Through the Eyes of a Patient

[JennifersHope]

Thank you for you input Blake, I will take into consideration what you are saying.

I will state it again.. The point of this project is to make Healthcare workers in the emergency room more aware of the patients needs. It wasn't about my experience in the emergency room.and I apologize if I can across the wrong way. I did state in my orginal post I didn't mean to be rude.. I love the staff I work with and that is why I fought so hard to work there... I think they are great. I have received nothing but wonderful care in the emergency room. What I wrote was writen from a pile of thoughts that I got after talking to patients in the ER and after working there for 5 years.

I am glad you have such as you say " a big mouth" That is good that you can say what you want, and have no trouble with that. NOT EVERYONE can. when I was your age I was not able to.

The point of the project is to make them aware. THankfully you don't work with me Blake, so my newsletter is "safe" from being thrown in the trash.

Your comment about me being a victim. I would love for you to be able to qualify that.. I use my blog to vent, talk things out and share my heart.BUT . If you looked at my actual life, the things I have gone though that you KNOW NOTHING ABOUT and the things that I HAVE OVERCOME I think you would find I have nothing but a victory mentality.. I have made my life very successful in spite of anything I had to deal with...usually statistically a victim doesn't.. Again I didn't think my posts where making me come across that way, this is the first time I heard of this...and I am not really sure I care.. but maybe I do.. I will have to think about it

So again, thanks for you input. Glad you don't work with me so my paper is safe, and luckily for me, what I wrote seems to be a huge success, but even if it was not. It would be okay with me. What I wrote on here was very raw.. and I stated myself IT NEEDS WORK..

I came here for input from people who know what it is like to be a patient..Good bad or indifferent.. THough I think downright rudeness is uncalled for, I also realize on the internet you deal with all different types of people...

.I really am glad you have had so much success in your health care. I hope it continues. but in the event that one day you are laying cold, half dressedand short of breath on a stretcher.. maybe then you will understand what Iwas trying to convey.. and why I think it is important for health care workers to be sensitive.

Jennifer

 

[JennifersHope]

Thank you for you input Blake, I will take into consideration what you are saying.

I will state it again.. The point of this project is to make Healthcare workers in the emergency room more aware of the patients needs. It wasn't about my experience in the emergency room.and I apologize if I can across the wrong way. I did state in my orginal post I didn't mean to be rude.. I love the staff I work with and that is why I fought so hard to work there... I think they are great. I have received nothing but wonderful care in the emergency room. What I wrote was writen from a pile of thoughts that I got after talking to patients in the ER and after working there for 5 years.

I am glad you have such as you say " a big mouth" That is good that you can say what you want, and have no trouble with that. NOT EVERYONE can. when I was your age I was not able to.

The point of the project is to make them aware. THankfully you don't work with me Blake, so my newsletter is "safe" from being thrown in the trash.

Your comment about me being a victim. I would love for you to be able to qualify that.. I use my blog to vent, talk things out and share my heart.BUT . If you looked at my actual life, the things I have gone though that you KNOW NOTHING ABOUT and the things that I HAVE OVERCOME I think you would find I have nothing but a victory mentality.. I have made my life very successful in spite of anything I had to deal with...usually statistically a victim doesn't.. Again I didn't think my posts where making me come across that way, this is the first time I heard of this...and I am not really sure I care.. but maybe I do.. I will have to think about it

So again, thanks for you input. Glad you don't work with me so my paper is safe, and luckily for me, what I wrote seems to be a huge success, but even if it was not. It would be okay with me. What I wrote on here was very raw.. and I stated myself IT NEEDS WORK..

I came here for input from people who know what it is like to be a patient..Good bad or indifferent.. THough I think downright rudeness is uncalled for, I also realize on the internet you deal with all different types of people...

.I really am glad you have had so much success in your health care. I hope it continues. but in the event that one day you are laying cold, half dressedand short of breath on a stretcher.. maybe then you will understand what Iwas trying to convey.. and why I think it is important for health care workers to be sensitive.

Jennifer

 

[JennifersHope]

Thank you for you input Blake, I will take into consideration what you are saying.

I will state it again.. The point of this project is to make Healthcare workers in the emergency room more aware of the patients needs. It wasn't about my experience in the emergency room.and I apologize if I can across the wrong way. I did state in my orginal post I didn't mean to be rude.. I love the staff I work with and that is why I fought so hard to work there... I think they are great. I have received nothing but wonderful care in the emergency room. What I wrote was writen from a pile of thoughts that I got after talking to patients in the ER and after working there for 5 years.

I am glad you have such as you say " a big mouth" That is good that you can say what you want, and have no trouble with that. NOT EVERYONE can. when I was your age I was not able to.

