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I'm No Scrooge, But Here's What Irks Me

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rebekahphillips

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I do believe in GOD and that gives my hope, happiness and healing. I have friends that are involved in 3 churches and they got on their knees when the doctors talked to me about having a double lung transplant a year and 2 months ago. My lung functions were very close to were I needed to get more aggressive so I wouldn't be on the transplant list. I told the church I was working in, my friends at my church, and my parents church. Everyone prayed that I would get better and I did. My lungs went up two percent and my doctors were shocked that they went up instead of going down like it normally does for everyone who is in that situation. I haven't had to worry about that every since. This is to big to be a coiencidence.
I do agree that people don't know what to say and that they imply that it was there fault. It was their time to die. I know it's hard. For me, knowing that people who choose to have a chance to spend a pleasant enterity with God gives me comfort I will see them again.
 
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rebekahphillips

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I do believe in GOD and that gives my hope, happiness and healing. I have friends that are involved in 3 churches and they got on their knees when the doctors talked to me about having a double lung transplant a year and 2 months ago. My lung functions were very close to were I needed to get more aggressive so I wouldn't be on the transplant list. I told the church I was working in, my friends at my church, and my parents church. Everyone prayed that I would get better and I did. My lungs went up two percent and my doctors were shocked that they went up instead of going down like it normally does for everyone who is in that situation. I haven't had to worry about that every since. This is to big to be a coiencidence.
I do agree that people don't know what to say and that they imply that it was there fault. It was their time to die. I know it's hard. For me, knowing that people who choose to have a chance to spend a pleasant enterity with God gives me comfort I will see them again.
 
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anonymous

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You can defend yourselves all you want, but the fact remains that I was jumped on once because I asked a question... you specifically Emily65Roses took it as an accusation, which is very sad, becuase you didn't even ask me to clarify or explain my reasoning for asking something.

Again, if someone asks a question you think might be hurtfull first ask what they meant so that you fully understand their intentions before you go jump down their throat. I thought you were my friend at one point. Since you created this tread about what buggs you I thought I'd share my feelings with you on something you are very quilty of doing. If you can't remember any such thing you might want to think real hard, or go in the archives and find what it is that I'm talking about.

Another very important thing to remember is that people express things differently. Speach patterns are different, and different words are used by different peopel. Everyone also perceives things differently... so while one person might understand the question or statement another might not, and therefore completely missed the meaning. When this happens people strike back at something that isn't there at all. If you read something and feel it is hurtful, ask for clarification before you attack. None of you who attacked me, including you Emily65Roses, ever asked for clairification, and the only reason why I call you on it is because you are the one who started this thread; but there were several others right along with you.
 
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anonymous

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You can defend yourselves all you want, but the fact remains that I was jumped on once because I asked a question... you specifically Emily65Roses took it as an accusation, which is very sad, becuase you didn't even ask me to clarify or explain my reasoning for asking something.

Again, if someone asks a question you think might be hurtfull first ask what they meant so that you fully understand their intentions before you go jump down their throat. I thought you were my friend at one point. Since you created this tread about what buggs you I thought I'd share my feelings with you on something you are very quilty of doing. If you can't remember any such thing you might want to think real hard, or go in the archives and find what it is that I'm talking about.

Another very important thing to remember is that people express things differently. Speach patterns are different, and different words are used by different peopel. Everyone also perceives things differently... so while one person might understand the question or statement another might not, and therefore completely missed the meaning. When this happens people strike back at something that isn't there at all. If you read something and feel it is hurtful, ask for clarification before you attack. None of you who attacked me, including you Emily65Roses, ever asked for clairification, and the only reason why I call you on it is because you are the one who started this thread; but there were several others right along with you.
 
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Allie

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I don't think anyone has ever been condemned for asking an honest question....I could be wrong, but I just don't think so.

The God thing raises issues because people who believe in God, pray, etc. Also end up dead (my husband for example). ANd sometimes, not always, but sometimes it seems as if people are saying "If you oly you prayed, if only you believed in God" Which isn't true. Believing in God gives me peace as well, but I don't bandy it about as a cure for the common cold or anything.
 
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Allie

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I don't think anyone has ever been condemned for asking an honest question....I could be wrong, but I just don't think so.

The God thing raises issues because people who believe in God, pray, etc. Also end up dead (my husband for example). ANd sometimes, not always, but sometimes it seems as if people are saying "If you oly you prayed, if only you believed in God" Which isn't true. Believing in God gives me peace as well, but I don't bandy it about as a cure for the common cold or anything.
 
