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Should I continue to work?????

K

Kelli

New member
Hey everyone,

My husband and I talked tonight that he is going to hire someone to help with his work load, he is super crazy busy, he works 7 days a week (own our own company), we don't see eachother a whole lot, (other than we work together, he is pretty much busy all the time) etc.

So I cannot help him out with this position he has to fill because it is work that HAS to be done on a daily basis (my hospital stays & even home IV's would be a problem.) So I know I can't fill this position the way it needs to be filled....

I guess my situation is....I could still work just a few hours a week and still get paid what I'm making now, I can volunteer at everything I want to do, I have always wanted this opportunity.....

BUT...I have always worked, since 16 years old, I've always had a job. So it's not like I have kids and can be a stay at home mom, I'm afraid I'll be bored to tears. I can only sit in my house so much or volunteer so much.

I'm just feeling like he is hiring someone because I CANNOT do what he needs me to do (feel crappy about that but it's the facts) and I feel like I'm basically getting replaced with an upgrade. Yet part of me thinks this is a great opportunity, but it's bitter sweet. (I don't like change so that sucks too)

I feel torn becuase I have an opportunity to not work but I always thought that I'd work until I couldn't work. I don't want to feel like I have given up, do I want to go back in the work force, do I want a boss, do I want to find a hobby or volunteer at something I could be passionate about?? Do I go back to school, do I get a job that I'd LOVE & be passionate about, do I just volunteer..make my own schedule, do as a please, etc.

Do you feel like you 'gave up' when you quit working? What do you do with your time? Are you happy with not working? Any regrets? I feel torn and need to wrap my head around all of this.

It totally sucks that my sister is going to be moving to IL anytime so she won't be around. Both my parents still work and don't really live close to me, etc. Will I be bored, will I like it? Will I be stur crazy, what should I do with my time?

I really don't know, I do know I need to be supportive of this situation because my husband doesn't like it that he has to hire someone (wishes I could do it, but I just can't, which makes me feel like a failure), but I'm all confused about this, I know he's working too much, I know he 'should' hire someone, I know I have always wanted this opportunity...but what's going to happen, and I don't like feeling replaced...

Please give me your input on how you feel about your situations. I want to make a good decision (about working a few hours/week or leaving for good) persuring a different career path, volunteering, etc.

I'M SO CONFUSED. Please help.

Thanks everyone!!!

Kelli
30 f CF
 
K

Kelli

New member
Hey everyone,

My husband and I talked tonight that he is going to hire someone to help with his work load, he is super crazy busy, he works 7 days a week (own our own company), we don't see eachother a whole lot, (other than we work together, he is pretty much busy all the time) etc.

So I cannot help him out with this position he has to fill because it is work that HAS to be done on a daily basis (my hospital stays & even home IV's would be a problem.) So I know I can't fill this position the way it needs to be filled....

I guess my situation is....I could still work just a few hours a week and still get paid what I'm making now, I can volunteer at everything I want to do, I have always wanted this opportunity.....

BUT...I have always worked, since 16 years old, I've always had a job. So it's not like I have kids and can be a stay at home mom, I'm afraid I'll be bored to tears. I can only sit in my house so much or volunteer so much.

I'm just feeling like he is hiring someone because I CANNOT do what he needs me to do (feel crappy about that but it's the facts) and I feel like I'm basically getting replaced with an upgrade. Yet part of me thinks this is a great opportunity, but it's bitter sweet. (I don't like change so that sucks too)

I feel torn becuase I have an opportunity to not work but I always thought that I'd work until I couldn't work. I don't want to feel like I have given up, do I want to go back in the work force, do I want a boss, do I want to find a hobby or volunteer at something I could be passionate about?? Do I go back to school, do I get a job that I'd LOVE & be passionate about, do I just volunteer..make my own schedule, do as a please, etc.

Do you feel like you 'gave up' when you quit working? What do you do with your time? Are you happy with not working? Any regrets? I feel torn and need to wrap my head around all of this.