The point of the project is to make them aware. THankfully you don't work with me Blake, so my newsletter is "safe" from being thrown in the trash.

Your comment about me being a victim. I would love for you to be able to qualify that.. I use my blog to vent, talk things out and share my heart.BUT . If you looked at my actual life, the things I have gone though that you KNOW NOTHING ABOUT and the things that I HAVE OVERCOME I think you would find I have nothing but a victory mentality.. I have made my life very successful in spite of anything I had to deal with...usually statistically a victim doesn't.. Again I didn't think my posts where making me come across that way, this is the first time I heard of this...and I am not really sure I care.. but maybe I do.. I will have to think about it

So again, thanks for you input. Glad you don't work with me so my paper is safe, and luckily for me, what I wrote seems to be a huge success, but even if it was not. It would be okay with me. What I wrote on here was very raw.. and I stated myself IT NEEDS WORK..

I came here for input from people who know what it is like to be a patient..Good bad or indifferent.. THough I think downright rudeness is uncalled for, I also realize on the internet you deal with all different types of people...

.I really am glad you have had so much success in your health care. I hope it continues. but in the event that one day you are laying cold, half dressedand short of breath on a stretcher.. maybe then you will understand what Iwas trying to convey.. and why I think it is important for health care workers to be sensitive.

Jennifer

 

[sue35]

Wow! I can't believe someone would be so blantly rude for no reason. Blake your message would have gotten across the same way (and in fact better) if you didn't include the little victim jab. I just don't see the reason to be rude. You can be blunt but being senselessly rude is just immature, in my opinion

 

[sue35]

Wow! I can't believe someone would be so blantly rude for no reason. Blake your message would have gotten across the same way (and in fact better) if you didn't include the little victim jab. I just don't see the reason to be rude. You can be blunt but being senselessly rude is just immature, in my opinion

 

[sue35]

Wow! I can't believe someone would be so blantly rude for no reason. Blake your message would have gotten across the same way (and in fact better) if you didn't include the little victim jab. I just don't see the reason to be rude. You can be blunt but being senselessly rude is just immature, in my opinion

 

[Seana30]

Jennifer,

I think it is wonderful what you are doing!!!

I have been on ALL 3 sides of the bed. I have been the healthcare provider, I have been in the bed myself, and I have been the parent who is standing by the bed worried about my child.

As a healthcare provider I have stood next to family members as a their loved one passed away, I have had to be harsh to a parent who would not move out of the way and let me take care of their child, and I have taken care of patients who were really sick and had no family around.

With all of this situations I believe I was a better EMT by always treating these people like they were one of my family members. With each patient I would look them in the face and say "how would I want this person treated if it was my daughter/son/husband/mother/father/etc."

My personal beliefs are if all healthcare providers would think this way there would be less mistakes, better healthcare, and much happier patients.

Lightnlife says they have better things to do than worry about the patient being lonely, scared, etc. BULL.......this is what they make the big bucks for! If you are a good healthcare provider you take EVERYTHING into consideration. Emotionally AND physically.

I wish you all the luck with this project!!! I hope you will share it with us once you are done.

Seana

 

[Seana30]

Jennifer,

I think it is wonderful what you are doing!!!

I have been on ALL 3 sides of the bed. I have been the healthcare provider, I have been in the bed myself, and I have been the parent who is standing by the bed worried about my child.

As a healthcare provider I have stood next to family members as a their loved one passed away, I have had to be harsh to a parent who would not move out of the way and let me take care of their child, and I have taken care of patients who were really sick and had no family around.

With all of this situations I believe I was a better EMT by always treating these people like they were one of my family members. With each patient I would look them in the face and say "how would I want this person treated if it was my daughter/son/husband/mother/father/etc."

My personal beliefs are if all healthcare providers would think this way there would be less mistakes, better healthcare, and much happier patients.

Lightnlife says they have better things to do than worry about the patient being lonely, scared, etc. BULL.......this is what they make the big bucks for! If you are a good healthcare provider you take EVERYTHING into consideration. Emotionally AND physically.

I wish you all the luck with this project!!! I hope you will share it with us once you are done.

Seana

 

[Seana30]

Jennifer,

I think it is wonderful what you are doing!!!

I have been on ALL 3 sides of the bed. I have been the healthcare provider, I have been in the bed myself, and I have been the parent who is standing by the bed worried about my child.

As a healthcare provider I have stood next to family members as a their loved one passed away, I have had to be harsh to a parent who would not move out of the way and let me take care of their child, and I have taken care of patients who were really sick and had no family around.

With all of this situations I believe I was a better EMT by always treating these people like they were one of my family members. With each patient I would look them in the face and say "how would I want this person treated if it was my daughter/son/husband/mother/father/etc."

