, is a b*tch. She spends a lot of her weekends just resting, recovering from the week of hard work she put in.

</end quote></div>

In the professional work world, a bachelors degreee is a dime a dozen, to the general walmart work for, yes a Bachelor's degree is not as commom. But to quote her directly, from a thread she replied to about what limits you she personally said "04/12/2007 11:37 AM
sakasuka

Therefore NOTHING restricts me."

 

[kayleesgrandma]

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[kayleesgrandma]

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[kayleesgrandma]

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[2perfectboys]

Let me finally say, then I'm done with this, I DO NOT THINK she should be banned, that never crossed my mind. People are free to their opinions, but a site can get a reputation for a site they are responsible for. And my views are not new about Amy, we've had this conversation before. I'll still talk to Amy, and if she does not want to talk to be, fine, but I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. Cause to any of you that wants to say she is free to always attack, then I am free to laugh at her and stating my take on this whole thing. It has nothing to do with maturity, it's just my right to have an opioion.

Lori

 

[2perfectboys]

Let me finally say, then I'm done with this, I DO NOT THINK she should be banned, that never crossed my mind. People are free to their opinions, but a site can get a reputation for a site they are responsible for. And my views are not new about Amy, we've had this conversation before. I'll still talk to Amy, and if she does not want to talk to be, fine, but I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. Cause to any of you that wants to say she is free to always attack, then I am free to laugh at her and stating my take on this whole thing. It has nothing to do with maturity, it's just my right to have an opioion.

Lori

 

[2perfectboys]

Let me finally say, then I'm done with this, I DO NOT THINK she should be banned, that never crossed my mind. People are free to their opinions, but a site can get a reputation for a site they are responsible for. And my views are not new about Amy, we've had this conversation before. I'll still talk to Amy, and if she does not want to talk to be, fine, but I'm not going to lose any sleep over it. Cause to any of you that wants to say she is free to always attack, then I am free to laugh at her and stating my take on this whole thing. It has nothing to do with maturity, it's just my right to have an opioion.

Lori

 

[Diane]

This thread wasnt exactly made for the purpose of getting people to attack amy, i was just curious as to how long her behavior (or anyone who is a consistant offender) will be tollerated before some one in charge does something about it.

 

[Diane]

This thread wasnt exactly made for the purpose of getting people to attack amy, i was just curious as to how long her behavior (or anyone who is a consistant offender) will be tollerated before some one in charge does something about it.

 

[Diane]

This thread wasnt exactly made for the purpose of getting people to attack amy, i was just curious as to how long her behavior (or anyone who is a consistant offender) will be tollerated before some one in charge does something about it.

 

[Jane]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>2perfectboys</b></i>

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Jane</b></i>


I have also brought my children up to be caring and empathetic to others. To be kind to those less fortunate and considerate of ones with different views. To love rather than judge. When my boys prove to be young men of good character, then I will be proud.</end quote></div>


??? So are you saying Amy's mother did not do this???? Or as I believe, she is a great parent.

Lori</end quote></div>


Lori, I don't know what kind of parent Amy's mom is. It is unfair to guess one's parenting style from looking at the grown child's behavior.

 

[Jane]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>2perfectboys</b></i>

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Jane</b></i>


I have also brought my children up to be caring and empathetic to others. To be kind to those less fortunate and considerate of ones with different views. To love rather than judge. When my boys prove to be young men of good character, then I will be proud.</end quote></div>


??? So are you saying Amy's mother did not do this???? Or as I believe, she is a great parent.

Lori</end quote></div>


Lori, I don't know what kind of parent Amy's mom is. It is unfair to guess one's parenting style from looking at the grown child's behavior.

 

[Jane]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>2perfectboys</b></i>

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Jane</b></i>


I have also brought my children up to be caring and empathetic to others. To be kind to those less fortunate and considerate of ones with different views. To love rather than judge. When my boys prove to be young men of good character, then I will be proud.</end quote></div>


??? So are you saying Amy's mother did not do this???? Or as I believe, she is a great parent.