It totally sucks that my sister is going to be moving to IL anytime so she won't be around. Both my parents still work and don't really live close to me, etc. Will I be bored, will I like it? Will I be stur crazy, what should I do with my time?

I really don't know, I do know I need to be supportive of this situation because my husband doesn't like it that he has to hire someone (wishes I could do it, but I just can't, which makes me feel like a failure), but I'm all confused about this, I know he's working too much, I know he 'should' hire someone, I know I have always wanted this opportunity...but what's going to happen, and I don't like feeling replaced...

Please give me your input on how you feel about your situations. I want to make a good decision (about working a few hours/week or leaving for good) persuring a different career path, volunteering, etc.

I'M SO CONFUSED. Please help.

Thanks everyone!!!

Kelli
30 f CF
 
K

Kelli

New member
Hey everyone,

My husband and I talked tonight that he is going to hire someone to help with his work load, he is super crazy busy, he works 7 days a week (own our own company), we don't see eachother a whole lot, (other than we work together, he is pretty much busy all the time) etc.

So I cannot help him out with this position he has to fill because it is work that HAS to be done on a daily basis (my hospital stays & even home IV's would be a problem.) So I know I can't fill this position the way it needs to be filled....

I guess my situation is....I could still work just a few hours a week and still get paid what I'm making now, I can volunteer at everything I want to do, I have always wanted this opportunity.....

BUT...I have always worked, since 16 years old, I've always had a job. So it's not like I have kids and can be a stay at home mom, I'm afraid I'll be bored to tears. I can only sit in my house so much or volunteer so much.

I'm just feeling like he is hiring someone because I CANNOT do what he needs me to do (feel crappy about that but it's the facts) and I feel like I'm basically getting replaced with an upgrade. Yet part of me thinks this is a great opportunity, but it's bitter sweet. (I don't like change so that sucks too)

I feel torn becuase I have an opportunity to not work but I always thought that I'd work until I couldn't work. I don't want to feel like I have given up, do I want to go back in the work force, do I want a boss, do I want to find a hobby or volunteer at something I could be passionate about?? Do I go back to school, do I get a job that I'd LOVE & be passionate about, do I just volunteer..make my own schedule, do as a please, etc.

Do you feel like you 'gave up' when you quit working? What do you do with your time? Are you happy with not working? Any regrets? I feel torn and need to wrap my head around all of this.

It totally sucks that my sister is going to be moving to IL anytime so she won't be around. Both my parents still work and don't really live close to me, etc. Will I be bored, will I like it? Will I be stur crazy, what should I do with my time?

I really don't know, I do know I need to be supportive of this situation because my husband doesn't like it that he has to hire someone (wishes I could do it, but I just can't, which makes me feel like a failure), but I'm all confused about this, I know he's working too much, I know he 'should' hire someone, I know I have always wanted this opportunity...but what's going to happen, and I don't like feeling replaced...

Please give me your input on how you feel about your situations. I want to make a good decision (about working a few hours/week or leaving for good) persuring a different career path, volunteering, etc.

I'M SO CONFUSED. Please help.

Thanks everyone!!!

Kelli
30 f CF
 
K

Kelli

New member
Hey everyone,

My husband and I talked tonight that he is going to hire someone to help with his work load, he is super crazy busy, he works 7 days a week (own our own company), we don't see eachother a whole lot, (other than we work together, he is pretty much busy all the time) etc.

So I cannot help him out with this position he has to fill because it is work that HAS to be done on a daily basis (my hospital stays & even home IV's would be a problem.) So I know I can't fill this position the way it needs to be filled....

I guess my situation is....I could still work just a few hours a week and still get paid what I'm making now, I can volunteer at everything I want to do, I have always wanted this opportunity.....

BUT...I have always worked, since 16 years old, I've always had a job. So it's not like I have kids and can be a stay at home mom, I'm afraid I'll be bored to tears. I can only sit in my house so much or volunteer so much.