My personal beliefs are if all healthcare providers would think this way there would be less mistakes, better healthcare, and much happier patients.

Lightnlife says they have better things to do than worry about the patient being lonely, scared, etc. BULL.......this is what they make the big bucks for! If you are a good healthcare provider you take EVERYTHING into consideration. Emotionally AND physically.

I wish you all the luck with this project!!! I hope you will share it with us once you are done.

Seana

 

[Seana30]

I feel SOOO stongly on this issue I am going to print a portion of a letter I wrote to my supervisors when I was an EMT.

This is what I wrote....................................


My personal feeling is, if Louis does not have a very strong basic or intermediate working with him he does not know what to do. Louis has been with this company for awhile, and still cannot remember when entering an elevator, you always put the patient in head first. On July 17, 2004 I had to correct him on this matter twice. I feel, due to the fact Louis is in school to become a PA, it is more important to him to see if he can diagnose the patient rather than following proper procedures, work together with his partner or having ANY type of bedside manner. One of the calls we took on July 17, 2004 was a 10 year old boy who was being transported from Sierra to Providence. The young man was VERY frightened, and kept asking me if his mom could stay with him. I told him his mother would be there every step of the way, and I tried to keep him calm and comfortable. The young man's mother was overweight, and could not walk very fast. Although I know time is of the essence in this business, with this young man I felt it was important he be able to see his mother as we were transporting him to the pediatric unit. Louis was walking at the front of the stretcher, and kept pulling the stretcher so I would walk faster. I refused to and even brought the stretcher to a stop at one point so the mother could catch up to us.

WHAT KIND OF HEALTHCARE PROVIDERS ARE WE IF WE DO NOT CARE HOW THE PATIENT IS FEELING EMOTIONALLY?!?!?!?!?!? THIS IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS WHAT IS HAPPENING PHYSICALLY!!

One time while I was having a panic attack I checked my BP and heartrate.

My blood pressure was a whopping 200/160 and my heart rate was 170. If you think emotions do not affect you physically you are sorely mistaken!!

Seana

 

[Seana30]

I feel SOOO stongly on this issue I am going to print a portion of a letter I wrote to my supervisors when I was an EMT.

This is what I wrote....................................


My personal feeling is, if Louis does not have a very strong basic or intermediate working with him he does not know what to do. Louis has been with this company for awhile, and still cannot remember when entering an elevator, you always put the patient in head first. On July 17, 2004 I had to correct him on this matter twice. I feel, due to the fact Louis is in school to become a PA, it is more important to him to see if he can diagnose the patient rather than following proper procedures, work together with his partner or having ANY type of bedside manner. One of the calls we took on July 17, 2004 was a 10 year old boy who was being transported from Sierra to Providence. The young man was VERY frightened, and kept asking me if his mom could stay with him. I told him his mother would be there every step of the way, and I tried to keep him calm and comfortable. The young man's mother was overweight, and could not walk very fast. Although I know time is of the essence in this business, with this young man I felt it was important he be able to see his mother as we were transporting him to the pediatric unit. Louis was walking at the front of the stretcher, and kept pulling the stretcher so I would walk faster. I refused to and even brought the stretcher to a stop at one point so the mother could catch up to us.

WHAT KIND OF HEALTHCARE PROVIDERS ARE WE IF WE DO NOT CARE HOW THE PATIENT IS FEELING EMOTIONALLY?!?!?!?!?!? THIS IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS WHAT IS HAPPENING PHYSICALLY!!

One time while I was having a panic attack I checked my BP and heartrate.

My blood pressure was a whopping 200/160 and my heart rate was 170. If you think emotions do not affect you physically you are sorely mistaken!!

Seana

 

[Seana30]

I feel SOOO stongly on this issue I am going to print a portion of a letter I wrote to my supervisors when I was an EMT.

This is what I wrote....................................


My personal feeling is, if Louis does not have a very strong basic or intermediate working with him he does not know what to do. Louis has been with this company for awhile, and still cannot remember when entering an elevator, you always put the patient in head first. On July 17, 2004 I had to correct him on this matter twice. I feel, due to the fact Louis is in school to become a PA, it is more important to him to see if he can diagnose the patient rather than following proper procedures, work together with his partner or having ANY type of bedside manner. One of the calls we took on July 17, 2004 was a 10 year old boy who was being transported from Sierra to Providence. The young man was VERY frightened, and kept asking me if his mom could stay with him. I told him his mother would be there every step of the way, and I tried to keep him calm and comfortable. The young man's mother was overweight, and could not walk very fast. Although I know time is of the essence in this business, with this young man I felt it was important he be able to see his mother as we were transporting him to the pediatric unit. Louis was walking at the front of the stretcher, and kept pulling the stretcher so I would walk faster. I refused to and even brought the stretcher to a stop at one point so the mother could catch up to us.

