Through the Eyes of a Patient

[Seana30]

Emily,

I agree with you. Emotions should not be the number one priority. If someone comes in the ER having a heart attack of course you have to take care of the problem first.

My point is....when I was in the medical field I was appalled at how many healthcare workers take all emotions out of the picture. I knew when I went out on a call such as a car accident and we had 4 or 5 patients critically injured that was the time to put my emotions aside and do my job. If I was transporting a young child from one hospital to the other, although I had to monitor the childs condition, that was the time to be sensitive and thoughtful. It is amazing though to see how many of my partners were insensitive and down right mean and uncaring.

The biggest problem for me as an EMT was learning to set the emotions aside. One of the hardest things for me was triage at a accident scene. You literally had to go to each patient, dead or alive, and "tag them" which meant you decided whether it was worth an attempt to save them. If you felt the person was to injured to help you literally put a color coded tag on them and move on to the next person.

There is a time and place for emotions in the hospital setting........my point was I feel a lot of healthcare workers have taken all emotion out of it.

Okay.....I babbling now.....lol.

Again Jennifer.......I think it is wonderful what you are doing and would love to hear your finished paper!

Seana

 

[Seana30]

Emily,

I agree with you. Emotions should not be the number one priority. If someone comes in the ER having a heart attack of course you have to take care of the problem first.

My point is....when I was in the medical field I was appalled at how many healthcare workers take all emotions out of the picture. I knew when I went out on a call such as a car accident and we had 4 or 5 patients critically injured that was the time to put my emotions aside and do my job. If I was transporting a young child from one hospital to the other, although I had to monitor the childs condition, that was the time to be sensitive and thoughtful. It is amazing though to see how many of my partners were insensitive and down right mean and uncaring.

The biggest problem for me as an EMT was learning to set the emotions aside. One of the hardest things for me was triage at a accident scene. You literally had to go to each patient, dead or alive, and "tag them" which meant you decided whether it was worth an attempt to save them. If you felt the person was to injured to help you literally put a color coded tag on them and move on to the next person.

There is a time and place for emotions in the hospital setting........my point was I feel a lot of healthcare workers have taken all emotion out of it.

Okay.....I babbling now.....lol.

Again Jennifer.......I think it is wonderful what you are doing and would love to hear your finished paper!

Seana

 

[JennifersHope]

Blake I knew this has nothing to do with the project I was working on. I sort of do remember that conversation. I am very sorry that I did that to you. I would want to be very sensitive to you losing your parents and being on your own. I think I was probably trying to share in with you or relate to you, I know NOT purposely take away from your pain. I am like you in one way, I don't like when people do that to me. I do apologize to you. I feel bad because I didn't even know you felt that way.. ALl this time and you were still pissed..

I do live with my parents now... BUt I did live on my own when I was 16 till I was 29.. and I am not going to get into the horror of some things... but my point is to tell you I am sorry that you felt like I was rude and insensitive, to me it is ironic that you care what other people think because your signautre so clearly states. " "

"at first your going to find me to be sarcastic, insensitive and heartless, after a few minutes you will see that those are your good qualities" those are your words Blake... not mine..

Again that is the signature on your name., not mine. SO I do care if I hurt someone else, and like I said, I am sorry for being insensitive, sometimes talking on the computer, words don't get expressed properly. and a person's intention can be easily miscrewed

However, since you said to me, if I can't take it, don't dish it, maybe you should rethink the way you "dish" it. I am starting to believe that your signature is not true about you at all. I think you do care what other people say., and that you are sensitive... at least to your own feelings and it is evident that you don't want someone to be rude or insensitive to you. ( like I apparently was on accident)

I hope you understand that I am sorry, had I known I said something that bothered you or made you feel put off sooner. I long since would have apologized.

 

[JennifersHope]

Blake I knew this has nothing to do with the project I was working on. I sort of do remember that conversation. I am very sorry that I did that to you. I would want to be very sensitive to you losing your parents and being on your own. I think I was probably trying to share in with you or relate to you, I know NOT purposely take away from your pain. I am like you in one way, I don't like when people do that to me. I do apologize to you. I feel bad because I didn't even know you felt that way.. ALl this time and you were still pissed..

I do live with my parents now... BUt I did live on my own when I was 16 till I was 29.. and I am not going to get into the horror of some things... but my point is to tell you I am sorry that you felt like I was rude and insensitive, to me it is ironic that you care what other people think because your signautre so clearly states. " "

"at first your going to find me to be sarcastic, insensitive and heartless, after a few minutes you will see that those are your good qualities" those are your words Blake... not mine..