I'm just feeling like he is hiring someone because I CANNOT do what he needs me to do (feel crappy about that but it's the facts) and I feel like I'm basically getting replaced with an upgrade. Yet part of me thinks this is a great opportunity, but it's bitter sweet. (I don't like change so that sucks too)

I feel torn becuase I have an opportunity to not work but I always thought that I'd work until I couldn't work. I don't want to feel like I have given up, do I want to go back in the work force, do I want a boss, do I want to find a hobby or volunteer at something I could be passionate about?? Do I go back to school, do I get a job that I'd LOVE & be passionate about, do I just volunteer..make my own schedule, do as a please, etc.

Do you feel like you 'gave up' when you quit working? What do you do with your time? Are you happy with not working? Any regrets? I feel torn and need to wrap my head around all of this.

It totally sucks that my sister is going to be moving to IL anytime so she won't be around. Both my parents still work and don't really live close to me, etc. Will I be bored, will I like it? Will I be stur crazy, what should I do with my time?

I really don't know, I do know I need to be supportive of this situation because my husband doesn't like it that he has to hire someone (wishes I could do it, but I just can't, which makes me feel like a failure), but I'm all confused about this, I know he's working too much, I know he 'should' hire someone, I know I have always wanted this opportunity...but what's going to happen, and I don't like feeling replaced...

Please give me your input on how you feel about your situations. I want to make a good decision (about working a few hours/week or leaving for good) persuring a different career path, volunteering, etc.

I'M SO CONFUSED. Please help.

Thanks everyone!!!

Kelli
30 f CF
 
K

Kelli

New member
Hey everyone,
<br />
<br />My husband and I talked tonight that he is going to hire someone to help with his work load, he is super crazy busy, he works 7 days a week (own our own company), we don't see eachother a whole lot, (other than we work together, he is pretty much busy all the time) etc.
<br />
<br />So I cannot help him out with this position he has to fill because it is work that HAS to be done on a daily basis (my hospital stays & even home IV's would be a problem.) So I know I can't fill this position the way it needs to be filled....
<br />
<br />I guess my situation is....I could still work just a few hours a week and still get paid what I'm making now, I can volunteer at everything I want to do, I have always wanted this opportunity.....
<br />
<br />BUT...I have always worked, since 16 years old, I've always had a job. So it's not like I have kids and can be a stay at home mom, I'm afraid I'll be bored to tears. I can only sit in my house so much or volunteer so much.
<br />
<br />I'm just feeling like he is hiring someone because I CANNOT do what he needs me to do (feel crappy about that but it's the facts) and I feel like I'm basically getting replaced with an upgrade. Yet part of me thinks this is a great opportunity, but it's bitter sweet. (I don't like change so that sucks too)
<br />
<br />I feel torn becuase I have an opportunity to not work but I always thought that I'd work until I couldn't work. I don't want to feel like I have given up, do I want to go back in the work force, do I want a boss, do I want to find a hobby or volunteer at something I could be passionate about?? Do I go back to school, do I get a job that I'd LOVE & be passionate about, do I just volunteer..make my own schedule, do as a please, etc.
<br />
<br />Do you feel like you 'gave up' when you quit working? What do you do with your time? Are you happy with not working? Any regrets? I feel torn and need to wrap my head around all of this.
<br />
<br />It totally sucks that my sister is going to be moving to IL anytime so she won't be around. Both my parents still work and don't really live close to me, etc. Will I be bored, will I like it? Will I be stur crazy, what should I do with my time?
<br />
<br />I really don't know, I do know I need to be supportive of this situation because my husband doesn't like it that he has to hire someone (wishes I could do it, but I just can't, which makes me feel like a failure), but I'm all confused about this, I know he's working too much, I know he 'should' hire someone, I know I have always wanted this opportunity...but what's going to happen, and I don't like feeling replaced...
<br />
<br />Please give me your input on how you feel about your situations. I want to make a good decision (about working a few hours/week or leaving for good) persuring a different career path, volunteering, etc.
<br />
<br />I'M SO CONFUSED. Please help.
<br />
<br />Thanks everyone!!!
<br />
<br />Kelli
<br />30 f CF
<br />
<br />
 
J

JennifersHope

New member
The question I have is, you said you can still work a few hours a week and GET paid the same you are making now... why don't you try that for a while and see how that goes..