WHAT KIND OF HEALTHCARE PROVIDERS ARE WE IF WE DO NOT CARE HOW THE PATIENT IS FEELING EMOTIONALLY?!?!?!?!?!? THIS IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS WHAT IS HAPPENING PHYSICALLY!!

One time while I was having a panic attack I checked my BP and heartrate.

My blood pressure was a whopping 200/160 and my heart rate was 170. If you think emotions do not affect you physically you are sorely mistaken!!

Seana

 

[Emily65Roses]

Emotions are incredibly important. Doctors and nurses should certainly keep track, ask how you're feeling, etc.

I just don't think it's the ER doctors and nurses' jobs to keep us company if we're lonely. They <b>do</b> have other patients to see. *shrug*

 

[Emily65Roses]

Emotions are incredibly important. Doctors and nurses should certainly keep track, ask how you're feeling, etc.

I just don't think it's the ER doctors and nurses' jobs to keep us company if we're lonely. They <b>do</b> have other patients to see. *shrug*

 

[Emily65Roses]

Emotions are incredibly important. Doctors and nurses should certainly keep track, ask how you're feeling, etc.

I just don't think it's the ER doctors and nurses' jobs to keep us company if we're lonely. They <b>do</b> have other patients to see. *shrug*

 

[sue35]

I think advice either way is important. I think it was rude what was put in paratheses. I got confused how saying "(as usual)" was helpful. That was the rude part.

 

[sue35]

I think advice either way is important. I think it was rude what was put in paratheses. I got confused how saying "(as usual)" was helpful. That was the rude part.

 

[sue35]

I think advice either way is important. I think it was rude what was put in paratheses. I got confused how saying "(as usual)" was helpful. That was the rude part.

 

[lightNlife]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Blake</b></i>

It's not a matter of can and cannot, it's a matter of will or will not. Age doesn't matter, I learned this at a very young age.

I don't see where I was rude? She asked for advice, and got it. Maybe if people don't want to hear certain things, they should say "I need advice, but only the advice I want to hear" and then explain what they'd like you type so that we can know.

I also, for the most part, respond to people the way they themselves communicate. It's a habit from working with a lot of people on my day to day basis, if someone communicates softly, I usually do not get overbearing with them, etc. Jennifer has spoken to me in ways I will never forget, so I am communicating with her on her level. If you can't take it, don't dish it.</end quote></div>


Good point, Blake. A lot of people on here like to throw out the "you don't know what I've been through to get me here" card and it's annoying. I saw nothing wrong with your response. I too would have trashed the newsletter. I put a lot of things in the round file that aren't well written or are penned with the martyr attitude.

As far as the victim thing, being a victim is not just a one-time event. When a person continues to claim hardship or trouble because of a single incident of victimization, they they are what is referred to as a perpetual victim.

Many CFers do that. CF is the initial victimizing event (as though having CF actually sought us out to harm us...lol) and everything difficult that happens that is CF related serves as perpetual victimization. People who really have, as they believe, come through so much, forget that when you come through something you don't look back on it and keep remembering how lousy it was.

 

[lightNlife]

<div class="FTQUOTE"><begin quote><i>Originally posted by: <b>Blake</b></i>

It's not a matter of can and cannot, it's a matter of will or will not. Age doesn't matter, I learned this at a very young age.

I don't see where I was rude? She asked for advice, and got it. Maybe if people don't want to hear certain things, they should say "I need advice, but only the advice I want to hear" and then explain what they'd like you type so that we can know.

I also, for the most part, respond to people the way they themselves communicate. It's a habit from working with a lot of people on my day to day basis, if someone communicates softly, I usually do not get overbearing with them, etc. Jennifer has spoken to me in ways I will never forget, so I am communicating with her on her level. If you can't take it, don't dish it.</end quote></div>


Good point, Blake. A lot of people on here like to throw out the "you don't know what I've been through to get me here" card and it's annoying. I saw nothing wrong with your response. I too would have trashed the newsletter. I put a lot of things in the round file that aren't well written or are penned with the martyr attitude.

As far as the victim thing, being a victim is not just a one-time event. When a person continues to claim hardship or trouble because of a single incident of victimization, they they are what is referred to as a perpetual victim.

Many CFers do that. CF is the initial victimizing event (as though having CF actually sought us out to harm us...lol) and everything difficult that happens that is CF related serves as perpetual victimization. People who really have, as they believe, come through so much, forget that when you come through something you don't look back on it and keep remembering how lousy it was.