Again that is the signature on your name., not mine. SO I do care if I hurt someone else, and like I said, I am sorry for being insensitive, sometimes talking on the computer, words don't get expressed properly. and a person's intention can be easily miscrewed

However, since you said to me, if I can't take it, don't dish it, maybe you should rethink the way you "dish" it. I am starting to believe that your signature is not true about you at all. I think you do care what other people say., and that you are sensitive... at least to your own feelings and it is evident that you don't want someone to be rude or insensitive to you. ( like I apparently was on accident)

I hope you understand that I am sorry, had I known I said something that bothered you or made you feel put off sooner. I long since would have apologized.

 

[JennifersHope]

Blake I knew this has nothing to do with the project I was working on. I sort of do remember that conversation. I am very sorry that I did that to you. I would want to be very sensitive to you losing your parents and being on your own. I think I was probably trying to share in with you or relate to you, I know NOT purposely take away from your pain. I am like you in one way, I don't like when people do that to me. I do apologize to you. I feel bad because I didn't even know you felt that way.. ALl this time and you were still pissed..

I do live with my parents now... BUt I did live on my own when I was 16 till I was 29.. and I am not going to get into the horror of some things... but my point is to tell you I am sorry that you felt like I was rude and insensitive, to me it is ironic that you care what other people think because your signautre so clearly states. " "

"at first your going to find me to be sarcastic, insensitive and heartless, after a few minutes you will see that those are your good qualities" those are your words Blake... not mine..

Again that is the signature on your name., not mine. SO I do care if I hurt someone else, and like I said, I am sorry for being insensitive, sometimes talking on the computer, words don't get expressed properly. and a person's intention can be easily miscrewed

However, since you said to me, if I can't take it, don't dish it, maybe you should rethink the way you "dish" it. I am starting to believe that your signature is not true about you at all. I think you do care what other people say., and that you are sensitive... at least to your own feelings and it is evident that you don't want someone to be rude or insensitive to you. ( like I apparently was on accident)

I hope you understand that I am sorry, had I known I said something that bothered you or made you feel put off sooner. I long since would have apologized.

 

[JennifersHope]

Blake I knew this has nothing to do with the project I was working on. I sort of do remember that conversation. I am very sorry that I did that to you. I would want to be very sensitive to you losing your parents and being on your own. I think I was probably trying to share in with you or relate to you, I know NOT purposely take away from your pain. I am like you in one way, I don't like when people do that to me. I do apologize to you. I feel bad because I didn't even know you felt that way.. ALl this time and you were still pissed..

I do live with my parents now... BUt I did live on my own when I was 16 till I was 29.. and I am not going to get into the horror of some things... but my point is to tell you I am sorry that you felt like I was rude and insensitive, to me it is ironic that you care what other people think because your signautre so clearly states. " "

"at first your going to find me to be sarcastic, insensitive and heartless, after a few minutes you will see that those are your good qualities" those are your words Blake... not mine..

Again that is the signature on your name., not mine. SO I do care if I hurt someone else, and like I said, I am sorry for being insensitive, sometimes talking on the computer, words don't get expressed properly. and a person's intention can be easily miscrewed

However, since you said to me, if I can't take it, don't dish it, maybe you should rethink the way you "dish" it. I am starting to believe that your signature is not true about you at all. I think you do care what other people say., and that you are sensitive... at least to your own feelings and it is evident that you don't want someone to be rude or insensitive to you. ( like I apparently was on accident)

I hope you understand that I am sorry, had I known I said something that bothered you or made you feel put off sooner. I long since would have apologized.

 

[JennifersHope]

Blake I knew this has nothing to do with the project I was working on. I sort of do remember that conversation. I am very sorry that I did that to you. I would want to be very sensitive to you losing your parents and being on your own. I think I was probably trying to share in with you or relate to you, I know NOT purposely take away from your pain. I am like you in one way, I don't like when people do that to me. I do apologize to you. I feel bad because I didn't even know you felt that way.. ALl this time and you were still pissed..

I do live with my parents now... BUt I did live on my own when I was 16 till I was 29.. and I am not going to get into the horror of some things... but my point is to tell you I am sorry that you felt like I was rude and insensitive, to me it is ironic that you care what other people think because your signautre so clearly states. " "

"at first your going to find me to be sarcastic, insensitive and heartless, after a few minutes you will see that those are your good qualities" those are your words Blake... not mine..

Again that is the signature on your name., not mine. SO I do care if I hurt someone else, and like I said, I am sorry for being insensitive, sometimes talking on the computer, words don't get expressed properly. and a person's intention can be easily miscrewed

However, since you said to me, if I can't take it, don't dish it, maybe you should rethink the way you "dish" it. I am starting to believe that your signature is not true about you at all. I think you do care what other people say., and that you are sensitive... at least to your own feelings and it is evident that you don't want someone to be rude or insensitive to you. ( like I apparently was on accident)

I hope you understand that I am sorry, had I known I said something that bothered you or made you feel put off sooner. I long since would have apologized.