I agree your husband needs help..No One should have to work seven days a week all the time... that is major burn out... health concerns..relationship issues etc.

Life is so. so, much more then work.. I swear and I promise it is..... I love the idea of you being able to pursue some of your dreams.. you should be able to.. It will make you a happier person, and a better wife just by virtue that you are happier...

I would be encouraging your husband left and right to hire someone, you said your company is a million dollar business... (that you worked very hard for)

I think your husband needs a chance to relax too.. and I know that he wishes you could do the work but if you can't... you can't.....so try to find something that is a good compromise.....Try to tell help your husband focus on the fact that maybe he can start having one whole day off a week..Gosh you both deserve that...

It is so hard for us, especially CFers or anyone who has to take many things into consideration, to not feel less then or second to.. and I don't have an answer to that one... I don't handle it so well, to be honest, I become a major overachiever...to my own healths disadvantage..and I am just now at 35 trying to change that... but it is painful

Please, please, please, find a way to have time off, down time, enjoyment time for you and your husband... and I am all for you working a few hours a week and going to try things out...

I have been home for the last two months about and now that I am better, I am enjoying my life, but I do get anxious when I am alone at night..(hence this long response to your post) but I live alone... so that is hard for me..

Good luck with your choice...

Jennifer
 
J

JennifersHope

New member
The question I have is, you said you can still work a few hours a week and GET paid the same you are making now... why don't you try that for a while and see how that goes..

I agree your husband needs help..No One should have to work seven days a week all the time... that is major burn out... health concerns..relationship issues etc.

Life is so. so, much more then work.. I swear and I promise it is..... I love the idea of you being able to pursue some of your dreams.. you should be able to.. It will make you a happier person, and a better wife just by virtue that you are happier...

I would be encouraging your husband left and right to hire someone, you said your company is a million dollar business... (that you worked very hard for)

I think your husband needs a chance to relax too.. and I know that he wishes you could do the work but if you can't... you can't.....so try to find something that is a good compromise.....Try to tell help your husband focus on the fact that maybe he can start having one whole day off a week..Gosh you both deserve that...

It is so hard for us, especially CFers or anyone who has to take many things into consideration, to not feel less then or second to.. and I don't have an answer to that one... I don't handle it so well, to be honest, I become a major overachiever...to my own healths disadvantage..and I am just now at 35 trying to change that... but it is painful

Please, please, please, find a way to have time off, down time, enjoyment time for you and your husband... and I am all for you working a few hours a week and going to try things out...

I have been home for the last two months about and now that I am better, I am enjoying my life, but I do get anxious when I am alone at night..(hence this long response to your post) but I live alone... so that is hard for me..

Good luck with your choice...

Jennifer
 
J

JennifersHope

New member
The question I have is, you said you can still work a few hours a week and GET paid the same you are making now... why don't you try that for a while and see how that goes..

I agree your husband needs help..No One should have to work seven days a week all the time... that is major burn out... health concerns..relationship issues etc.

Life is so. so, much more then work.. I swear and I promise it is..... I love the idea of you being able to pursue some of your dreams.. you should be able to.. It will make you a happier person, and a better wife just by virtue that you are happier...

I would be encouraging your husband left and right to hire someone, you said your company is a million dollar business... (that you worked very hard for)

I think your husband needs a chance to relax too.. and I know that he wishes you could do the work but if you can't... you can't.....so try to find something that is a good compromise.....Try to tell help your husband focus on the fact that maybe he can start having one whole day off a week..Gosh you both deserve that...

It is so hard for us, especially CFers or anyone who has to take many things into consideration, to not feel less then or second to.. and I don't have an answer to that one... I don't handle it so well, to be honest, I become a major overachiever...to my own healths disadvantage..and I am just now at 35 trying to change that... but it is painful

Please, please, please, find a way to have time off, down time, enjoyment time for you and your husband... and I am all for you working a few hours a week and going to try things out...