Lori</end quote></div>


Lori, I don't know what kind of parent Amy's mom is. It is unfair to guess one's parenting style from looking at the grown child's behavior.

 

[Scarlett81]

All I have to say, not that anyone probably cares, is the following:
I think its ridiculous to bring Amy's mother into this-Amy is a grown adult and while I understand your disection of her personality, Amy's actions have nothing to do with her mother. I don't even know her mother but I could easily see this turning into a debate/bashing thread about this woman and thats not right.

Amy is a valuable member of the site, she has provided alot of help to people with certain aspects of cf, including me. (yes she makes me scream at the computer at times but she has helped me as recently as a few days ago about allergy questions)

This is the bottom line with her-she and others probably think its her straightforwardness, her toughness, her rigidity with her opinions-heck even her stance on issues (cf and pregnancy for one....which has driven me nuts at times)-that make people resent her and give her a hard time. No-thats not it, none of it. You can state all those opinions as often as you want without sugar coating them.

Its that when you say things, you often do so with the motive and tone of making the person look or feel like an idiot. Intentionally. That is, personally, my issue.

So if you care at all-even in the slightest, and you probably don't and thats fine too...but just in case you do care, thats what people get upset by. Not your opinions, but how you deliver them and with what motive. You can deliver straightforward honest hard opinions while being respectful. I wish you'd do that bc things would be totally fine. Why make people feel stupid all the time-why? I really don't get it.

So I for one don't want Amy to get banned bc she is a valuable intelligent member of the site, but YES, I do get upset by this increasingly so esp when it comes to people that come to this site looking for support and get driven away. Thats very sad to me. And its immoral too I feel. Like kicking a dog when its down. I have come soooo close to leaving this site for good bc of things she has said-not to me, to others. Its depressing, upsetting and not what I feel like reading esp on a "support" site.

But no-no banning. But thats my personality-I don't believe people should be banned for their speech neccesarily.

I see both sides of this clearly...but man this topic is such a bummer.........

 

[Scarlett81]

All I have to say, not that anyone probably cares, is the following:
I think its ridiculous to bring Amy's mother into this-Amy is a grown adult and while I understand your disection of her personality, Amy's actions have nothing to do with her mother. I don't even know her mother but I could easily see this turning into a debate/bashing thread about this woman and thats not right.

Amy is a valuable member of the site, she has provided alot of help to people with certain aspects of cf, including me. (yes she makes me scream at the computer at times but she has helped me as recently as a few days ago about allergy questions)

This is the bottom line with her-she and others probably think its her straightforwardness, her toughness, her rigidity with her opinions-heck even her stance on issues (cf and pregnancy for one....which has driven me nuts at times)-that make people resent her and give her a hard time. No-thats not it, none of it. You can state all those opinions as often as you want without sugar coating them.

Its that when you say things, you often do so with the motive and tone of making the person look or feel like an idiot. Intentionally. That is, personally, my issue.

So if you care at all-even in the slightest, and you probably don't and thats fine too...but just in case you do care, thats what people get upset by. Not your opinions, but how you deliver them and with what motive. You can deliver straightforward honest hard opinions while being respectful. I wish you'd do that bc things would be totally fine. Why make people feel stupid all the time-why? I really don't get it.

So I for one don't want Amy to get banned bc she is a valuable intelligent member of the site, but YES, I do get upset by this increasingly so esp when it comes to people that come to this site looking for support and get driven away. Thats very sad to me. And its immoral too I feel. Like kicking a dog when its down. I have come soooo close to leaving this site for good bc of things she has said-not to me, to others. Its depressing, upsetting and not what I feel like reading esp on a "support" site.

But no-no banning. But thats my personality-I don't believe people should be banned for their speech neccesarily.

I see both sides of this clearly...but man this topic is such a bummer.........