 

[JennifersHope]

Blake I knew this has nothing to do with the project I was working on. I sort of do remember that conversation. I am very sorry that I did that to you. I would want to be very sensitive to you losing your parents and being on your own. I think I was probably trying to share in with you or relate to you, I know NOT purposely take away from your pain. I am like you in one way, I don't like when people do that to me. I do apologize to you. I feel bad because I didn't even know you felt that way.. ALl this time and you were still pissed..

I do live with my parents now... BUt I did live on my own when I was 16 till I was 29.. and I am not going to get into the horror of some things... but my point is to tell you I am sorry that you felt like I was rude and insensitive, to me it is ironic that you care what other people think because your signautre so clearly states. " "

"at first your going to find me to be sarcastic, insensitive and heartless, after a few minutes you will see that those are your good qualities" those are your words Blake... not mine..

Again that is the signature on your name., not mine. SO I do care if I hurt someone else, and like I said, I am sorry for being insensitive, sometimes talking on the computer, words don't get expressed properly. and a person's intention can be easily miscrewed

However, since you said to me, if I can't take it, don't dish it, maybe you should rethink the way you "dish" it. I am starting to believe that your signature is not true about you at all. I think you do care what other people say., and that you are sensitive... at least to your own feelings and it is evident that you don't want someone to be rude or insensitive to you. ( like I apparently was on accident)

I hope you understand that I am sorry, had I known I said something that bothered you or made you feel put off sooner. I long since would have apologized.

 

[JennifersHope]

I decided to erase this one particular post that I responded to because even though I feel like I was justified in what I said that doesn't mean it was the kinder, nicer thing to do or say. I do try to be compassionate and understanding.. even when the same decency is not returned to me.. That should not make a difference.....and it should not change the principle in which I choose to live..

I choose to not be a namecaller and it isn't my job to call someone else out on their problem areas....I have made it my job to love and care for people. not be rude...

Jennifer.

 

[JennifersHope]

I decided to erase this one particular post that I responded to because even though I feel like I was justified in what I said that doesn't mean it was the kinder, nicer thing to do or say. I do try to be compassionate and understanding.. even when the same decency is not returned to me.. That should not make a difference.....and it should not change the principle in which I choose to live..

I choose to not be a namecaller and it isn't my job to call someone else out on their problem areas....I have made it my job to love and care for people. not be rude...

Jennifer.

 

[JennifersHope]

I decided to erase this one particular post that I responded to because even though I feel like I was justified in what I said that doesn't mean it was the kinder, nicer thing to do or say. I do try to be compassionate and understanding.. even when the same decency is not returned to me.. That should not make a difference.....and it should not change the principle in which I choose to live..

I choose to not be a namecaller and it isn't my job to call someone else out on their problem areas....I have made it my job to love and care for people. not be rude...

Jennifer.

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Ok, I'm wading into the fray. . . I think Jennifer's ORIGINAL post of the letter was somewhat condesending. But it was only a rough copy, throwing out some of her ideas. What part of that did some of you miss???? Why did you feel the necessity to be sharp in the wording of your replys? You say it was "constructive" criticism--well I feel it was "destructive" criticism. Your critique of her article had valid points, but I don't understand why your responses were so personally attacking. Yes, she would have probably put that copy in the "round file"--I'm sure she deleted it a million times. Then it got personal with other people. Oh well, it makes for interesting reading!

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Ok, I'm wading into the fray. . . I think Jennifer's ORIGINAL post of the letter was somewhat condesending. But it was only a rough copy, throwing out some of her ideas. What part of that did some of you miss???? Why did you feel the necessity to be sharp in the wording of your replys? You say it was "constructive" criticism--well I feel it was "destructive" criticism. Your critique of her article had valid points, but I don't understand why your responses were so personally attacking. Yes, she would have probably put that copy in the "round file"--I'm sure she deleted it a million times. Then it got personal with other people. Oh well, it makes for interesting reading!

 

[kayleesgrandma]

Ok, I'm wading into the fray. . . I think Jennifer's ORIGINAL post of the letter was somewhat condesending. But it was only a rough copy, throwing out some of her ideas. What part of that did some of you miss???? Why did you feel the necessity to be sharp in the wording of your replys? You say it was "constructive" criticism--well I feel it was "destructive" criticism. Your critique of her article had valid points, but I don't understand why your responses were so personally attacking. Yes, she would have probably put that copy in the "round file"--I'm sure she deleted it a million times. Then it got personal with other people. Oh well, it makes for interesting reading!