I have been home for the last two months about and now that I am better, I am enjoying my life, but I do get anxious when I am alone at night..(hence this long response to your post) but I live alone... so that is hard for me..

Good luck with your choice...

Jennifer
 
J

JennifersHope

New member
The question I have is, you said you can still work a few hours a week and GET paid the same you are making now... why don't you try that for a while and see how that goes..

I agree your husband needs help..No One should have to work seven days a week all the time... that is major burn out... health concerns..relationship issues etc.

Life is so. so, much more then work.. I swear and I promise it is..... I love the idea of you being able to pursue some of your dreams.. you should be able to.. It will make you a happier person, and a better wife just by virtue that you are happier...

I would be encouraging your husband left and right to hire someone, you said your company is a million dollar business... (that you worked very hard for)

I think your husband needs a chance to relax too.. and I know that he wishes you could do the work but if you can't... you can't.....so try to find something that is a good compromise.....Try to tell help your husband focus on the fact that maybe he can start having one whole day off a week..Gosh you both deserve that...

It is so hard for us, especially CFers or anyone who has to take many things into consideration, to not feel less then or second to.. and I don't have an answer to that one... I don't handle it so well, to be honest, I become a major overachiever...to my own healths disadvantage..and I am just now at 35 trying to change that... but it is painful

Please, please, please, find a way to have time off, down time, enjoyment time for you and your husband... and I am all for you working a few hours a week and going to try things out...

I have been home for the last two months about and now that I am better, I am enjoying my life, but I do get anxious when I am alone at night..(hence this long response to your post) but I live alone... so that is hard for me..

Good luck with your choice...

Jennifer
 
J

JennifersHope

New member
The question I have is, you said you can still work a few hours a week and GET paid the same you are making now... why don't you try that for a while and see how that goes..
<br />
<br />I agree your husband needs help..No One should have to work seven days a week all the time... that is major burn out... health concerns..relationship issues etc.
<br />
<br />Life is so. so, much more then work.. I swear and I promise it is..... I love the idea of you being able to pursue some of your dreams.. you should be able to.. It will make you a happier person, and a better wife just by virtue that you are happier...
<br />
<br />I would be encouraging your husband left and right to hire someone, you said your company is a million dollar business... (that you worked very hard for)
<br />
<br />I think your husband needs a chance to relax too.. and I know that he wishes you could do the work but if you can't... you can't.....so try to find something that is a good compromise.....Try to tell help your husband focus on the fact that maybe he can start having one whole day off a week..Gosh you both deserve that...
<br />
<br />It is so hard for us, especially CFers or anyone who has to take many things into consideration, to not feel less then or second to.. and I don't have an answer to that one... I don't handle it so well, to be honest, I become a major overachiever...to my own healths disadvantage..and I am just now at 35 trying to change that... but it is painful
<br />
<br />Please, please, please, find a way to have time off, down time, enjoyment time for you and your husband... and I am all for you working a few hours a week and going to try things out...
<br />
<br />I have been home for the last two months about and now that I am better, I am enjoying my life, but I do get anxious when I am alone at night..(hence this long response to your post) but I live alone... so that is hard for me..
<br />
<br />Good luck with your choice...
<br />
<br />Jennifer
 
A

AnD

New member
I have stayed at home for pretty much my entire married life, so, from my experience, I would say that yes, there is a lot you can do, especially if you have a little spare change for classes, etc.

You can check out your local community college, and see if they have "community classes", and see if there is something there you would enjoy (art, photography, dance, cooking, sewing, etc.) and then find a local club that does these things, too.