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miesl

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<blockquote>Quote<br><hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>Anonymous</b></i><br>go in the archives and find what it is that I'm talking about.<hr></blockquote>

Funny, we might actually do that if you had the sense to leave a name.
 
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miesl

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<blockquote>Quote<br><hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>Anonymous</b></i><br>go in the archives and find what it is that I'm talking about.<hr></blockquote>

Funny, we might actually do that if you had the sense to leave a name.
 
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Allie

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Really? Odd. Emily and I joke that at least Ry had the common decency to die on Cinco de Mayo, so I can spend the day drinking half-price Margaritas.
 
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Allie

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Really? Odd. Emily and I joke that at least Ry had the common decency to die on Cinco de Mayo, so I can spend the day drinking half-price Margaritas.
 
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littledebbie

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<blockquote>Quote<br><hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>Anonymous</b></i><br>You can defend yourselves all you want, but the fact remains that I was jumped on once because I asked a question... you specifically Emily65Roses took it as an accusation, which is very sad, becuase you didn't even ask me to clarify or explain my reasoning for asking something.
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Usually when I can tell someone has mis-interperted my meaning I go ahead a clarify it, and don't feel the need to wait for an invitation to do so. Like it has been mentioned, e-mail is not the same as a conversation where you can hear voice inflection and see facial expressions, it is easy to be misunderstood. Knowing that we have to pretty much take it upon ourselves to make sure our true sentiment was communicated. I don't think it's realistic to think anyone is going to ask you to expand on your ideas if they mistook them as offensive. You may be on your own to take the bull by the horn on that.
 
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littledebbie

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<blockquote>Quote<br><hr><i>Originally posted by: <b>Anonymous</b></i><br>You can defend yourselves all you want, but the fact remains that I was jumped on once because I asked a question... you specifically Emily65Roses took it as an accusation, which is very sad, becuase you didn't even ask me to clarify or explain my reasoning for asking something.
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Usually when I can tell someone has mis-interperted my meaning I go ahead a clarify it, and don't feel the need to wait for an invitation to do so. Like it has been mentioned, e-mail is not the same as a conversation where you can hear voice inflection and see facial expressions, it is easy to be misunderstood. Knowing that we have to pretty much take it upon ourselves to make sure our true sentiment was communicated. I don't think it's realistic to think anyone is going to ask you to expand on your ideas if they mistook them as offensive. You may be on your own to take the bull by the horn on that.
 
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Emily65Roses

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<blockquote>Quote<br><hr>I thought you were my friend at one point. Since you created this tread about what buggs you I thought I'd share my feelings with you on something you are very quilty of doing.<hr></blockquote>

If you signed a name and I knew who you were, I might care. But since you are currently nameless, I couldn't quite care less.
 
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Emily65Roses

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<blockquote>Quote<br><hr>I thought you were my friend at one point. Since you created this tread about what buggs you I thought I'd share my feelings with you on something you are very quilty of doing.<hr></blockquote>

If you signed a name and I knew who you were, I might care. But since you are currently nameless, I couldn't quite care less.
 
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Emily65Roses

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Oh and...
<blockquote>Quote<br><hr>Another very important thing to remember is that people express things differently. Speach patterns are different, and different words are used by different peopel. <hr></blockquote>

If I asked every single person I talked to 12 times exactly what they meant, to elaborate, and to rephrase 5 times, I'd be talking 24 hours a day. And I KNOW that is not something any of us want. That's why when you say something, you should do your very best to make sure it says what you want it to say. Elaborate as much as you think is necessary to get your point across. Don't be vague and expect us to get PRECISELY what you mean.

I realize people have different speech patterns and such... but you know what, words still have definitions. So if you use a word, and I can find it in a dictionary, I'm going to assume you mean one of the results they give me. If you use it incorrectly, or in the wrong context, that's your problem. Not mine.
 
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Emily65Roses

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Oh and...
<blockquote>Quote<br><hr>Another very important thing to remember is that people express things differently. Speach patterns are different, and different words are used by different peopel. <hr></blockquote>

If I asked every single person I talked to 12 times exactly what they meant, to elaborate, and to rephrase 5 times, I'd be talking 24 hours a day. And I KNOW that is not something any of us want. That's why when you say something, you should do your very best to make sure it says what you want it to say. Elaborate as much as you think is necessary to get your point across. Don't be vague and expect us to get PRECISELY what you mean.

I realize people have different speech patterns and such... but you know what, words still have definitions. So if you use a word, and I can find it in a dictionary, I'm going to assume you mean one of the results they give me. If you use it incorrectly, or in the wrong context, that's your problem. Not mine.
 
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