I am an artist, and joined a local art group, so we had shows that we went to, meetings, etc. It was fun! I also belonged to a disabled artists' group (I am looking at rejoining that), where we had juried artshows, complete with nice dinners and "meet the artist" casual/dressy affairs, etc. too. It's fun to dress up occasionally <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I was an art teacher for a few summers at summer camp at AIDB (Alabama Institute for the Deaf and Blind), and every once in a while I still bump into the kids I had in class <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ! I also helped one year with the local Alabama Games (for people with disablilities), basically as an "errand girl" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also taken a sewing class, and I was an adult reading tutor for a little while too- that was fulfilling, since I had originally planned on being a teacher (and love to read), but I couldn't because I caught too many bugs from them and it was taking a toll on my health. But having an adult student who understands that we will just have to skip weeks when they are sick, and for whom I could get a substitute for when I was sick, was great!

I also thought about joining a flyball group with my last dog (he was a tennis ball nut), but he started getting arthritis in his hips, so that was out <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> .

And yes, I had days when I was bored, but I probably should have been cleaning my house then, lol!

There is a lot to do, you just have to jump in and search around until you find something that works for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . And if you like what you are doing now, and it works out for you, then I think it would be good to still do it if you want to <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . Good luck!
 
A

AnD

New member
I have stayed at home for pretty much my entire married life, so, from my experience, I would say that yes, there is a lot you can do, especially if you have a little spare change for classes, etc.

You can check out your local community college, and see if they have "community classes", and see if there is something there you would enjoy (art, photography, dance, cooking, sewing, etc.) and then find a local club that does these things, too.

I am an artist, and joined a local art group, so we had shows that we went to, meetings, etc. It was fun! I also belonged to a disabled artists' group (I am looking at rejoining that), where we had juried artshows, complete with nice dinners and "meet the artist" casual/dressy affairs, etc. too. It's fun to dress up occasionally <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I was an art teacher for a few summers at summer camp at AIDB (Alabama Institute for the Deaf and Blind), and every once in a while I still bump into the kids I had in class <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ! I also helped one year with the local Alabama Games (for people with disablilities), basically as an "errand girl" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also taken a sewing class, and I was an adult reading tutor for a little while too- that was fulfilling, since I had originally planned on being a teacher (and love to read), but I couldn't because I caught too many bugs from them and it was taking a toll on my health. But having an adult student who understands that we will just have to skip weeks when they are sick, and for whom I could get a substitute for when I was sick, was great!

I also thought about joining a flyball group with my last dog (he was a tennis ball nut), but he started getting arthritis in his hips, so that was out <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> .

And yes, I had days when I was bored, but I probably should have been cleaning my house then, lol!

There is a lot to do, you just have to jump in and search around until you find something that works for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . And if you like what you are doing now, and it works out for you, then I think it would be good to still do it if you want to <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . Good luck!
 
A

AnD

New member
I have stayed at home for pretty much my entire married life, so, from my experience, I would say that yes, there is a lot you can do, especially if you have a little spare change for classes, etc.

You can check out your local community college, and see if they have "community classes", and see if there is something there you would enjoy (art, photography, dance, cooking, sewing, etc.) and then find a local club that does these things, too.

I am an artist, and joined a local art group, so we had shows that we went to, meetings, etc. It was fun! I also belonged to a disabled artists' group (I am looking at rejoining that), where we had juried artshows, complete with nice dinners and "meet the artist" casual/dressy affairs, etc. too. It's fun to dress up occasionally <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I was an art teacher for a few summers at summer camp at AIDB (Alabama Institute for the Deaf and Blind), and every once in a while I still bump into the kids I had in class <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ! I also helped one year with the local Alabama Games (for people with disablilities), basically as an "errand girl" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also taken a sewing class, and I was an adult reading tutor for a little while too- that was fulfilling, since I had originally planned on being a teacher (and love to read), but I couldn't because I caught too many bugs from them and it was taking a toll on my health. But having an adult student who understands that we will just have to skip weeks when they are sick, and for whom I could get a substitute for when I was sick, was great!

I also thought about joining a flyball group with my last dog (he was a tennis ball nut), but he started getting arthritis in his hips, so that was out <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> .

And yes, I had days when I was bored, but I probably should have been cleaning my house then, lol!

There is a lot to do, you just have to jump in and search around until you find something that works for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . And if you like what you are doing now, and it works out for you, then I think it would be good to still do it if you want to <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . Good luck!
 
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AnD

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I have stayed at home for pretty much my entire married life, so, from my experience, I would say that yes, there is a lot you can do, especially if you have a little spare change for classes, etc.

You can check out your local community college, and see if they have "community classes", and see if there is something there you would enjoy (art, photography, dance, cooking, sewing, etc.) and then find a local club that does these things, too.

I am an artist, and joined a local art group, so we had shows that we went to, meetings, etc. It was fun! I also belonged to a disabled artists' group (I am looking at rejoining that), where we had juried artshows, complete with nice dinners and "meet the artist" casual/dressy affairs, etc. too. It's fun to dress up occasionally <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I was an art teacher for a few summers at summer camp at AIDB (Alabama Institute for the Deaf and Blind), and every once in a while I still bump into the kids I had in class <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ! I also helped one year with the local Alabama Games (for people with disablilities), basically as an "errand girl" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .

I have also taken a sewing class, and I was an adult reading tutor for a little while too- that was fulfilling, since I had originally planned on being a teacher (and love to read), but I couldn't because I caught too many bugs from them and it was taking a toll on my health. But having an adult student who understands that we will just have to skip weeks when they are sick, and for whom I could get a substitute for when I was sick, was great!

I also thought about joining a flyball group with my last dog (he was a tennis ball nut), but he started getting arthritis in his hips, so that was out <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> .

And yes, I had days when I was bored, but I probably should have been cleaning my house then, lol!

There is a lot to do, you just have to jump in and search around until you find something that works for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . And if you like what you are doing now, and it works out for you, then I think it would be good to still do it if you want to <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . Good luck!
 
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AnD

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I have stayed at home for pretty much my entire married life, so, from my experience, I would say that yes, there is a lot you can do, especially if you have a little spare change for classes, etc.
<br />
<br />You can check out your local community college, and see if they have "community classes", and see if there is something there you would enjoy (art, photography, dance, cooking, sewing, etc.) and then find a local club that does these things, too.
<br />
<br />I am an artist, and joined a local art group, so we had shows that we went to, meetings, etc. It was fun! I also belonged to a disabled artists' group (I am looking at rejoining that), where we had juried artshows, complete with nice dinners and "meet the artist" casual/dressy affairs, etc. too. It's fun to dress up occasionally <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
<br />
<br />I was an art teacher for a few summers at summer camp at AIDB (Alabama Institute for the Deaf and Blind), and every once in a while I still bump into the kids I had in class <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0"> ! I also helped one year with the local Alabama Games (for people with disablilities), basically as an "errand girl" <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> .
<br />
<br />I have also taken a sewing class, and I was an adult reading tutor for a little while too- that was fulfilling, since I had originally planned on being a teacher (and love to read), but I couldn't because I caught too many bugs from them and it was taking a toll on my health. But having an adult student who understands that we will just have to skip weeks when they are sick, and for whom I could get a substitute for when I was sick, was great!
<br />
<br />I also thought about joining a flyball group with my last dog (he was a tennis ball nut), but he started getting arthritis in his hips, so that was out <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-sad.gif" border="0"> .
<br />
<br />And yes, I had days when I was bored, but I probably should have been cleaning my house then, lol!
<br />
<br />There is a lot to do, you just have to jump in and search around until you find something that works for you <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . And if you like what you are doing now, and it works out for you, then I think it would be good to still do it if you want to <img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-wink.gif" border="0"> . Good luck!
 
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Skye

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Kelli,

I'm going through some of this now and actually feel really excited about it. I am having to lay down a career I spent 7 years in school for. That door is closing but I am excited about pursuing some dreams I had when I was 20 and maybe getting a doctoral degree. I love volunteering and cooking. I HAD to put my health first or it would make a "not so friendly" decision for me. I'm also setting a goal for weight training and working out so I can have a smokin hot body. Not a bad hobby<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I think you should ask yourself if you really enjoy working with the company or if you are just filling a need. If you do really enjoy it and it is not too stresful, maybe trying part-time like others have suggested would not be a bad idea.

I salute you for acknowledging that it is too much! That is a hard thing to do. Some of us just keep going and going and push ourselves way too hard. I pushed myself way too hard a few years back working full-time at a nursing home and exposing myself to many dumb bugs. Not smart! Kudos to you for having wisdom.

Karen
 
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Skye

New member
Kelli,

I'm going through some of this now and actually feel really excited about it. I am having to lay down a career I spent 7 years in school for. That door is closing but I am excited about pursuing some dreams I had when I was 20 and maybe getting a doctoral degree. I love volunteering and cooking. I HAD to put my health first or it would make a "not so friendly" decision for me. I'm also setting a goal for weight training and working out so I can have a smokin hot body. Not a bad hobby<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I think you should ask yourself if you really enjoy working with the company or if you are just filling a need. If you do really enjoy it and it is not too stresful, maybe trying part-time like others have suggested would not be a bad idea.

I salute you for acknowledging that it is too much! That is a hard thing to do. Some of us just keep going and going and push ourselves way too hard. I pushed myself way too hard a few years back working full-time at a nursing home and exposing myself to many dumb bugs. Not smart! Kudos to you for having wisdom.

Karen
 
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Skye

New member
Kelli,

I'm going through some of this now and actually feel really excited about it. I am having to lay down a career I spent 7 years in school for. That door is closing but I am excited about pursuing some dreams I had when I was 20 and maybe getting a doctoral degree. I love volunteering and cooking. I HAD to put my health first or it would make a "not so friendly" decision for me. I'm also setting a goal for weight training and working out so I can have a smokin hot body. Not a bad hobby<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I think you should ask yourself if you really enjoy working with the company or if you are just filling a need. If you do really enjoy it and it is not too stresful, maybe trying part-time like others have suggested would not be a bad idea.

I salute you for acknowledging that it is too much! That is a hard thing to do. Some of us just keep going and going and push ourselves way too hard. I pushed myself way too hard a few years back working full-time at a nursing home and exposing myself to many dumb bugs. Not smart! Kudos to you for having wisdom.

Karen
 
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Skye

New member
Kelli,

I'm going through some of this now and actually feel really excited about it. I am having to lay down a career I spent 7 years in school for. That door is closing but I am excited about pursuing some dreams I had when I was 20 and maybe getting a doctoral degree. I love volunteering and cooking. I HAD to put my health first or it would make a "not so friendly" decision for me. I'm also setting a goal for weight training and working out so I can have a smokin hot body. Not a bad hobby<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">

I think you should ask yourself if you really enjoy working with the company or if you are just filling a need. If you do really enjoy it and it is not too stresful, maybe trying part-time like others have suggested would not be a bad idea.

I salute you for acknowledging that it is too much! That is a hard thing to do. Some of us just keep going and going and push ourselves way too hard. I pushed myself way too hard a few years back working full-time at a nursing home and exposing myself to many dumb bugs. Not smart! Kudos to you for having wisdom.

Karen
 
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Skye

New member
Kelli,
<br />
<br />I'm going through some of this now and actually feel really excited about it. I am having to lay down a career I spent 7 years in school for. That door is closing but I am excited about pursuing some dreams I had when I was 20 and maybe getting a doctoral degree. I love volunteering and cooking. I HAD to put my health first or it would make a "not so friendly" decision for me. I'm also setting a goal for weight training and working out so I can have a smokin hot body. Not a bad hobby<img src="i/expressions/face-icon-small-smile.gif" border="0">
<br />
<br />I think you should ask yourself if you really enjoy working with the company or if you are just filling a need. If you do really enjoy it and it is not too stresful, maybe trying part-time like others have suggested would not be a bad idea.
<br />
<br />I salute you for acknowledging that it is too much! That is a hard thing to do. Some of us just keep going and going and push ourselves way too hard. I pushed myself way too hard a few years back working full-time at a nursing home and exposing myself to many dumb bugs. Not smart! Kudos to you for having wisdom.
<br />
<br />Karen
 
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